I’ve just started getting into online dating, and have a few questions…
If you have other questions about online dating, please ask in the comments. I answer each one personally.
First, do you personally think that dating sites can work? If so, how can I find out what does and doesn’t work? Finally, what are some ways that I can really convey my personality when I’m not actually going to be meeting these people in person?
Being online and dating is definitely becoming more popular as we move on in time.
Facebook grows more popular by the day, and there are more people on the internet now than there have ever been before; so taking advantage of that technology can really spice up and increase the amount of dates that you’re going on. The reality is that a lot of the women on there are looking for dates, or even just sex, and we can use that to our advantage.
One of the main benefits of going online is definitely the ability to look at statistical information.
You see, we can look at the research that these huge social sites collate from people, and then use that to know what is and what isn’t working for us. There are three different ways in which we can do this.
- We can look at guys who are getting the most replies from women, and emulate some of what they’re doing.
- We can vary the images that we use and the way in which we present ourselves in our ‘About Me’ section.
- The third option would be to simply check out blog.OkCupid.com. It has amazing statistical information that can be used to your advantage.
How do you suggest that I present myself on there?
It seems like I just have this really small space to write a profile – and that’s it. How much do you think pictures help? How do I show myself off? How do I show my likes and dislikes, because I can’t just want to say, “Oh, hey, I’m smart, cool and funny – message me.”
It’s important that your ‘About Me’ section reflects you, but you can embellish it a little bit too.
You definitely want to come across as someone who’s positive, easygoing, and a bit of fun. People who say that they’re funny tend to not be funny. Instead, let that come across in the way that you present yourself. Anything that you have to point out is probably a sign that you’re not quite that sort of person.
Your greatest allies are your photos.
You want your photos to really show off your best attractive qualities. If you’ve gone and travelled to places, or you have interesting hobbies which can be attractive; then posting these things up can be really beneficial to making you stand out. Most guys are either posting photos of themselves with their shirts off, or riding their motorbikes. It’s important to recognize that these photos are very common and not necessarily the best for showing yourself off; nor the ones that will get you the best kind of response.
Indeed, if you check out that OkCupid blog, you’ll see that it actually decreases your chances of getting responses.
What you want to focus on is just showcasing yourself and different aspects of your life. Take advantage of your photos, and recognize that people will interpret that photo as a reflection of you. You don’t necessarily want to have too many photos of you with lots of women either, because that can come off as you trying too hard; but having photos where you’re having fun, doing a variety of things, and generally just showing the different aspects of your life can really make you stand out.
Knowing what to say on your profiles to get women turned on and ready to talk to you is important to your success.
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