Confidence is the biggest thing that attracts women and gets them into bed
How confident do you approach women?
The more comfortable you feel, the more comfortable she will feel.
But most guys have a big question… “How do I get comfortable?”
One of the most common mistakes guys will make is to not be patient enough with the learning process. They don’t realize that you do need to practice a lot. If I gave you a guitar, and you have never played a guitar before, you would naturally expect that it may take a little bit of time until you can play a song, right?
Confidence takes time.
You would know that you are going to learn a few chords here and there. You are going to forget a lot. You are going to need a little bit of help, but with time, you are going to make it work. I think sometimes guys don’t realize that to be the sort of guy that can go up to a random woman, start a conversation, and be really comfortable to the point where you make her feel comfortable around you, takes a fair bit of practice.
It takes literally dozens, if not well over a hundred different approaches to women, before you can start to get there. Especially for a guy who has never done it before, or who is naturally a little bit nervous. It takes time. You are going to make a lot of mistakes. You are going to feel really awkward. You might say something silly, but that is just part of the learning process.
Don’t worry about all the little details.
I would encourage guys not to worry about that stuff too much and to just focus on the length of the conversation. If for example, last week the conversations were dying out after about three minutes, aim for this week’s conversations to die out after about five. Look to gradually increase the amount of time it takes for you to feel nervous or for you to run out of things to say.
These are universal principles. If you want to learn how to do a long jump, you figure that you start at a certain point and the more you train, the longer you’ll be able to jump. It is the same with meeting girls. A lot of guys peter out after five seconds at the beginning and then don’t try again.
But if you persist, soon that five seconds becomes 30 seconds, becomes two minutes and then it becomes two hours. It can also be helpful for a guy to keep track of how long these conversations are going for and what he is doing that is causing them to stop, or what he is doing that is causing them to go longer.
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