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Facebook is a great social medium for dating. This site alone has well over 500 million users, and allows you the ability to stay in touch with friends and to meet new people easily.

I’m going to teach you how to use Facebook so that you can stay in touch with friends and meet girls daily. This will increase your chances to score more dates than you could have ever imagined.

Facebook is the perfect dating forum.

Facebook is almost better than getting a girl’s number after a night out on the town. After a night out, many times you come back empty handed. Facebook allows you to not only message girls, but you also get a chance to see what she’s about in her everyday life. You’re able to view her interests and make decisions on whether she’s worth asking out on a date. Facebook is the best FREE online dating service on the market.

It’s all in the details.

The best way to get a girl’s details when you’re on Facebook is to add her as a friend. You can always get her phone number later. Plus, if you’re out there meeting a lot of girls, Facebook allows you to keep track of the girls that you meet, and you are easily able to put a face to a name.

Ways to interact on Facebook.

When you’re on Facebook and you interact with girls, my recommendation is to keep your interactions short, sharp, flirty, and very playful. The primary intention should always be to get to them in person, but when you meet on Facebook, it’s just a great chance to build up attraction and the anticipation for her to meet you in person.

Just have fun with it. Send her a message or chat with her while you’re online. If you’ve already met in person and the interaction went well, then try to keep the momentum going by bringing in little things that you guys flirted about. If you teased her about something, then you can continue teasing her a little bit further on Facebook. It keeps the momentum from the initial interaction going.

Don’t become a Facebook stalker.

When you’re on Facebook, it’s very important that you don’t harass a girl who interests you. Once you’ve got her details, keep your interactions brief. You basically just want to meet her in person as soon as possible. The last thing you want to do is to come across as a stalker and turn her away. Once she unfriends you, you’ve lost the opportunity to chat any further.

Join special interest groups.

One way to meet like-minded girls is to get involved in special interest groups. You can look for girls that are in your local area and add them, and maybe send them a message saying, “Hey, I really liked your picture and I saw that you’re into the same things I am. Can you add me so that we can chat some time?” Having something in common with a girl is always a great way to start a conversation. This way you instantly have something to talk about.

Pay special attention to your profile: it’s your marketing strategy.

The key to using Facebook to your advantage is having a really kick-ass profile. Make sure you look at your profile like it’s a representation of yourself, because it is how other people will view you. It’s the first impression you make. Ensure that there are no offensive pictures there, because it will put you in a bad light.

Ensure that your hobbies, interests, career, and activities all represent you in the right way. Your Facebook profile must demonstrate the many sides of your character and represent you positively.

Girls, like you, judge people on their Facebook profiles, and your profile should be an indication of who you really are. If you are serious about using Facebook for dating, then you must make a great impression. Spend some quality time working up your profile.

It might help if you get female opinions so that you can get feedback from a girl’s point of view. You’ll get an objective view on what she thinks about your Facebook profile. She could give you ways to improve it so that you are more attractive to girls.

Enlist one of your female friends for help, because girls are really keen on Facebook etiquette. Many guys get laid using Facebook, so make yourself look the best that you possibly can.

Facebook is a great avenue for meeting more girls than you could possibly meet in a lifetime. Spend time on your profile so that you present yourself well and you’ll find that Facebook dating is a place where you can have your cake and eat it too!

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Every guy should have the experience of dating older women at least once in their life. Cougars are a great catch for a younger guy looking to increase his experience with women and increase his experience in his sex life.

Why are cougars such a great catch? Women who are cougars are older. They know themselves better because they have lived life and gained wisdom. They know where they’re going, and have probably seen and done just about everything imaginable.

They are also less likely to play games and screw with your head. Older women are way past drama in their lives and avoid it at all cost. Most importantly, they’re at their sexual peak, which means they’re usually hornier than you are and will make the sex the best you’ve ever had.

Does age matter in relationships? If you’re just in for the ride, then try riding an older woman. Have I caught your attention yet? I will give you some great pointers that will help you catch and keep a cougar in your life.

Pointer #1: Have great manners.

You want to make sure that you have great manners when dating older women. We’re not talking about saying yes ma’am as if you’re respecting your elders. Older women do not like being called ma’am. You’ll turn her off before you EVER get the chance to turn her on. Just make sure that you have your manners in check. This includes holding a door open, being polite, and refrain from swearing.

You’re going to have to up your level of maturity if you want to stand a chance with a cougar. Many older women find themselves back in the dating world after years of being married, and often are not into dating grandfatherly types. So, they are often looking for younger guys who can keep up with them, but be respectful and don’t act like some young punk.

Pointer #2: Compliment her.

Cougars love to be complimented. They’re probably at a stage in their life where their looks are starting to slip away and they’re going through their own personal identity crisis. They’re a lot more self-conscious about their appearance, so if you can talk about how beautiful her hair is, how gorgeous her smile is, how pretty her eyes are, your sweet talk will make her feel special and make her feel better about herself. This will ensure you’re catching her attention and desire.

Pointer #3: Learn how to stay harder for longer periods of time.

Cougars have an immense sex drive. Women hit their sexual peak well above 35, so she’s going to have some expectations that you’re going to be able to last and fulfill her sexually. Otherwise, she’ll move on to the next sweet young thing. It’s important that you try to stay hard as long as you can, and you can do this in a couple of ways.

One is by investing in a course on Tantric Sex Techniques or watch the Maxwell Method, which employs a bit of tantra and instructs you on how to achieve multiple orgasms. Make sure to stay fit and healthy, and ensure that you have enough rest in your life. This will increase your vitality and help you last longer in the bedroom.

Pointer #4: Have an interesting character and lifestyle.

Be as interesting as you possibly can. You not only want to impress a cougar with your youthful energy and youthful appearance, you also want to be able to keep her interested and stimulated mentally. Try being more of a well-rounded person.

You don’t want to be just a guy that spends all his day playing computer games in his room and not being socially active. You want to have a little bit more going on in your life. You want to be able to talk about interesting things you’ve got going on so that you can keep the conversation flowing and keep her interested and invested in you.

Pointer #5: Learn everything you can about older women.

Cougars can provide you with some of the best education you have ever had, not only about life in general, but also about life in the bedroom. When you sleep with a cougar, you’ll learn a lot about women and gain a lot of sexual confidence just by having a woman of experience that will have no qualms in telling you what she wants. She is not the least bit scared or shy to show you how to get her off.

This is all great advice to abide by if you decide to go for older women. You’ll have a better understanding and a more confident approach to gaining access to her life and her bedroom. Dating older women will be an experience you will never forget. Make sure you’re healthy and can handle her, because she can probably outlast you!

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Women are mysterious creatures and often leave guys wondering what the hell is going on. Women will never really tell you what they are feeling. But, if you can start gauging the conversation by her body language and the non-verbal signals that she sends out, you’re going to have a major advantage over every other guy.

Once you have the ability to interpret body language, then you will instantly know when the time is right to approach a woman, to kiss her, ask her out on a date, and have sex with her. So how can you tell whether a woman is attracted to you or not, simply by the body language communications that she sends?

Take note of the position of her body…

If you’re talking to a woman and her direction is faced towards the door or in another direction, generally it’s a good indication that she is closed off in her interaction with you.

This is not necessarily a bad thing. It just means at the moment you haven’t won her over. Try making her more comfortable and being more attractive, and you’ll notice that she’ll start to open up towards you and her body language will slowly shift your way. At this point, she is now focusing on the interaction between the two of you.

The more she opens up, the more she’ll become more receptive to what you have to say and her attraction will increase. Women start playing with themselves when they are attracted to you. I’m not talking sexually here, so get your mind out of the gutter for just a minute.

Women start fiddling with their hair or their jewelry, they start doing things with their hands. She will also start drawing attention to what she considers the sexiest of her most feminine parts. She might rest her fingers towards her chest or begin stroking her thighs, just to get your attention, but she does this in a very unconscious way.

Women will start touching you when they are interested in you, so if they are really into you they will not only talk but they might touch your shoulder, or touch your hair, or find any excuse to get closer to you.

Women mirror your actions when attracted…

Watch a girl’s body language closely. If she’s really attracted to you, she’ll start mirroring you in some way. If you lift your drink, she’ll soon be doing the same thing. If you’re crossing your legs or folding your arms, she will naturally follow your lead and do the exact same thing. Reading body language is very important if you truly want to understand women and have the success that you want when it comes to getting a woman to follow you home.

Her eyes speak volumes…

According to famous experts on the topic of chic romantic stories, the fast movement of the eyelashes is a sign of a woman who likes to conquer men on their own terms. Not only will women flutter their eyes, but they will also engage you with their eyes. They will maintain very strong eye contact in which you’ll be their primary focus and nothing else in the room matters to them.

Another signal to watch for with eye contact is their pupils. Biology tells us that when we like something or someone, our pupils expand and dilate. When we don’t like something, they contract. If her pupils are large, it’s probably a sign that she likes you or likes what you are saying. On the other hand, if the pupils are small or pointed, it’s probably a very bad sign.

Understanding body language is very important in your success with women!

If a woman notices you and is attracted to you, she may not have the courage to come up and to tell you directly, but she’ll give off signs showing that she wants to be approached. These may include subtle eye contact, it might be drawing close to you or bumping into you accidentally, or giving you a passing comment; just something that gives you permission to approach and engage her in conversation.

Reading female body language, and understanding unspoken cues is very important when it comes to success with women. Women are the queen of the unspoken and subtle language of flirting. Learn it well so that you aren’t left out in the cold because you missed the signs.

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When I look back on my dating experience, I see one main reason that caused me to lose really beautiful girls on first dates. It’s simply…

Not showing enough interest in a girl!

It might sound crazy, but in our modern world, odds are you’ve been taught that showing the true amount of attraction you feel towards a girl is the wrong thing to do. Maybe you think it’s not gentlemen-like, or that it’s frowned upon. A lot of that really has to do with our upbringing; be nice to a girl and treat her like a lady. If you came from a religious or traditionalist family, you might have also picked up such notions.

A lot of that stuff has almost been drilled into us. And while we have probably tried to change, it’s still something that prevents us from really displaying our true desire for a girl. Guys, on a first date you still need to be a gentleman and you still need to be respectful. But, at the same time, you need to show her that you’re definitely interested in her.

First dates are supposed to be your opportunity to demonstrate your desire for her.

If she doesn’t know that you’re interested in her, or she gets the feeling that she’s not turning you on in any kind of way, then she’s going to lose interest in you. She’s going to think that things probably won’t work out between you because you really don’t find her attractive, and she will run to another guy who isn’t afraid to show his sexual desires for her.

This is not something that you want. If you’ve asked her out, odds are you like this girl. So, don’t let that opportunity pass you by!

I want you to think of all the advice you’ve ever been given on dating… Remember it all. How you’re supposed to act on first dates, where you’re supposed to take her out. How a “true” gentleman pays for his date, and how making a move too early is wrong.

Remember it all? Maybe you’ve heard it from family, friends, or the TV. But here’s what I want you to do.

Forget it all!

It’s really important that you let go of all the vices that you might have been conditioned to believe. Own your intent for the girl and express your attraction towards her.

She’ll be extremely grateful to know what you’re thinking. Don’t be scared, and don’t hold back. If you really like her and if she’s really attracting you, then demonstrate that to her. Don’t expect her to make a move, because she probably won’t – that’s your job.

So, how can you show your interest in a girl?

#1 – The Compliment.

While there are many ways you can demonstrate your sexual desire and appreciation for her as a woman, none are easier than the compliment. Let her know how beautiful she is. If she’s got really bright, blue eyes, tell her. If she has a really friendly energy that draws you in, let her know. She can’t read your mind. You need to be able to communicate what you feel inside to her.

Tell the girl how you feel. For example, if she’s wearing a short dress and her legs are showing, tell her that dress is making you feel like doing really bad things to her. You really think she put that dress on for no reason? She probably chose it to turn you on. Show her it worked!

#2 – Eye Contact.

Another good way to show your interest in girls on first dates is by giving her the sexual eyes. By this, I mean gazing into her eyes and really keeping focused. Even when she has finished talking, hold that gaze. It really increases the sexual tension and lets her know what you’re feeling inside.

Try not to stare too much, though, as that might just creep her out, but the worst thing you can do is to look away and avert your gaze – that betrays a low self-confidence.

#3 – Touch her.

Constantly look for ways you can touch her. Whether it’s asking her to dance, leading her to a different place, sitting beside her and letting your leg touch hers, or allowing your shoulders to touch each other. Use absolutely any excuse you can to touch her. Touching separates sexual partners from mere conversational friends. You want to be the former, right? Because let’s face it, being in the friend zone sucks.

#4 – Do everything you can to escalate towards a kiss.

This is really critical. When you part ways at the end of a date, go in for the kiss. Be unapologetic. If you really like her enough, have the balls to go in and kiss her. What’s the worst that can happen?

If she says no or rejects it, it’s better to have tried and know that there’s nothing there, than to wonder about what-ifs. Given the amount of times I’ve taken it easy with girls and basically played it safe and ended up losing them, I can tell you it’s much worse than getting rejected for actually trying to escalate on them.

So, to sum up – be forward in your desires. Tell her how she makes you feel. Touch her, and escalate towards a kiss right on the first date.

If you want more advice, try out our Pandora’s Box. It’s a bulletproof system designed to give you the tools to handle any type of girl. It’s basically a hack into the female mind. Don’t miss out on the opportunity of a lifetime!

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Are you looking for ideas to implement into your sex life so that you can spice it up and give her mind-blowing sex? If you can learn to add to her sexual pleasure, then think about how much more enjoyable your sexual experience will be as well.

Tip #1: Smell nice.

Smell is one of the senses that really turn a woman on. Having a nice musky scent really appeals to a woman, so invest in a nice cologne if you really want to catch a woman’s attention and turn her on. It will be worth your while to go on a shopping spree with a couple of girls and get their opinion on some of their favorite scents. This will ensure you have the right one that smells good on you and, more importantly, it smells good to women.

Tip #2: Be spontaneous.

Don’t fall into the same mundane bedroom habits, because routine and boredom will not pleasure your woman for very long. Take the time to spice things up a bit. Maybe when you are out in public, take her to a secluded area and fuck the life out of her. Many times, just varying the place is enough to get the wild sex you both desire. Just the danger of possibly getting caught can be all the spontaneity that you need, and you’ll be glad you found it.

Tip #3: Kiss Her.

Kissing is a very intimate part of the sexual experience and women are all about intimacies. If you really want to spark her desire for you, you really need to keep the emotional level engaged.

If you don’t, she’s going to feel like she’s being used or she’s only a sexual object. When you kiss her, you are adding a connection with her on an emotional level that is something that all women understand. Women are very into emotional sex, so learn the art of kissing.

Tip #4: Tease her.

Teasing is a great foreplay technique when you’re on that initial stage of getting her worked up and wet with desire. I tend to just lightly touch or stroke her body, leaving her vagina out of the mix. Get as close as you can to her pussy and then move away. After a certain period of time she’ll be craving and begging for you to be inside her. Let her guide you to that special sweet spot of hers, and pound the hell out of her.

Tip #5: Dirty talk.

Dirty talking is something that women especially like to hear whispered in their ears. I must admit I found dirty talk to be difficult to do in the beginning, and it was something that I really had to practice and get used to.

It’s really not that difficult though. Dirty talk examples would be, “Do you want me inside you?” or, “Would you like it if I licked you right here, teasing you with my tongue?” Just tease her and tell her how much you want to fuck her, or tell her how much what she’s doing to you is really turning you on. Once you get started and see how hot she’s getting, you’ll find it easier to say those sweet nothings that all women love to hear.

Tip #6: Learn to dominate.

Really exert your maximum presence with her by dominating her and making her feel submissive. A way you can do this is by tying her up and gently manhandling her in a way that doesn’t hurt or threaten her. Women love to be lead, so let that tiger in your tank out and lead her where you want her to go.

Tip #7: Tie her up.

Women love playing a submissive role in the bedroom, and when you restrain her or tie her up, she gets a feeling of helplessness or being controlled by someone else. A good book to read that will give you insight is My Secret Garden” by Nancy Friday. It goes into detail on how women really love to be restrained and dominated by men. Word of warning: Before you do tie her up, make sure that you have her consent.

Tip #8: Use sex toys.

Sex toys are used to enhance a couples’ experience or for interesting bedroom experiments, and not limited to objects that you stick in a variety of orifices. While nothing will compare to your touch and your penis, sex toys can be used in your sexual routines to really keep things interesting and splash up your bedroom experience.

Tip #9: Create anticipation.

During the day, send her text messages telling her what you are going to do to her that night. Whisper in her ear what you’re really going to do right now, and build on that anticipation. It will increase your sexual experience like nothing you have ever seen. Women thrive on anticipating on what can and will happen in their future. Use this to your sexual advantage.

Tip #10: Let her know that you like what she’s doing.

Let her know that what she’s doing to you is something that you are really enjoying. If she’s going down on you or touching you in a special way, let her know how much it’s turning you on. Let her know that she’s touching the right spot or perhaps give her some direction if she’s not. Just help her out a little bit by letting her know that she’s pleasing you. Once you can learn to communicate your desires, she’ll desire to please you more.

Tip #11: Find Her Clit.

A vast majority of women require clitoris stimulation to achieve orgasm. Penetration is usually not enough on its own, so you need to spend some time really massaging and stimulating her clitoris.

If you’re having trouble finding her clitoris, ask her to show you. Tell her to grab your hand and put it where she wants it. She’ll be more than happy to show you because she knows how good it will make her feel.

Tip #12: Find her G-spot.

Getting a girl to orgasm from a G-spot is a very intense experience for her. It’s an intense orgasm that can often be very explosive and gives her amazing feelings, so you need to locate and master a woman’s G-spot. Knowing how to please a woman with your fingers will endear you to her heart.

First of all, face your partner while she is lying in her back and insert your index or long middle finger into her vagina as far as it will go. Then crook it up towards yourself in a calm and easy motion, sliding your fingertip along the top of her vagina until you find an area that is rougher than the rest of the vagina wall.

Make sure you have your fingernails clipped short before you do this. Sharp fingernails will definitely spoil the effort. The ruffled, slightly rigid area is the G-spot and touching it will often cause women to react with surprise and pleasure.

Tip #13: Go south of the border.

Really learning how to go down on a woman and lick her is such a beneficial tool to have, especially during foreplay. You can really get down there and get her stimulated almost to the point of orgasm before you stop. Some women like to be brought to orgasm this way, and like to be licked and fucked with your tongue.

After she comes, she’ll want you to put your cock in and fuck the hell out of her. Or, after she comes, she might just want to simply return the favor and go down on you. Either way, it’s a win-win situation.

Tip #14: Listen to her body.

Pay close attention to her breathing and the way her body moves. If you’re doing something that’s working, you’ll know by her body’s response, so keep doing what you’re doing. If it’s not working, change and experiment. Don’t be shy, ask her what you could be doing differently. This will keep the intensity going, but it’s really important that you learn to stay tuned to her body.

All these tips are different tools to add to your sexual toolbox. All of them may work, or just a few, but either way, experimenting is half the fun of sex to begin with, isn’t it? Any of these are guaranteed ways on how to please your woman and have her begging for more.

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Whether you want to know how to get a fuck buddy, or whether you’re wondering if such a casual relationship is your thing – I am here to help you out! Don’t you want to have regular sex with an incredibly hot girl, with NO STRINGS ATTACHED? Keep reading 😉

Just what is a fuck buddy?

A fuck buddy is a sexual partner with whom you have neither a relationship in the traditional sense, nor even an emotional connection. The idea is to keep things simple and just base the relationship on a physical exchange of sex.

A fuck buddy provides you with most of the benefits of a relationship, without all of the emotional baggage and problems. Fuck buddies have a mutual understanding that they both want sex, and nothing more.

Getting a fuck buddy can be a good idea if you’re…

  1. A guy who’s quite busy in his life and doesn’t have time for a commitment to a more serious kind of relationship. Not only will a fuck buddy never ask you to go to the movies or wonder why you came home late, but sex is also a great stress reliever.
  2. Just looking to expand your horizon and gain more sexual experiences.
  3. Or, perhaps you’re like me – content in being single most of the time, don’t need anyone’s validation, and only occasionally want the affection and intimacy of a girl.

If either of these three ring a bell, then getting a fuck buddy is the right thing to do. Now that we’ve talked about whether getting a fuck buddy is your kind of thing, how would you actually go about getting one?

Be clear about your intentions…

First, you have to tell the girl you are interested in that you want a fuck buddy. If you never tell her, don’t expect for her to magically guess your intentions and then offer you a deal – you have to be the one to initiate.

Now, if you’re not yet at that stage where a sexual relationship is feasible, but you’ve met a girl and it looks like she might be developing some attraction towards you, it’s important for you to be honest with her right from the start and tell her that you’re only looking for a physical relationship. This avoids any emotional pain down the road and prevents her from getting invested in you and getting her heart broken.

Escalate quickly, show your sexuality…

If you want to attract fuck buddies right from the start, you need to stop using your mouth so much when meeting girls. I’m not telling you to be quiet or anything, but if you want the relationship to be physical, then you’re going to have to tone down the conversational aspect of it and emphasize your sexual desires towards her.

By setting a very sexual framework for the casual relationship right from the start, you will show her that you’re a fun person to get physical with, and that you’re a potential fuck buddy for her. We have a whole series of articles designed for you to learn the various subtle escalation techniques.

For example, within the first few minutes of meeting a woman, you already want to be touching her. Not in an open and obvious way – just the ‘accidental’ touch of her elbow, or talk quietly in a loud environment so that you have the opportunity to brush up against her ear. She might not even realize, but on a subconscious level you’re already imprinting yourself in her mind as a potential sex partner – whether serious or casual.

Understand that a fuck buddy has no time for emotional attachments…

This is crucial, and you need to be prepared for this. If either one of you starts developing stronger emotions for each other, then you need to end the casual relationship right then and there.

Whenever you are in a casual relationship that doesn’t go beyond the physical, you need to leave your emotions by the door. Calling your fuck buddy late in the evening for a booty call is fine; asking them to go to dinner with your family is crossing a line. Get yourself a serious relationship if you want that.

Having a fuck buddy is great practice on a sexual level. If you haven’t had a lot of sexual experience, or perhaps you lack sexual confidence or experience with women in general, then having a fuck buddy is an exciting way to put yourself on the fast track to greater success with women. It’s one of the things I tend to suggest to guys I coach.

Fuck buddies are a great way to sharpen your skills because you have someone to practice on and you can experiment with different positions and techniques. But, the most important point I want you to take from this article is that when you’re creating a fuck buddy relationship – you need to properly set your boundaries.

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Do you want to know the main reason you and most other men constantly fail with women?

There are some major reasons why men fail in their dating life, and just knowing what these mistakes are will help you dramatically increase your dating success. Learn the biggest dating mistakes to ensure you keep the girl interested… and you never know, it could end in the bedroom!

If you have no idea about dating and just dive head first into meeting women, this is going to do wonders for your success. It’s going to help increase your awareness on what not to do so that you can enjoy more sex, better relationships, and overall better interactions with women. Avoiding these mistakes will also increase your confidence as you get used to positive reactions from females.

Take note of the below mistakes, and make sure they are eliminated forever from your dating life.

1. Being Too Available

Mistake number one is being too available. It’s a known fact that people want what they can’t have, and when they are sure they have it, they begin to lose interest. When you meet someone, you want to go down the dating path, but you want to ensure that you keep to your regular schedule in life and don’t be available whenever they need you. Do not call frequently, do not always answer your phone, and make sure you are still dating other girls. It’s important to learn how to initiate contact to ensure you do not come across too available or too needy.

2. Putting on an Act

When you feel like you have to put on an act, you’re really admitting to yourself that you are personally not good enough for her and have to put on an act to attract her.

You don’t want her falling for a person that’s not really your true self. She is eventually going to find the real you, if you date for a little while. Ensure that when you meet her, you show her your true self, and be totally honest with her. Let her fall for who you really are.

3. Not Taking the Lead

It’s really a guy’s job to play the masculine role in a dating life, so ensure that you take the lead. Men take the lead in everything from Salsa dancing to dangerous situations. You decide where you’ve got to go. Be the one who makes the plans. Be the decisive one. Display your masculine qualities to her.

4. Thinking Too Far Ahead

You can easily jeopardize a dating relationship by thinking too far ahead and imagining your future with her. It’s better to just be in the moment and enjoy what you have, initially, and let things evolve naturally.

5. Missing Her Signals

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a girl interested in me and I didn’t act on her interests, instead playing it safe. After a while, she lost interest and moved on to another guy who was going to give her what she desired. It’s important that you understand how girls communicate their interests and be very observant.

For instance, if a girl is constantly laughing at your jokes, if she’s giving you sustained eye contact, if she’s finding excuses to touch you, they are obvious signs that she’s interested in you, and she probably wants you to make a move at some point. I know, for a lot of guys that understand dating, this sounds like common sense stuff, but for me and many other guys, it was a total mystery.

6. Trying to Convince Her You Like Her

You can never change the way a woman feels, and you can’t talk her logically into wanting to be attracted to you. It’s something that she has to feel. If you want to be a more attractive guy, learn to push her attraction triggers.

A great way to learn to do this was reading The Attraction Code. It is a fantastic starting point to learn more about women, become a better dater, and improve your love and dating life. The Attraction Code really fixed a lot of issues that I was finding, like finding myself in the friend zone, not getting enough dates, and not really knowing how to interact and converse with women.

Be conscious and avoid these mistakes like the plague. You will see your dating game success increase and find yourself bringing more women home than you could ever imagine.

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Carlos Xuma is a dating and seduction coach and the author of The Dating Black Book.

His teachings are based on how to be more of an alpha male and displaying alpha characteristics in order to be more attractive to women. Just like men find women with big breasts and curves attractive, women find alpha males irresistible. There’s a magnetic quality that attracts women to fall for an alpha male.

The main characteristic that define an alpha male is CONFIDENCE.

He is aware of his demand, but never proves his superiority to those around. He is a leader amongst men. He is great company around women and he is an expert in handling every situation. He just has a natural confidence with women and life in general. Women can spot self-confidence in men from a mile away. They don’t even have to try to attract women, they just do naturally!

For a lot of guys that struggle with women, a common characteristic is the fact that these guys have been brought up by their mothers or brought up to almost be ashamed of being a man who is masculine. Too many guys are being brought up in this almost metro-sexual world of being effeminate, too scared to get their hands dirty or tell women how they really feel.

We’re too busy on our laptops, putting moisturizer on our face, and going out and hoping that just by being nice to women will get us noticed. If you live by these dating dynamics, you will be unattractive and unsuccessful with women. What will make you more successful and attractive is being more of an alpha male. So, how do you become an alpha male?

First, get rid of any beta male qualities….

These are certain traits and mannerisms of a beta male. Examples of these are folding your arms, being restless, dropping your shoulders, hands in pockets, hesitating, constant fiddling, and not being sure of yourself. They are all very unattractive qualities that are very anti-alpha. They show that you are unsure of yourself and the world around you.

Second, confidence is a huge magnet which attracts all women….

True confidence is displayed by your body language, the way you present yourself, or scripts that you could memorize when talking to women.

Real confidence should come from within. It comes from pushing past your comfort zone in many areas of your life such as work, fitness, or hobbies. It could be just getting out there and chatting to hotter women on weekends. Anything that requires you to push past your fears will add to your level of confidence in life.

Confidence also comes from knowledge. When you are knowledgeable, you are comfortable in most situations. When you’re going out and approaching women, the more knowledge you have on how to attract women and female psychology, the more you’ll put yourself out there in a club environment.

You won’t fear approaching women and interacting with them, and you will exude self-confidence. Most of the time, those hot babes will be the ones who approach you, because they will be attracted by the confidence of your body language.

Third, show leadership qualities….

Women love leaders and they love a guy that can make decisions and who’s decisive in his actions. Try as much as possible in life to take on more of a leadership role. You can do it in various ways. It could be at work and leading the way in terms of your job, or applying for the management position in your company.

It could be on the weekends and being the guy that decides where to go, what to do, and leads the group in many ways. When you’re on dates, always be a step ahead and lead her. Don’t be indecisive. Lead the way from start to end because indecisiveness and wishy-washy behavior are very unattractive traits and very anti-alpha.

Do something really ballsy. Do something that requires taking a risk. Alpha males are not scared to live on the edge. It might be changing careers, leaving a job you hate, climbing a massive mountain, jumping out of an airplane, or getting up in front of thousands of people and talking. Anything that requires the balls and guts to do it. This is very alpha, attractive, and will also help your level of confidence.

Research Carlos Xuma and The Dating Black Book. His website, carlosxuma.com offers a wealth of information on dating tips for guys and how to up your game. His advice is almost as good as mine, but not quite.

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How important is being part of a specific “social group”? Meaning, does your clique really matter?

Social circles should be a part of your life for a number of reasons. You can never have too many friends. Belonging to different social groups allows you to be invited to more parties, go out with a group of people, and meet different types of people.

Social groups are also a great way to meet girls, because rather than cold approaching, you are able to get introduced personally, which is a lot easier than just going up to a stranger and trying to initiate a conversation.

So, how do you expand your social circles? I have a few tips for you to follow that will help you in your quest in how to meet more people and make new friends.

Tip #1: Learn to be the initiator.

People generally are lazy in nature. In this day and age, it’s harder to keep in touch with friends the busier our lives become. You must learn to be the guy that makes an effort to stay in touch with people and plan events and parties. Invite your co-workers, and have them invite their friends as well. Use what friends you have, and get them to invite their friends. Get your party on!

Tip #2: Always give more than you take.

If you are in a social situation, you want to add as much value to that group as possible. Whether it is providing the music to functions, being the cool guy to hang with, or facilitating events at your place, find a way to add value to that group.

People do not want value takers; they want value makers. People do not like to hang around value takers. Value takers eventually suck the life out of people. Don’t be that guy. Think about what you can contribute to any social situation.

Tip #3: When building social circles, don’t just focus on specific groups.

Don’t just build your group around hot chicks or cool guys. I cannot even count the number of times I have been hooked up just by befriending people I thought were nerds or not really cool at all. You never know who that person knows and the type of friends that person hangs around. So, just be open more to all different types of people.

Building a social circle is not as time consuming as you may think. It is like the snowball effect, it builds a lot of momentum. You make one friend, and then he or she may introduce you to two or more who quickly become your friends. Before you know it, you are making new friends in ways that you would have never met otherwise.

Tip #4: Use social media forums.

The social circle game is much easier these days with the invention of social media. With online social groups, once you chat with strangers and befriend someone, like on Facebook, they generally do massive group invitations for people to go to a certain event or party. It sure is a lot easier to stay in touch with people and broaden your group of friends considerably using the social forums that are available online.

Be that guy that people love to hang around. Make people feel comfortable around you and add value wherever you go, and to the lives of the people you come into contact with. Being part of a social group adds life to your life, and that is very important to all of us. Friends help make life worth living!

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Do you feel young girls will find your age difference repulsive? Are you worried you won’t have anything in common with a younger girl? Do you think she might be embarrassed talking to you?

If you’re having trouble understanding what younger girls are looking for in a guy, then I’m going to guess that you probably have a strong limiting belief about your abilities to attract younger women in your life.

What I’m going to reveal to you today will totally shift your mindset and give you a new perspective on attracting younger girls. Because the issue was never with the age difference – but with your mindset!

Your own mindset is the only obstacle…

I’ve coached thousands of men across many different continents of the world. A lot of them are older guys. We’re talking about guys in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and I’ve even had some that are 60. My oldest student was 72. So, I know a lot about older guys and how they think.

About 80-90% of these guys don’t believe that they could pick up a young girl. Just like I showed them, I will show you, that by making a few crucial changes in your life, you can easily get younger girls attracted to you.

Step No. 1 – Focus on your mindset.

First of all, you need to really shift your mindset. If you start worrying about how a young girl thinks of you and start to internalize that you’re too old for younger girls, then she’s going to feel that, and she’s going to know that you feel uncomfortable. As a result, she’ll feel equally uncomfortable, and definitely not be attracted to you. You need to leave that fear and worry behind you.

I often crush my student’s negative beliefs by pushing them into interacting with girls that are almost half their age. They’re blown away by how the girl reacts to them. As soon as they see this, they start letting go of that negative mindset they’ve been holding – that this girl is going to find them repulsive or unattractive. They start to let their true personality shine. She won’t worry about your age difference unless you worry about it. And that’s one of the issues – you might be over-thinking and over-analyzing a girl’s response to you.

Step No. 2 – Regain your youthful energy.

Apart from just changing your mindset, it’s also important that you have more of a youthful energy about you. This could mean getting involved in sports. It could mean having more of an interest in the latest fashion or music and being more in touch with modern culture.

That doesn’t mean you should pretend to like a genre of music you don’t – but at least give it a chance. Having an open mind will really benefit you here.

Step No. 3 – Realize that you have many advantages.

Being older means that you have a lot more experience and a lot more knowledge, which separates you from most of the other guys this young girl has ever been with. The confidence you get from knowing how to please her in the bedroom, your life skills, and your experiences and exciting stories are going to naturally make her more attracted to you.

But, don’t stop here. If you want to learn more about how to attract a younger girl – better yet, to attract any girl, regardless of her age, appearance, or interests – then you want to check out Pandora’s Box.

Pandora’s Box will give you a unique insight into female psychology by breaking down the female personality into 8 different types. Once you know her particular type, you’ll know the right approach to take, how to tease her, how to flirt with her, and the right compliments to give her.

To be honest, you’ll have an almost unfair advantage over any other guy when you master Pandora’s Box.