Want to make a great impression on the first date? Then you should be prepared with some good questions to break the ice and start conversation on the first date! Here you’ll find some great advice to help you talk openly with your date and get to know them properly.
First dates fail for everyone sometimes!
Recently, a guy I know, who is normally quite good with ladies, had a date that left him flustered and confused. He was so convinced that this girl was his Mrs. Right and he was her Mr. Right and everything on the date just went smoothly and perfectly, but she never called back. He tried to contact her several times, but just got nothing. No response to his calls at all.
Then, after about maybe the tenth call, he finally got a response and she said that she thought he was really nice, but she found him a little boring.
So, maybe this is something that has happened to you. If so, I am going to outline some of the questions my friend and you could use to generate some memorable conversation during your first date.
Avoid generic questions!
First of all, to avoid the date going into the generic zone, you want to stay away from questions like, “What do you do for a living? What do you do for fun? Where did you grow up? Do you have any pets? What kind of music do you like?”
These are kind of interview style questions and just boring and generic. She’ll have heard them many times before. It’s good to know some of these things as you get to know your date, but don’t default to a stream of boring questions.
You need to encourage interaction – and statements can be better than questions for improving first date conversation. So, a statement could be something like, “I have a feeling you didn’t grow up around here. You kind of give me a bit more of a country girl vibe.”
Ask more obscure questions!
I keep some extra conversation-starters up my sleeve, in case conversation goes dry. You can try something like, “When you were little, what did you want to be when you grow up? What is the last really adventurous thing you’ve done. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? What was your absolute worst first date? What is the one thing you can’t say no to?”
These questions are great because they get her invested in the conversation and they give you an insight into her personality.