Authors Posts by Vin DiCarlo

Vin DiCarlo


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Satisfying a woman, making her feel comfortable and content, being competent in the bedroom and in other aspects of your relationship is all great; but if you want to really be memorable, irreplaceable, you have to learn to drive a woman wild, make her want you more than she’s ever wanted anyone or anything else, and make her forget every other guy out there besides you.

If you want to drive a woman wild, you must make sure you take care of her in every aspect of her life, and be a fantastic, dependable boyfriend or husband. Make her feel loved and appreciated, make her feel special, etc; in short, don’t do anything that would detract from her good feelings about you, or draw any negative associations with you in her head. However, once you have ensured that she is not distracted by other things, the key to knowing how to drive a woman wild starts in the bedroom.

The first thing you must do to drive a woman wild in the bedroom is be really, really good – at everything. Be a good kisser, both during moments of gentle intimacy and those of more passionate lust, be good at reading a woman’s body (some like certain parts to be kissed or touched – such as the neck, ears, nipples, etc – more than others), and be patient during foreplay. Of course, also, be great down there with your hands and your tongue, know how and when to tease her and when to give her what she wants, etc. Finally, make sure to have good stamina (train yourself through practice, through figuring out what positions allow you to last longer, how long you can go very hard before you have to stop and take a break to avoiding finishing early, etc) in bed, make sure to have a mastery of different positions, and make sure to have the strength necessary to give her what she wants and needs.

What has just been described is necessary, but it is not enough on its own. If you really want to drive a woman wild, you have to personalize the sex. This means a few different things. First of all, when you are facing her, make eye contact. Eye contact during sex is incredibly effective at driving the passion and making her go wild with lust and/or love for you. Look at her in any position in which you can, and whenever you withdraw from kissing her. The second thing to keep in mind are the things you say to her. Dirty talk is not necessary (though mastery of it can be extremely effective), but some communication certainly is.

Make sure to talk to her some, tell her how beautiful, sexy, and great she is, tell her what you really like and ask her what does it for her (and do it!). Call her by her name. Make her feel every bit as desired as she desires you. Finally, make sure you know what she likes. All women are different, and all women like different things in and out of the bedroom. Some like it rougher than others, some like different positions, some like dirty talk more or less, some like to take control and others prefer you to, etc. Observe her, talk to her and question her, and ask her what she likes and wants, etc. The secret to knowing how to drive a woman wild is to know everything you can about her, and what makes her go wild.

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Cute short sayings for girls can be an effective tool for attracting them, making them laugh, and making them feel special. They can absolutely make the difference between a girl falling for you or thinking she can do better. Examples of cute short sayings for girls range from those that are light, humorous, and even silly to ones that are genuine, passionate, and romantic.

The first thing to mention here is that obvious clichés should be avoided.

Anything about shooting for the moon so even if you miss you land among the stars, anything about falling from heaven or coming from heaven, etc, should never ever be used unless you are obviously trying to be ironic (and even then, you can do better.) These kinds of lines simply project a lack of confidence, and make you seem like you are not very creative. Instead, try for things that she has not heard before, and since making up lines can be tough, it’s okay to try variations of cute short sayings for girls that you have heard before.

Examples of cute short sayings for girls include more playful ones, such as:

“If you live to be one hundred, I want to die at ninety-nine, so I never have to live without you.” This should be said somewhat ironically and with a wry smile, but is an effective playful saying.

“You know I have to admit, if we stay together, you’re probably gonna get wrinkles pretty early on in your life… Cause I plan on making you smile a lot!” This is a very cute thing to say, and guaranteed not only to make her smile, but to put it in her head exactly how happy she is around you.

“If you think about me even close to as much as I think about you… You’re probably thinking about me right now.” This last one should also be said with a smile, but it truly walks the line between playful and genuinely sweet.

Similar to that would be one such as “I’m already with you, so I don’t want to be anywhere else in the world!… except maybe closer to you on the couch.” Again, this will make her smile, but it isn’t truly funny; rather it is simply sweet and charming.

A simply genuine example of cute short sayings for girls might be something like, “You know I know everything about you, your flaws and imperfections and quirks, and I still love you completely, I even love you more because of them.” This extremely effective example serves to illustrate the aforementioned goal of all these sayings, which is to make her feel special and appreciated.

Finally, there are examples of cute short sayings for girls that are specific to different situations. For example, if you are not with her at the moment and she tells you she is in bed, you might say something like, “I am so incredibly jealous of your pillow (/blanket/teddy bear, etc) right now.”

Or, if you are especially rich and buy her a nice car, for example, you might say something like, “Look, I know money doesn’t buy happiness, but if you ever want to cry – not that you would or anything – wouldn’t it be nicer to cry inside your new ______,” etc. These can often be the best sayings, because the more specific they are to a situation between you and her, the more personal they seem to her and the more special they therefore make her feel.

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What women want in a man is a very personalized trait; each woman has different things she is looking for, and different things she is attracted to in men, and furthermore, women will want different things in a man at different points of their individual lives. However, there are many tendencies regarding what women want in a man that are worth discussing and can be valuable towards understanding adult relationships and becoming better at them.

The best answers to the question of what women want in a man treat it as a two part problem. Women have both an idea of what they want in a man, and also things in men that attract them when they see him in person. The first aspect of this tends to be more relevant the older that they are (or to be more accurate, the later the stage of life they are in.)

How to attract women is a question that has been extremely well-documented. Women are attracted above all else to confidence, a complete absence of desperation, those who make them feel special, and a semblance of a style and look that is attractive to them. This means that, while of course it helps to be very attractive, tall, handsome, muscular, etc, it is far from necessary, and if you’re good enough with women you can overcome great deficiencies in those areas.

Some tricks to appearing confident are to maintain eye contact throughout conversation, to order drinks and speak to others around her with authority and poise, and to refrain from pressing them or trying too hard. Make her feel special by noticing very specific details about her, and remembering things she says, then talking about them. Finally, make sure you put at least a small bit of effort into your appearance. Don’t look like a slob. If you follow this advice, you will satisfy at least one important requirement of what women want in a man. While not sufficient in many cases, this is necessary for making her want you.

The second characteristic women want in a man is a more difficult one. Women at different stages of their lives value very different things. The younger girls value where you go to school, what interests you have, what level of status you have, etc, more than older ones, who care more about your personality, how well you treat them, your job, your plan for the future, etc. Women who want kids will look for qualities they believe make good fathers, such as emotional maturity, a good sense of humor, a steady source of income, etc.

All in all, women of all ages tend to like men with great senses of humor and confidence in themselves. At all ages these men are attractive and tend to be the ones with the greatest chance of success in making relationships last a long time (if they want to.) While women do fall for assholes too often, that is not what they truly want in a man and, therefore, relationships with them do not usually last as long (or are not as healthy.)

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There are many interesting places to have sex at. For many couples where to have sex can be an exciting question, one that offers the promise of added thrills to the sexual experience coming from doing it in a public (and therefore illegal) area, fulfilling personal fantasies, and doing it almost anywhere (and thus avoid having to wait to get home and ruin the mood.)

This promise is not without basis, and the merits of having sex in different locations are tangible for the sex lives of couples. However, when it really comes down to it, there is only one real, best answer to the question of where to have sex: the bed.

Sure, having sex in the office might satisfy your life-long dream of sweeping all your objects of the desk and taking someone right there in your place of work, or having sex in the car might be a great way to attain privacy from a party or a crowded home, or having sex in the library at the school might provide an added thrill stemming from the danger of getting caught.

However, these places – while they may have some benefits – all have one thing in common: they provide distinct limitations on the actual sex that stem directly from the location in which you are having it. If you have sex in your office or in the library, you have to be very quiet, you have to keep it short, and you can’t do it too roughly. If you do it on a desk or in your car it can not be extremely uncomfortable (especially on a small desk or in a small car) but it can also be limiting regarding the number of positions you can perform. Other locations, such as in a bathroom, the laundry room, on the floor, or at another person’s house all come with these same discomforts and limitations.

When it comes to where to have sex, therefore, there is nothing quite like doing it on the bed. Beds are extremely comfortable, they allow for as many positions as you can think of, and they make it easy to have adequate foreplay before the sex begins and to be able to cuddle and relax after it is over (something that women, especially, love to have as part of their sexual experience.) This does, however, come with its own question of what bed to do it on. There is, of course, a bed in your own private bedroom, but there are also beds in other rooms of the house, hotel rooms, guest rooms of friends’ houses, etc.

The best of these are the ones where you have the most privacy (just as it would be limiting to have to keep the sex quiet in, say, a library or office, it would be if your bedroom was next door to that of a family member for instance), and are found in the most romantic rooms (a bed in the middle of a sleazy motel room does not provide the same intimate setting for intercourse as does a nicely decorated one in your own home, for example.) If you do find a nice, comfortable bed in a private, beautiful room, there is no place better in the world to have sex.

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A good thing to say to a girl has to do with that girl specifically and should be as hard as possible to generalize towards any other woman that she knows or has heard of. Why is this? Because girls (and guys as well, although gender stereotypes can sometimes make it more difficult to see it in them) like to feel special, appreciated, and unique. They like to feel like somehow, they are better than others, and that things in the world happen more for their benefit than the benefit of others.

A good thing to say to a girl, if you want to make her like you, plays off this desire and makes her feel this way.So how do you figure out what to say in practice? The most important thing to do is to make sure that, when you are around her, you are always paying attention to her.

Remember little things she says about what she likes and dislikes, and what is important to her. Remember stories she tells and people she mentions (even her ex’s – even though you might want to block them from your mind completely.) Finally, pay attention to the little details of the way she acts, try to notice specific mannerisms she has or things she says that make her unique. If you pay careful attention to her in this way, the hardest work of finding a good thing to say to a girl, or many good things to say to a girl, is done.

From here, you just put your careful observations to practice. When you compliment her, use all the details that you picked up over your time with her to make them as specific as possible. Don’t simply tell her she’s beautiful, tell her what specifically about her is so attractive to you, and why. Don’t simply tell her things you like about the way she looks, tell her about things you love about what she does and the way she talks and acts. Mention things that you think fewer people have noticed, and things you think that few others would like. If she hears you talk about how much you love her quirks and flaws, she’ll know you think she’s incredibly special.

Finally, when you’re looking for a good thing to say to a girl, it should often come from something she’s told you specifically. If you want to tell her why you are doing something for her, tell her it’s because she previously told you this or that and you wanted to make her happy (and on a related note, if you are getting her a gift, getting her something she offhandedly mentioned wanting one time will make her elated.) If she asks you “remember when I told you about…” etc, you should always be able to say yes. If you do all of this, she will not only like and/or love you, but will also view you as unique, special, and irreplaceable.

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The definition of an “exclusive relationship” can be both very simple and very complex, depending on whose advice you take. Simply, it means that you and your girlfriend have agreed not to kiss, have sex with, or engage in other physically romantic activities with anyone else besides each other. In this way, “commitment” is essentially a “commitment of one’s body.” However, the definition of exclusive relationship touches on many more subtle gray areas, and also brings with it expectations that extend well beyond not hooking up with other people.

Some things are obviously not allowed in any exclusive relationships – hooking up with or having sex is the most obvious one. There are a few couples that are okay with allowing each other to make out with or kiss other people. I do not recommend this, as it is likely to lead to more problems than it is worth.

However there are much less obvious actions that some, in their definition of exclusive relationship, might think are okay and others might disagree. For example, giving massages to other girls, calling up ex’s, talking to other girls in party settings, flirting, and other things might seem perfectly harmless to you, but to her might seem like a violation of your committed relationship.

How do you keep these gray areas from leading to trouble? The key is to understand the definition of exclusive relationship in a more complex and dynamic way. Nobody is perfect, and everyone is human. You will, of course, be attracted to other girls, and you will probably make some mistakes regarding other girls during the course of your relationship. The most important thing is to constantly remind yourself what an exclusive relationship means in the fullest sense.

Beyond a pledge to take your physical talents off the market, the definition of exclusive relationship also contains many other dimensions that are implied. When you commit to a girl you are, in addition to committing your body, accepting the responsibility for a portion of her happiness and giving her power over a portion of yours. You are committing to be there for her when she needs you, being her friend as well as her lover, and going out of your way to avoid hurting her. Because of this extended definition of exclusive relationship, you must realize that even interactions with other girls that seem perfectly harmless to you might be seen by a girl as a violation of the commitment that you made to her. It is therefore not okay to do certain things beyond hooking up with other girls, if they make your girlfriend unhappy or uncomfortable.

Included in the more complex definition of exclusive relationship are expectations which, essentially, are the expectations of being a boyfriend. When you commit to her, you are committing to being her boyfriend. Try to remember that. Exclusivity should not be taken lightly. If you are not ready for it, tell her that you are not, and hope that she can understand that you want to wait. If not, then not only are you not ready, but you also might not be with the right girl.

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Learning how to flirt over AIM, or any form of text or online chat for that matter, is similar to learning how to flirt in general. The goal of hinting at romance or sex subtly and not implicitly is still very much the same.

However, knowing how to flirt over aim versus in person is in a large sense more limiting – as you cannot utilize control of your body language, your eyes, or your voice inflections, etc that are so important to flirting in person – but can also in a small sense give you the benefit of being able to flirt in a less personal, lower pressure setting where you are less likely to mess up your chances with a girl.

So how can learning how to flirt over AIM work to your advantage?

Learning to attract a girl inevitably involves learning how to project confidence to her. Sometimes, this can be a much more difficult and intimidating task in person than it can be behind a computer screen. It is more difficult to fake confidence in person then it is to fake it over chat. If you are the type of guy who thinks that once he has the opportunity with a girl he would know what to do, but is too nervous around women to give himself that opportunity, learning how to flirt over AIM can be invaluable to you.

How can you convey confidence over AIM?

The first thing to consider is your greeting. A simple “hey” or “what’s up?” type greeting is okay, but does nothing to make her want to keep talking to you. Instead, bring up something that she said earlier, question her about something; in short, make your greeting personalized.

This shows that you want to talk to her specifically, which makes her feel special (always a good thing!) This is also the greatest way to continue conveying confidence throughout your chat. Keep your comments personal. Ask her questions about what she says (though don’t be annoying.) Try to make her laugh through inside jokes, etc. This will make her want to keep talking to you.

Secondly, if you want to know how to flirt over AIM you have to read subtle cues and signs that she is giving you. If she is giving you short, one or two word replies to your questions, chances are she isn’t that into you, or at the very least not into chatting with you. If she isn’t responding for a long time, the same thing is true.

In these cases, don’t push it and keep nagging her. Wait for her to respond, or simply stop talking to her and perhaps try again another day. Unlike in a normal, face to face conversation, a conversation over chat is very easy to disengage from, and unless you have given her a very compelling, intriguing reason to keep talking to you, she might not be very into it.

A final note: cut out all cursing, vulgar language, and overt negativity over chat. They are signs of immaturity and a lack of confidence, and are not attractive.

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If you are looking for deep things to say to a girl as a way of introducing yourself and allowing her to get to know you, you are playing a dangerous game. While finding deep things to say to a girl might seem like a great way to impress her and attract her to you, it tends to make it more difficult for you to achieve what you want.

Saying these kinds of things to women off the bat tends to work against you by intimidating her and making her afraid to talk to you (so as not to appear dumb or boring), by making you seem vein or self-conscious – a truly confident man wouldn’t need to validate himself by saying these kinds of things right off the bat – and also because they tend to be impersonal and abstract, things that could be said to any girl and things that would tend not to make her feel special.

Generally, finding deep things to say to a girl should come later, after you have gotten to know her fairly well, and after she is comfortable around you and feels like you already respect and appreciate her as a person.

There is, however, a way to talk about something beyond the general shallow conversation starters that are supposed to work on girls. Sure, complimenting her appearance, making a simple comment about something she said, or simply introducing yourself confidently is always an effective strategy, but there are ways to achieve similar ends while skipping a lot of shallow and undesirable conversation. This is done, above all, by showing a strong amount of passion about the things you decide to bring up to her.

To be clear, the non-shallow things you talk to her about still should not be abstract, theoretical concepts that you find interesting or consider yourself knowledgeable about. They should be things that are not removed from the direct world around you. They should be a certain cause that you are invested in, a certain job or activity that really inspires or interests you, etc. Women are attracted to men who they see as passionate about something, as they associate that with a higher likelihood that you’ll make a good lover, a good father, and a good boyfriend/husband.

You can very much get away with talking passionately about, say, the foundation you volunteer for, or the music that you play, etc. The key here is to come off as completely and totally genuine. Never make it seem like you are pretending you care so that she will think you do, or so you have something to talk to her about. Say things like, “Sorry, I may have gotten carried away, but I’m sure you don’t care about that so much…” and then move to introducing yourself and talking about other things.

In this way you can talk to girls about things beyond the petty, shallow conversation starters that are often used, while not using some of the deep things to say to girls that might turn her off from you. Hopefully, you can in this way get the best of both worlds – a conversation with a girl that both works to attract her and make her want to continue talking to you, and a conversation that is interesting.

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Figuring out where to make new friends, either in a new city, country, or simply in the same place you’ve lived for a while can be daunting. Forming connections with people can be hard, and turning those connections into long-lasting friendships can be even more difficult.

However, as long as you know how to be a good friend, and have at least a small amount of social skills, you should be able to make new friends wherever you are.

There are two ways to make new friends. The first is to change your living environment by moving, and the second is to change your everyday environment while still living in the same place as before. The first is perhaps more nerve-wracking, but can actually be a much easier situation. I’ll explain.

When you’re wondering where to make new friends after moving to a new place you can at first be overwhelmed simply by trying to figure out your surroundings. This is especially true if you move to a new country where the customs, cultural queues, common forms of entertainment, and even language is different than those you are used to. In this case it is important to familiarize yourself with your new environment to the point you are at least relatively comfortable with how things work.

This is important for two reasons. First, because it will prevent you from being scammed by people taking advantage of the fact that you’re foreign (this, unfortunately, is a common occurrence). Secondly, because it can provide you with opportunities to make friends through asking questions and going to new places. The most important thing to keep in mind is that the process of making new friends in such a situation might be a very long one; do not be disheartened if it’s been a few weeks or even a few months and you don’t have many good friends yet.

You will meet people through work, or through other social circles, and eventually you’ll find those that you connect with. If you are simply moving cities, it is much easier. You should find some good places to meet people, then be open-minded. Many times you can meet people through other people, or through mutual interests, and before you know it you’ll feel like you’ve lived in the new city for years. If, however, you’re wondering where to make new friends but aren’t planning on moving anywhere new, you face a different kind of challenge.

This is a challenge mainly of forcing yourself out of your comfort zone, and to take a good look at yourself and what kind of a person and/or friend you are. It is easy to stay at home by yourself and judge others, but you cannot expect to make new friends by doing so.

Instead, you have to try and put yourself out there in familiar environments, or put yourself in unfamiliar environments such as joining a new group, trying out a new hobby, or even taking advantage of organized events for singles. Furthermore, it can be so easy to blame others for past failed relationships, but this will, once again, not help you make new friends. Instead, you should try as hard as you can to look at yourself and think about how you might change your behavior to make it more likely to form and maintain connections with people. Sometimes, instead of just thinking about where to make new friends, you should consider how you’re goingt o go about doing it.

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If you’ve had one too many lonely nights, if your social life with your friends is not altogether enough or you, and if you’re tired of seeing happy couples all around you at restaurants and on sidewalks, you might be one of many guys that simply want a girlfriend.

Some of these guys have had little to no experience with women, but dream of being in that committed romantic relationship. Some have had more experience with women through short-term relationships, one-night stands, or simple hook-ups at parties or clubs, and are eager for something more meaningful in their romantic lives.

If you’re one of those who want a girlfriend, the main things to keep in mind are to have realistic standards for women, to give yourself as many opportunities as possible to meet women who might be looking for something more than a hook-up, and, once you’ve decided who it is you like, to charm her with a genuine personality, a great sense of humor, and an aura of confidence.

If you want a girlfriend the first thing to do is keep in mind that she will not be perfect (sorry to break the news!) Expecting a woman, any woman, to conform entirely to your view of the ideal girl – from her looks to her personality to her interests, etc – is stupid, and will lead to you simply never having a girlfriend. Instead, set your standards so that the many girls out there who you could have great chemistry with, develop a wonderful relationship with, and be very happy with will be given a chance. If you end up in a great, loving relationships, often her flaws that may have bothered you at first will become endearing, and ultimately might be some of what you love most about her.

The second thing to keep in mind if you really want a girlfriend is to give yourself the opportunities to meet one. If you’re one of those that dreams of having a great relationship like the ones you might watch on television or read about in books, but never actually get off your couch to try and meet a woman, you are going to have problems. Girlfriends rarely – if ever – simply come to you and fall in your lap. You have to work hard at getting to know them and allowing them to be attracted to you.

Finally, you must think about how you will best get them to be attracted to you. The key here is to try and make them laugh as much as possible, try and remember as much as you can about what they say (and bring up as many details as you can about these things, as it will make them feel special and appreciated), and to project confidence. All these things are incredibly attractive to women, and can in most cases overcome any sort of limitations you might fear that you have.

If you truly want a girlfriend, you should be able to get one as long as you follow all the advice given above.