Anyone (even YOU) can be a master conversationalist!
Do you want to be more confident when approaching people? Would you like to be able to approach a total stranger and strike up a conversation with ease? If you saw a cute girl, would you like to win her over with your charisma and charm?
If you answered yes to any of those questions, then this is the article is for you! I am going to share several step-by-step strategies with you that I have used to help thousands of men become extremely confident and capable of talking to complete strangers.
When you master the art of talking to random people, your life will change forever! You will never experience a dull moment again since there will always be someone new to meet. Meeting women will be a breeze and your career will take off as you collaborate more effectively with your colleagues at work.
Who knows how a random conversation may turn out …
Don’t worry if you feel a little anxious!
Approaching a random stranger and striking up a conversation can seem very intimidating to a lot of people. To be honest, this is a completely natural response. You see, our brains are pretty remarkable tools, but they don’t always have our best interests at heart.
Back in the prehistoric days, fear was essential for survival, and our brain was designed to protect us from deadly predators. Even though these dangers no longer exist in modern society, the original hardwiring on our brains is still there. This is why you feel anxious when you prepare to walk up to a stranger and start a conversation. It also explains why you tense up when you see a cute girl across the room and think about introducing yourself.
Now, I’ve got some good news for you and some bad news. Unfortunately, this built-in fear and anxiety can never completely go away. However, the good news is that you can learn to manage it and control how you respond to it.
You don’t have to let fear hold you back!
If you practice the tips that I share with you, then you will be able to push past your comfort zone regardless of the tension that you may experience. In fact, by mastering these techniques you can actually use your anxiety to your advantage and let it drive you to move forward and take action.
Tip #1: Warm up!
What would happen to an elite athlete if they competed without doing a proper warm up first? Clearly they would not perform to their full potential. They might even suffer an injury that would prevent them from performing at peak level in the future. These exact same principles apply to meeting strangers and talking to random people.
If you try to go from 0 to 100, then you are not going to perform to your full potential!
The solution should be obvious: complete a social warm up beforehand. The easiest way to do this is by simply making eye contact with five people. Then make eye contact and smile at five other people. Finally, make eye contact, smile, and greet five more people.
Once you have finished your social warm, you will immediately feel more confident about going up to someone and starting a conversation. In fact, there is a good chance that you may end up chatting with some of the people who you greeted during your warm up!
Tip #2: Give yourself permission to fail.
Remember how our brains are hardwired to protect us? Well, we may not have to dodge dinosaurs and other prehistoric predators these days, but we still face the risk of making a mistake and embarrassing ourselves. That’s why our brains flood us with anxiety when we worry about something going wrong.
One of the reasons why so many men struggle to meet women, or talk to people in general, is because they feel that they need to be perfect for that particular moment. Unsurprisingly, the resulting fear of failure either holds them back or sabotages their best efforts.
The solution is to treat your opener as just that: an opportunity to break the ice.
When you approach someone, your goal isn’t to win them over. Your goal is simply to start a conversation. So don’t worry how the rest of your interaction turns out. Give yourself permission to be less than perfect on your first approach. In fact, give yourself permission to blow it completely. Obviously you shouldn’t deliberately make a bad impression, but if it happens, then so be it.
Don’t take yourself or your socializing too seriously. After all, all you are really doing is giving people the opportunity to meet you.
Tip #3: Stay true to your passions.
One of the mistakes that people make when they start a conversation with a stranger is they become too focused on the other person. They spend all of their time asking questions to find out more about the person they are chatting with.
Asking questions is fine, but after a while it can actually put a lot of pressure on people.
What you need to do is balance your questions with some statements about yourself. When you talk about yourself, focus on the things that you are passionate about in life. As you develop your communication skills and become more confident about talking to random people, you can lead the direction of the conversation towards topics that you are passionate about. There are several reasons why you want to do this:
- You will feel much more comfortable with topics that you are passionate about.
- Your passion will resonate with other people and put them at ease.
- Your interactions with people will naturally move to a deeper, more personal level.
As a result of these benefits, you will find it much easier to make friends, meet women, get dates, and enjoy more social confidence.
These tips should give you a head start at starting conversations and talking to random people. However, if you want to take your communication skills to the next level and master the art of conversation, then make sure that you check out the rest of our articles – they are crammed with advice for complete novices as well as more advanced techniques.