Many men subscribe to the notion that asking questions on dates is the proper way to go, but soon notice that their questions don’t seem to be the best ones to ask.
Whenever you go out and try to approach women, you ask questions to try and initiate a conversation, but then notice it doesn’t seem to go as you’d planned. Are you asking the wrong questions, or wondering if there’s a better take on becoming a better conversationalist?
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There’s a combination of factors that can set the tone on successful dating. Let’s go over a few and see if any of them resonate with you. If they don’t, then hopefully you can learn better questions to ask, and progress your date further down the line.
Never do all the talking, girls definitely like to talk too!
If you don’t expect girls to talk, don’t expect girls to open up, and you don’t expect them to respond and share in the interaction, then they probably won’t. If you go into the date expecting to do all the talking, then how in hell can they get a word in edgewise?
What usually happens is you will be a bit nervous, and this causes you to talk way too much, and that obviously sends a negative signal to her. She’ll realize right away that you’re a little bit awkward conversationally, which will put her in an awkward stance as well. How uncomfortable will that date be for the both of you!
Questions to ask on a date are not inherently bad but the way that most guys ask questions are.
With guys who are new to the community, they’ll go and approach a girl, and start bombarding her with questions. They may get a chance to ask an opinion opener, and then they’ll get stuck on the question train. Question trains are where you ask a sequence of questions and the girl responds. The problem with question trains is they make the girl feel like she’s being interrogated.
The best date questions are ones which are balanced out with asking question and then making statements. Once you ask a question follow it up with a statement. When you ask a question such as “how’s your night going”, and she responds, relate to that experience and make a statement. This is how effective communication works.
For example, “My nights been awesome, I actually only just started my evening. I just got back from dinner with some friends, and we went to the most amazing restaurant just down the road. It’s a new restaurant that just opened up”. What you want to do is respond with a statement, not another question. When you make a statement it then gives you the opportunity to ask another question.
When you’re nervous, you often ask the wrong questions. There are great questions to ask on a date.
Many times you’ll ask questions that you really don’t care what the answer is. Your sole goal is just to keep her talking, mistaking that this is the way to keep a conversation alive. If you ask questions that you don’t want to know the answer to it will be obvious, because the response that the girl gives you will be a little bit lame.
It’s important that you think about the types of questions that you actually want to know the answer to. You want to move the conversation towards topics that interest you, and which enable you to get her to reveal things about herself that allows you to find out if she’s a girl that you would be more interested in spending more time with.
If you can change your question to be more screening based question, questions that reveal the type of information that would let you know if she’s going to be a candidate for someone that you want to see down the track, that will assist you.
That might be asking a question like, “What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve done in the last twelve months?” Learning to ask great date questions is critical, particularly, in the early stages of development.
One thing I learned early on is to find a common area of interest, and then the conversation will progress naturally from there. Listen to her, and pick up on anything that she says that you have a common knowledge of. Once you find a commonality between you, this will be a conversation that keeps her attention.
We often times make dating harder than it actually is. Don’t think of it as an interview, and don’t get stuck on pointless questions that only bore her and make her think you are shallow. Hone in on a common ground, and go from there. Questions are good as a starting point, but make sure and ask the best questions, or you may not get a second chance.
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