Are you failing to build an instant connection with a girl?
It might not be how your dressing, or where you are… Because you’ll never master the ability to get an instant connection with any woman until you learn how to quickly build rapport.
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***And when you are finished reading… please take a few seconds and share one of your dating frustrations. I’d like to help you and will try to answer each comment personally.
Here’s a question to help you…
“Dear Vin, I hear that building rapport is really important when you’re communicating with people. I haven’t exactly been the most social person all of my life, so this is kind of a new concept to me. What is building rapport? How do you do it? Thanks, Dan from Phoenix, AZ”
Be familiar to her
A: One of the things that guys find confusing is building rapport: what is it and what does it mean? Basically it’s a sense of familiarity with another person, and a feeling that you’re getting along. Imagine that you just met someone; you’re meeting each other for the first time and don’t know each other from a bar of soap. The interaction is not going to always go smoothly. Sometimes it’s going to be a bit funky. It’s going to seem you’re sniffing each other out a little bit. Not knowing each other from a bar of soap would be having zero rapport.
Now think of two people who’ve known each other for ten years approaching each other. They’re walking up to each other, having seen each other out on the street, and when they meet each other there’s going to be an instant rapport. There’s a familiarity; they know they like each other, they get along, and they’ll probably walk up and give each other a big hug and get into a smooth-flowing conversation. “Hey, how you been?”
Assume you have it…
You can imagine the opposite. When you meet a stranger on the street, that rapport is not there. Your interaction is not as smooth; it’s clunkier, there’s no familiarity, there’s no commonality. What I like to do is to assume rapport. If I’ve just met someone, I assume that we’re going to be friends or that we are already friends. I talk to them like I’ve known them for years. I have a frame that we’re instantly going to be friends, they’re going to like me, and I expect to like them. Usually this helps speed up the process. That’s something I can recommend for you to do.
Talk to strangers
Talk to strangers a lot more often. Go talk to the next 20 people passing by that you don’t know. Go up and say, “Hi.” Practice that. Then, practice moving on to finding out what that person did for the day. Communicate with people as if you’ve known them for a long time. That’s probably one of the biggest helps.
You can also try pacing people’s realities. Get an idea of where another person is coming from, where they’re at in their day, or if they’re looking slightly annoyed. Gauge where they’re coming from. Look at a person and give them a cold read. See how they’re feeling and, if they look a bit tense or stressed, you can mirror that to them: “Hey, you look a bit tense or stressed, what’s going on there?” Get inside their point of view and their shoes a bit. That’s a great way to create rapport. There are many other resources that you can find online about creating a good rapport.
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