Carlos Xuma is a dating and seduction coach and the author of The Dating Black Book.
His teachings are based on how to be more of an alpha male and displaying alpha characteristics in order to be more attractive to women. Just like men find women with big breasts and curves attractive, women find alpha males irresistible. There’s a magnetic quality that attracts women to fall for an alpha male.
The main characteristic that define an alpha male is CONFIDENCE.
He is aware of his demand, but never proves his superiority to those around. He is a leader amongst men. He is great company around women and he is an expert in handling every situation. He just has a natural confidence with women and life in general. Women can spot self-confidence in men from a mile away. They don’t even have to try to attract women, they just do naturally!
For a lot of guys that struggle with women, a common characteristic is the fact that these guys have been brought up by their mothers or brought up to almost be ashamed of being a man who is masculine. Too many guys are being brought up in this almost metro-sexual world of being effeminate, too scared to get their hands dirty or tell women how they really feel.
We’re too busy on our laptops, putting moisturizer on our face, and going out and hoping that just by being nice to women will get us noticed. If you live by these dating dynamics, you will be unattractive and unsuccessful with women. What will make you more successful and attractive is being more of an alpha male. So, how do you become an alpha male?
First, get rid of any beta male qualities….
These are certain traits and mannerisms of a beta male. Examples of these are folding your arms, being restless, dropping your shoulders, hands in pockets, hesitating, constant fiddling, and not being sure of yourself. They are all very unattractive qualities that are very anti-alpha. They show that you are unsure of yourself and the world around you.
Second, confidence is a huge magnet which attracts all women….
True confidence is displayed by your body language, the way you present yourself, or scripts that you could memorize when talking to women.
Real confidence should come from within. It comes from pushing past your comfort zone in many areas of your life such as work, fitness, or hobbies. It could be just getting out there and chatting to hotter women on weekends. Anything that requires you to push past your fears will add to your level of confidence in life.
Confidence also comes from knowledge. When you are knowledgeable, you are comfortable in most situations. When you’re going out and approaching women, the more knowledge you have on how to attract women and female psychology, the more you’ll put yourself out there in a club environment.
You won’t fear approaching women and interacting with them, and you will exude self-confidence. Most of the time, those hot babes will be the ones who approach you, because they will be attracted by the confidence of your body language.
Third, show leadership qualities….
Women love leaders and they love a guy that can make decisions and who’s decisive in his actions. Try as much as possible in life to take on more of a leadership role. You can do it in various ways. It could be at work and leading the way in terms of your job, or applying for the management position in your company.
It could be on the weekends and being the guy that decides where to go, what to do, and leads the group in many ways. When you’re on dates, always be a step ahead and lead her. Don’t be indecisive. Lead the way from start to end because indecisiveness and wishy-washy behavior are very unattractive traits and very anti-alpha.
Do something really ballsy. Do something that requires taking a risk. Alpha males are not scared to live on the edge. It might be changing careers, leaving a job you hate, climbing a massive mountain, jumping out of an airplane, or getting up in front of thousands of people and talking. Anything that requires the balls and guts to do it. This is very alpha, attractive, and will also help your level of confidence.
Research Carlos Xuma and The Dating Black Book. His website, carlosxuma.com offers a wealth of information on dating tips for guys and how to up your game. His advice is almost as good as mine, but not quite.