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Jealousy is a powerful emotion. At its smallest, it creates a pang deep within your belly, a feeling that you just can’t shake. At its height, it can make you do stupid stuff. Here’s my story.

If you’re suffering from jealousy in a dating sense, it’s because your focus is in the wrong place. Jealousy generally is linked to ownership, a sense of entitlement. And when we’re referring to women, this is a horrible headspace to be in. So, how do you beat jealousy? Essentially, you change your focus. That’s all well and good, but let’s give you some specific scenarios so you have some context to work with – helping you to discover ways to overcome jealousy

Jealous over a girl that you’re not seeing?

I know this specific situation all too well. I caught the bus to school with Jess every morning. Right from 7th grade, we were good friends. Jess was sort of quirky and geeky, too. But she was cute and she was starting to blossom into an attractive woman.

She hadn’t had a lot attention through primary school but as she moved up to high school, things started to change for her. She physically developed and started to get interest from guys. I felt like, because I’d shown interest in her and been keen on her before she had become popular, that she owed me something.

I felt like I could give her something that these other guys couldn’t, something that was genuine and powerful, something that was real. But, I was kidding myself. Ultimately, I couldn’t provide her what she needed. And even if I could, that didn’t give me ownership of her.

A more powerful focus for me, other than worrying about other guys who were dating Jess or chasing after her, would have been to focus on my own personal development. How could I become the best man that I could possibly be? How could I learn to like myself more?

Ultimately, I have no say over whether Jess likes me or not. She has to make that decision herself. But, if I take ownership of my desire and interest for her and I work on becoming the most attractive man I can become, then I’m giving myself every opportunity.

Are you a jealous boyfriend?

Fast forward to 27 years old, and I’ve been actively working on the social science of dating and relationships for three years. Despite not having any of the physical qualities or financial resources that other successful guys have, I’m batting well above my weight.

I’m dating Jenna, a girl from my local city. Jenna is absolutely stunning. My friends are all jealous that I’m dating her and not them. On the outside, I put up a proud front. But, on the inside, I have my own jealousy issues going on. Jenna gets hit on by guys every day. It’s the nature of the job.

Whilst I understand this on an intellectual level, I still struggle emotionally when guys are hitting on my girl, and overcoming jealousy like this is hard. It’s always compounded when they’re more attractive, more muscular, and financially better off than I am. Whilst I’ve taught myself to see myself as the prize on a deeper level, I worry like crazy that I’m going to lose Jenna. This drives me to become incredibly suspicious.

What jealousy can drive you to…

I even caught myself checking out her text messages a couple of times. This was a crazy focus to have. When you’re worried about losing a girl, and particularly when you’re jealous about other guys in her life, it tends to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. A much better focus for me should have been concentrating on the fact that Jenna had chosen to enter a relationship with me, and learning how to control the jealousy in a relationship.

Further to that, I should have actually been questioning what it was that Jenna was bringing to the relationship. When you flip the script like this and force her to prove herself on a daily basis, you naturally begin to challenge her more, and she responds positively to being challenged. Most guys don’t know this, but one of the deepest needs that a woman has is to please her man.

I should have been giving Jenna more of an opportunity to please me. Instead, I was doing the opposite. I was trying too hard to make her like me. I was coming off as needy and insecure. And, ultimately, within three months, I drove her away.

Fast forward to now…

My current relationship is amazing. I have a beautiful girlfriend who I cherish and honor on every level. She ticks my boxes physically and emotionally. She supports me in my goals and she understands who I am and accepts me. We both have a potent sexual appetite. And we also both have an interest in the fairer sex. Jess openly seeks out opportunities for threesomes.

Two weeks ago, we had a foursome with two Red Bull promotional girls. And that was a sizzling experience. I can’t go out with Jess without her being checked out by other guys, but I’ve learned to control my focus. I’ve learned to control my jealousy. Now, our focus in our relationship is simple. I like you today, I want to see you tomorrow.

There is no commitment down the track. There are no feelings of ownership. I’m unattached to all outcomes. This new focus has set me free. When you let go of ownership and you open yourself up to all outcomes, jealousy just doesn’t exist.

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All men love dating younger women. There’s something about their energy and youthfulness that makes them very attractive. Young women tend to have an incredibly positive outlook on the world. That’s one of the great things about interacting with them. They also have a youthful elegance and inner beauty that excites me in all the right ways.

Here’s how to show a pretty girl what you’re worth…

Holding the attention of a younger woman can be tricky…

The first thing to be mindful of with young women is they have short attention spans. Their attention often jumps from one thing to the next without warning. I have a beautiful Tonkinese cat called Mia. As far as cats go, Mia is one of the smartest I’ve seen. Yet, she is still a victim to her evolutionary triggers.

Regardless of whether Mia is sleeping, hunting, or just walking around, if I wave a piece of string in front of her, she instantly becomes attentive. The same thing is true when attracting younger women. When you understand this, you can use it to your advantage.

Have you ever been midway through a conversation with a young girl and sensed that she was really starting to get into you – but suddenly, her favorite song comes on, and within seconds her attraction has vanished as she hits the dance floor? It’s happened to most of us – but there are a few little dating tips that can help out in these situations

Younger women like guys with an energetic vibe…

Energy levels are critical when attracting women of a younger age. When you approach younger women, you want your energy levels to be higher than the group that she is part of. Essentially, you want to be the shiny object that gets her attention. The best way to do this is to do a social warm up before you go out and meet women.

Start by making eye contact with five people and holding it. Then progress to making eye contact and saying “Hi” to five people. Next, make eye contact, say “Hi” and give a compliment. This will put you in the most incredible state and give your energy the boost it needs for you to become the shiny object of desire.

Being cool – or seeming cool – is a good pulling technique…

Younger women respond to social status even more than older women. Think back to high school. Did you notice how girls would hook up with guys who weren’t nearly as attractive as you based solely on the guys’ reputation? Having the cool factor is a major attraction magnet for young girls.

Their reputation among this social group is critical to them. If a girl knows that her friends approve of you, or that other girls outside her social circle consider you as a sexual option, then she’ll instantly see you as a possibility for herself. The great thing about this is that if you’re in a high energy state from doing a social warm up to begin with, it becomes easy to build attraction with lots of girls within the club.

Get into the habit of opening up to everyone you come across. Ask them how their night’s going or what they’re celebrating; bring value to their night and then move on to the next group of girls. From the outside looking in, it will appear as though every girl in the club already knows you. This will not only demonstrate that you’ve become ‘pre-selected’, but will start to spark jealousy in the girl that you most desire.

Tease her to please her…

The final thing you want to focus on is teasing the girl. This is key when learning how to attract younger women, but it’s something that most guys will not do. When you tease a girl and you challenge her, you set yourself up as the prize. You’re the one to be won. It’s a very slight internal shift, but it makes a big difference in the real world. So, how do you challenge her without pushing her too far?

Say things like, “Whoa, I can’t believe you just said that. You were so cool up until that point.” Of course, say these things in a cheeky, playful way will make her to want to work for your affection and approval again. A really powerful technique is to follow up with a compliment that makes it clear you are interested in her. Keep the conversation light and flirtatious.

The truth is that younger women are unique. They have different attraction cues than older women. They respond in a surprising way to particular approaches. If you feel like you’re going in blind when you approach younger women, it’s time to change that by following my top dating advice.

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Yes, you’ve heard that you should like bigger breasted women because they bear children better… that’s just according to science. We know why you really like them (doesn’t everyone). Figure out how to quickly magnetize them to you, and what you’ve got to do to keep her before you screw it up.

Women know this, too. Why do you think there are so many women in modern society getting breast enlargements? So, if you’ve got a thing for big-breasted girls, then you’re going to want to learn these tips on specific things you can do with your approach to turn them on.

Tip one: Don’t hide from the fact that they’re big-breasted

One of the best compliments you can give a girl who’s got really beautiful titties, is to compliment her on her breasts. But there’s a right way and a wrong way to do this.

Whistling from across the street or saying, “Get ‘em out for the boys!” unfortunately is the wrong way. And this is the way that 90% of men are. You want to come off as being a little bit awkward, a little bit shy, that’s the right dynamic. “I hope this doesn’t come off the wrong way, but I just have to tell you, you have amazing cleavage.”

I find by focusing on their cleavage, rather than the breasts, that takes some of the sting out of the compliment. And it hits her where most guys fail to.

Tip two: Do NOT become fixated on her big breasts

I mean, she knows she’s got big breasts, so it’s important that you acknowledge them right off the bat, so she knows what you think.

But, if you become fixated on them, you just fall into the same trap that every other loser falls into. She also has this deep sense that she’s more than her breasts. There’s a lot more to her. Your job is to try and crack the code and get to know who she is. Having an understanding of female psychology can be really powerful when picking up women.

I spent three years working with scientists and behavioral psychologists to uncover the eight personality types that all women fall into. More importantly, how I could teach the average guy on the street, just like you, how to quickly and effectively work out which type she is. If this sounds interesting to you, you may want to check out Pandora’s Box.

Tip three: Focus on incidental physical touch

When you approach a girl with big breasts you want to get lots and lots of little touches. Get her comfortable with the idea that you’re a physical creature.

What I tend to do when I talk is gesture with my hands a little bit. With beautiful big breasted women it becomes really easy to lightly brush her breast with the back of your hand. Nothing puts her in a sexual state more than when you do this.

Because you’re doing it incidentally, she’ll also have this thought running through her brain, “I wonder if he meant that? Is he trying to hit on me or is he just accidentally brushing my breasts?” She can’t even control these thoughts. And, because she’s thinking about it, her subconscious automatically associates with her being attracted to you.

I’ve followed this three-step process with hundreds of big breasted ladies. I almost feel bad for them. It’s like they don’t have a chance to begin with. The minute I see them I know they’re going to be coming home with me. But, the thing is, there’s nothing overly special about me. I’m just like you.

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Want her to see how great you are? Approach her! She not only wants it, she expects it, and you don’t want to disappoint her, right?

I found approaching a woman to be one of the most difficult and daunting things ever when I first arrived on the dating scene. The first time I had to approach women – even though a friend was pushing me – all I could feel was fear running through my veins. I just wanted to run away. My throat was constricting – it really was that bad! My heart was thumping 1,000 beats per minute and I was more scared than I could have imagined.

Making the first crucial step into the game…

I can still remember that first woman to this day. She was a brunette, half my size, dressed in a nice little white dress and as cute as anything. When I went up and approached her, I just muttered a couple of words to her. She greeted me with a smile and we had a great five to ten-minute conversation.

Not much came out of it, but I remember feeling on top of the world afterwards. It was an exhilarating feeling – I felt almost unstoppable. After that first approach, I went and approached about ten other girls and had the best night of my life. I walked away with four or five new numbers and felt fantastic about approaching random girls.

Be a man – face your fear…

If I had not gone and done that first approach, it would have been a total different story. I would have walked away disappointed, frustrated, and lonely. No doubt I would have gone home to my computer and watched some really bad porno before going to bed with a bottle of KY and a couple of tissues.

It is important that you face your fear, push past it, and approach a girl – any girl. By doing this, you open up a new world in which you have an abundance of women and success that most average guys will never be able to achieve.

It’s time for guys to live life to the full…

I remember reading one quote by the late Gary Halbert: “Face your fear or risk living a boring and dull life like the rest of the population.” That quote has remained with me throughout my life, and I’m glad of it.

Any time that I feel like I am going to succumb to fear, I remember that quote and I imagine myself being frustrated and jealous because my life is boring and dull like most other people out there. That straightaway deters me from failure and pushes me past my fear.

Forget about a one-size-fits-all solution…

There is no right or wrong way of approaching a girl. You just have to take action. It is as simple as that! Unfortunately, we all look for the magic pick-up line, but in reality, this is just a flimsy safety net.

Although there are no magic words, you should at least ensure you get yourself into a positive state. Sometimes, I listen to great music before I go or get with some good mates that make me feel great. I always wear my best clothes. I put on my favorite aftershave and feel good about myself, so that when I do go up to a girl, I have a positive vibe and make the best first impression possible.

Increase your knowledge of the female form…

Something else that will give you amazing amounts of confidence when approaching women is understanding her type almost instantly. Knowing the best way to approach a girl will instantly spark attraction with her.

A couple of years ago, I developed a system called Pandora’s Box. Over two years, I conducted scientific research, surveys, studies, and even did some in-field practice. I developed a product that goes deep into the female psychology and reveals that women fall into eight different female personality types.

If you know a girl’s particular personality type – which you can find out by just asking three simple questions – you will be able to develop the right approach for you. You’ll be ready to say the right words and work out the best way in which to flirt with her.

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You don’t want to wait weeks, months, or years for a girlfriend, you want romance NOW. After all, you’ve been waiting a while. Here’s how to make what seems impossible… possible.

Do you want someone that you can keep warm on a cold night? Or perhaps someone in your life that you can share amazing experiences with? Do you want a hot girl that you can have a great physical and sexual relationship with all at once? Getting a girlfriend may be the answer.

Whatever the answers to the above, you need some advice on how to get a girlfriend – or you wouldn’t be here. I am going to give you one little tip that will change things a little bit for you, making you more magnetic to women.

Be the mystery man of every girl’s dreams…

The primary advice that I am going to give you today on how to get a girlfriend is to do everything she wants and more. End everything on a high note so she wants to see you again. You need to keep her intrigued. You can do this by keeping her in a state of curiosity. Don’t reveal too much of yourself to her and maintain a little bit of a mysterious nature.

Let her probe you for questions, but give her little back in answers. Try to reflect the conversation on her a little bit more and let her constantly get surprised by little things about you. She is going to hate it, but love it, because she will never have you fully worked out.

Impress her with your busy social life – shallow but effective…

Do not make yourself too available. If she suggests getting together on a Friday, suggest getting together on Saturday. If she wants Sunday, perhaps suggest Wednesday. I am not really advising that you do this consistently – you won’t get a girlfriend if you make out she is unimportant to you.

You may never land yourself a date, but you should still give the appearance of having a really healthy social life. Hopefully you do have this, but for the sake of pursuing her, the illusion should be enough to keep her on her toes. The fact you have a life shows to her that you are not going to make her the total center of your world. You are not a needy, desperate guy. You have stuff going on – that is really attractive to women and could be a big step towards getting a girlfriend now.

Don’t hang onto her every word…

Next – be the one to end a phone call. I know a lot of my female friends are going to hate me for revealing this one, but it is one of the best tricks in the book. It is always successful in terms of getting a girlfriend because the first few phone calls or interactions tend to determine the way a relationship will proceed. So, after a conversation has ended its course, politely end it and say goodbye. Using this trick just a couple of times will put you back in charge.

Have the magic element of surprise…

Always be a little bit unpredictable and spontaneous. Bring that element of surprise when you are around her – this could mean maybe planning a dinner, but then picking her up and taking her for a spontaneous picnic somewhere. Do anything that makes things interesting and spontaneous and keep her constantly intrigued.

Take things further right now…

If you want to ensure that your interactions with girls are always going to be successful, then you need to know the eight different personality types that women have. Having this knowledge is lethal and gives you an unfair advantage over every other guy. She will not know what it is about you, but you will be able to trigger emotions in her that few other guys can. If you want to know how to get girlfriends like the hottest guys around can, or even get your ex back, this is what you need to do. Get your hands-on Pandora’s Box today and change your luck with women forever.

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Do you feel as though all women hate you and you’re not sure what to do about it? There are three things you are most likely doing wrong if you get the feeling that women hate you.

I can let you know that in my journey of coaching thousands of guys, I have seen some guys that get really negative reactions from women for almost no reason at all. They’ll walk up to say hello to a girl and before they open their mouth, the girl will put their hand up in the guy’s face. One guy I met even had girls pouring drinks on his head, when he was doing almost nothing at all to warrant it. Why are women horrible like this? It’s a question on a surprising number of male minds.

Getting to the bottom of the mystery…

For a lot of the guys that get negative reactions from women, it’s a total mystery. They seem to be friendly and want to talk to girls, but for some reason women just don’t like them at all. In fact, it can make them feel like women hate them. If you are one of these guys, read on – this information is going to be ground breaking for you. I want to open your eyes to what really causes attraction, and to the three things that you are most likely doing wrong that need to change.

The first principal to understand is that this hate isn’t about you. The factors that cause women to react negatively to you have nothing to do with you at all. It’s just that humans are actually very instinctual. In fact, women tend to be a lot more primal than men, as they rely on their gut instinct a lot. If you are one of those guys that is triggering a negative intuitive response from women, then they are going to reject you very quickly without you seemingly even saying or doing anything. This is just the way some people are wired. Once you understand the system, you can flip it. You can actually trigger women’s intuitions in a positive way, so that they are attracted to you before you even open your mouth. Girls hating you will no longer be an issue.

Have you suffered a knock to your confidence?

You may be suffering from low self-esteem. In almost every case I have found where a guy is getting really negative reactions from women without doing anything to illicit them, he is suffering from low self-esteem. The response from women is almost an evolutionary one. Women don’t really want to mate with guys who have low self-esteem. There is something that is invisible that triggers inside women that causes them to reject guys with low self-esteem outright.

In every case where I have seen a guy get this sort of reaction from women, I get him to buy a copy of the book ‘The Six Pillars of Self-esteem.” They do the questions in the back and read through the chapters, and later they cannot believe how accurate the book is.

Better self-esteem improves your stick-ability. Stickiness occurs when you go and talk to a woman and she doesn’t want to stop talking to you. In fact, she feels as though she is stuck to you. She doesn’t want to leave or exit the conversation.

Guys that have low self-esteem have the opposite problem to stick-ability. Women seem to want to get away from them as fast as possible! This is due to something that’s going on beneath the surface. It’s beyond the level of body language, verbal communication, the way you dress, or anything else superficial. It is a very intuitive, instinctual, and automatic process that women use to screen guys.

Are you giving off a positive vibe?

Another important thing to consider is your energy. Now, this may feel like an abstract concept to some of the guys out there, but believe me – how you radiate as a person has a huge influence on how people receive you. Women often don’t think logically when they meet you. They just go off what they are sensing and feeling.

I’ll give you an example. I went on a challenge to do 30 sessions of intense hot yoga in 30 days, and I noticed that as the challenge went on, women responded better and better to me.

In fact, the further I got along with the 30-day challenge, the more women would give me eye contact and hold it for longer. If I walked into a store, women would approach me more often to start conversation.

That was just the effect of the intense hot yoga on my energy and how I was radiating as a person. I have seen this happen with a lot of guys out there when they start to do some performance relaxation. They start to become less anxious and nervous, and this draws people towards them naturally.

The more you can do to improve your energy so it’s more relaxed, centered, and magnetic, the more women are going to respond positively to you. It’s great to get active and involved at any time in life, particularly when looking for a girlfriend.

Always look on the bright side of life…

It’s time to be an optimist rather than a pessimist. Without a doubt, guys that are getting negative responses from women are more pessimistic by nature. They expect an interaction with a girl to go badly, and so it does. This isn’t a good way to find a girlfriend, and if you think girls hating you is the problem with this mindset, you’re more than likely wrong.

Luckily, optimism is a skill that can be learned. One of my favorite books and audio programs is called ‘Learned Optimism’. This will have a ground-breaking effect on your results with women. Quite simply, optimistic guys are far more attractive to women. Just about every guy who has ever come to me for dating advice was pessimistic at first. You need to think of the glass as half full when on the search for a girlfriend to have ultimate success.

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When it comes to utilizing the internet for dating opportunities, there can be some challenges along the way, creating that killer profile, really making yourself look sexy and attractive to the opposite sex, and being able to communicate your true personality to a girl.

I find a lot of guys that struggle with online dating, but a lot of it comes down to just not being interesting enough, not having enough really in life going for them that makes them appealing to girls, and especially high-quality girls.

So, generally, with a lot of guys, perhaps maybe you have a lack of balance in your life. If you’re like me and you work really hard, that’s easy to do because you spend your days and sometimes even nights in the office or at home working. Maybe you’re studying, and your life is so hectic that you’re not spending enough time on other areas of your life to make yourself a broader kind of guy.

You’ve got to create a whole offline identity for yourself…

To make yourself more attractive and more appealing, you need to increase your worldly knowledge, you need to have more things to talk about in life. One way to do that is to read more books and to self-educate yourself more.

So, learn a little bit about history, learn a little bit about philosophy, learn a little bit about self-help, and perhaps, maybe, even learn a little bit about psychology, dating, and love. All this stuff really starts to help you get a broader side to you and the things that you can really talk about in your online conversations and even show in the books that you read and the knowledge that you’ve acquired over time.

The more knowledgeable and educated you are, the more interesting you’re going to be, the more charismatic you’re going to be, and the more appealing you will be to girls.

Let your playlists do the talking…

Next, it’s important to have a good selection of music that you’re interested in. Having a good, broad list of music helps in your conversation with girls. People also judge you a little bit on your music taste, if you’re into say jazz and classical, you might be seen as a little bit more educated and sophisticated. If you’re into dance music you might seem like more of a party guy, if you’re into rock, heavy metal, you’re more of a grungier kind of dude.

I find that it’s great to have a broader interest in music and show different sides of you, so you have a side of you that’s really into rock, a side of you that is also into partying like dance, and also a more kind of sophisticated side to you that’s into classical and jazz. The more you can open yourself up to different musical styles, the more alluring and interesting you’re going to be.

One great way to do that, I found, is using programs like Shazam or Sound Hound so when you’re at a venue or a place and you really like a song, it actually picks up on the music and it tells you the artist and the song. That way, when you go home you can download that particular song and really broaden your playlist.

Go and see the world!

Next is to travel more, get out of your house, explore the world, and get cultured. That’s one of the sexiest things a guy can have is being cultured, being worldly – living outside of his box and boosting first impressions. Generally, when I find people that don’t travel, they’re very much stuck in their little world and they don’t really have an appreciation of cultures and other customs.

Travel is also a great topic to talk about with girls, it shows that you’ve had amazing experiences, it conjures up great memories and it will allow you to relate to a broader range of people. For impressing girls, this is dynamite.

Also, go and do more interesting things, too, like go to festivals, concerts, theaters, and get out of your house and experience more. The more you seem like you’re outgoing and extroverted, the more appealing you’re going to be to the opposite sex. This, combined with your education and culture, will make you irresistible when chatting – especially as you are safe in the knowledge you have the best online dating profile out there.

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Tired of automatically turning her off? Women can be hard to turn on, but very easy to turn off. If this happens to you a lot, what are you doing wrong?

Getting them turned on can be like trying to bring a cold pot of water to the boiling point. You’ve got to slowly raise the heat. However, if you say or do the wrong thing, they will shut down instantly and go back to freezing cold.

If you’ve experienced this yourself, it can be a massive frustration because it puts you on edge. You second-guess everything you’re saying to a girl, and this just makes things worse. You’re worried because you don’t know if you’re touching her the right way or whether you should be touching her at all. You start to stiffen out.

This is a horrible state to get into if you want to seduce women. Instead, you need to flow like water. You need to be free, but it does help to have some ideas of what turns women off to allow you to relax.

Lose your inhibitions, let your guard down…

One of the first things which are turn offs for women is really counter-intuitive. It’s actually guys that are too cautious. Guys that worry too much about what she thinks. If you’re worried about turning her off, you automatically fall into this category. If this is you, I want you to bring out a massive red stop sign inside your head and snap out of it. Change your focus.

You’ve got to understand that you’re okay just the way you are. Women will like you if you go through life and make no apologies for who you are. Acknowledge that you’re not going to get it right all the time, but that’s just part of being a man. There are things that she’s going to do that are going to frustrate you as well.

Persevere whether she’s turned on or off…

Have you ever watched American Idol and noticed when a singer makes a mistake? If they ignore the mistake and keep pushing forward anyway, you often get to the end of the song and forget about the mistake altogether. But, if they freeze in horror at the error, it creates an incredible, awkward tension.

The exact same is true when you make a mistake with women through dating turn offs. The best step is to ignore it and just keep moving forward. This does two things for you: firstly, she’ll forget about the mistake and, secondly, she’ll like you even more because you’ve demonstrated the ability to stay calm under pressure.

Put the ball in her court…

The third thing you can do, and one of the most powerful tricks up your sleeve, is flip the script around on her. I almost feel bad giving you this information because the women you use this on are not going to stand a chance.

Instead of waiting for yourself to make a mistake and turn off women, flip the script on her, let her know that she’s losing you the minute she says something a little bit dorky or quirky. You can give her a slight nudge as you push her away, and say, “You’re such a dork.”

The key to this, and the way to really build her attraction and ramp it up at an accelerated pace, is you need it to be a false disqualifier. You need her to know that you’re only playing around with her.

A great way to do this is to, after you say, “You’re such a dork, you’re losing me,” and gently pushing her away, pull her back in towards you and say, “It’s okay, I’m only kidding, I really think you’re a cutie.”

What does this achieve?

This will create a weird sensation deep inside her head, she won’t know whether you’re fully into her or not and she’ll work twice as hard to win your approval from this point on.

So: relax, become laidback, and don’t be afraid of any mistakes you make along the way. Also, be sure to help her realize that this is a two-way street. Once you accomplish this, you’re going to be on the right tracks to preventing women’s biggest turn offs.

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So, start turning negatives into positives now – this is the best dating advice you’ll ever get. If things aren’t going your way, rather than just being down and feeling sad about the situation, start to look more at the silver lining of the cloud. Thinking about getting what you can from a particularly bad experience and focus on making it better the next time. By turning negatives into positives, you start to become more optimistic and take on a better mindset.

Guys need to stop being so hard on themselves…

The next thing to do is be more compassionate to yourself. Understand that you’re not perfect. You’re going to make mistakes over and over again – humans were not designed to be perfect creatures. Be more understanding of any issues that you may be going through, and don’t think too much about the mistakes you’re making.

Follow your gut and it will lead you to the right choices. The most successful people in life are the ones that have the trust and belief to follow their instinct. Your gut will tell you everything you need to know and is rarely wrong about a decision.

Open up and let your problems out…

Be more open and don’t let issues fester inside. Be a communicator. If you lack communication skills, you need to improve them now. Otherwise, bad feelings will start to build up inside you and fester. You will start displaying more passive aggressive behavior. It is important that you can open up to people. Be very honest about how you’re feeling and don’t let things just sit at the back of your mind. This is one of the best dating tips for men – if you are looking to get advice, this is what you need to pay attention to.

Be someone that can actually talk about problems and emotions. Always forgive wrongdoings against you – don’t hold grudges. Everyone makes mistake! By forgiving, you’ll feel better about yourself, which will lead to you becoming a more attractive person inside and out. Next time you need advice on how to get a girl, remember that true dating advice is about looking at the bigger picture – yourself as a person.

Now that you know how to prevent your relationship from blowing up in your face you probably want to discover the guaranteed methods you must employ to get her to call you back, make her fall in love with you again, and learn how to read her emotions and thoughts so that you can show her just how much you love her.

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If you approach a big girl the same way you would a model, you’re going to bum out – it’s that simple. So, what are some of the strategies that can help you have success with attractive fat women?

There was a phrase about when I was growing up: “Fat girls are like scooters. They’re both fun to ride until your mates find out.” The truth is that what society generally deems the page-four model is just a social norm. In actuality, everyone has different taste and there are many bigger girls who are comfortable in their own skin and really do it for certain guys.

The thing you need to understand is every girl is unique. She has her own personal qualities and character traits that will impact the way you approach and communicate with her. Chubby girls are no different.

It all starts with eye contact…

Bigger girls are not used to getting the same attention as some of their smaller counterparts. Therefore, when you approach a group of fat women, they’ll often be on the defensive. Bigger girls will often reject guys far harder than others.

From this perspective, a more subtle approach can work in your favor. You want to start by making some small eye contact across the room; slightly point your body towards her at a 45-degree angle. Every now and then, just send her a quick glance. When you make eye contact, hold it for a split second and then, look away. About a minute later, repeat this process. This will start the flirting sequence.

Get the approach exactly right…

Pick the right moment to approach her. Normally, I teach guys to act on instinct and approach girls instantly. However, to chat with fat women, you need to be more careful. Not only is she not used to getting a lot of attention from guys, but also her friends aren’t used to her getting a lot of attention. So, if you go and approach at the wrong time, there is the potential for them to step in and cock block. They will see your intentions as a lack of genuineness.

But, if you do a good job of flirting with eye contact, she’ll create windows in which you can approach her comfortably. She’ll either position herself close to you or head to the bar by herself. When you spot a window like this, you need to act on it quickly. It won’t stay open for long!

Never go overboard with compliments…

At the beginning of your interaction, give the girl an understated direct compliment. Being direct with girls works regardless of their body type. However, with bigger girls, you need to be able to provide your compliment in a unique way. Talk about her energy or vibe rather than her physical features.

If you compliment her on her body, it’s likely that she won’t believe you. It’s best to steer clear of this approach, regardless of how sexy you find her curves, until later down the line when you have her hook, line, and sinker.

You really need to understand how to apply these themes to different types of girls for long term success. In “Pandora’s Box,” I explore eight unique personality types that exist with all girls and explore how you can discover what personality type your girl is. This helps you figure out exactly what to say in order to win her over.