Anxiety can be a big noose around your throat when it comes to interacting with people, meeting women, and living to your full potential – but there are some exercises for anxiety that can help!
Not overcoming anxiety can have a devastating impact on your life, which is why it’s time to embrace this form of anxiety treatment. It is important that you work to overcome your issues with anxiety and turn your life around immediately, so consider how simple exercises and other activities can help with unwanted feelings.
It all gets better from here!
In my experience coaching thousands of guys all around the world, I have noticed that guys that experience really bad anxiety have a strong internal frame of reference. They are trapped inside their head, and their frame of reference is mostly on their own thoughts rather than on external stimuli.
It is important, if you want to eliminate your anxiety, that you have more of an external frame of reference. An external frame of reference means being more observant to what is going on around you rather than getting lost in a world of thoughts. Try to be more involved and aware of what is going on around you.
Anxiety can be dealt with…
Often, I will see a guy that walks in to a club and he will have about six or seven girls checking him out – yet, he is so caught up in his head that he is totally oblivious of these girls and misses valuable opportunities. If he were more observant and more in the moment, he would have noticed these signals and approached these girls.
Other guys I have seen, when they are actually interacting with girls, will be so caught up in their head that the girl will be practically humping his knee – yet, he is so caught up in his fears and insecurities that he fails to take any action with the girl. Therefore, it is important that you start to shift your frame of reference from inside your head to a more external level.
Work on core issues…
Another important thing for overcoming anxiety is to work on your core issues. Whatever is triggering the anxiety is due to something that is deep within you. I recommend that you take time to work out what that particular issue is. This can sometimes be painful, confronting uncomfortable issues, but it will help you in the long run.
I used to get major anxiety when it came to talking to hot women. I realized that, every time I would talk to a hot girl, in my head I was replaying all the negative things that happened to me as a child when girls at school would tease me. I still – even 20, 30 years later – had not flushed it out of my system, and at a core level, I was tainted by my childhood.
Think about what is triggering your anxiety and work to change it at a core level. For me, I went and did some hypnotherapy. I wrote down all my beliefs and I changed them from limiting beliefs into positive beliefs. I also developed a new frame of reference by pushing myself past my fear.
Finally, change your associations…
In addition, it is important to change how you associate certain situations with your past and how you feel. For example, if you associate hot girls with being rejected, then any time you talk to a hot girl you are just going to think that being rejected is an inevitable outcome. So, change your associations. Instead of associating pain and fear with hot girls, find some positive feelings to associate with approaching women. Associate something that is going to drive you to more positive outcomes.