It’s that time of year, the time that you’ve marked in your calendar and set in your phone so as not to forget, the time you’re kind of looking forward to on one hand but also dreading at the same time: it’s the time of year when your girlfriend’s birthday is just around the corner.
Sure, the party will be fun, sure you have an excuse to get drunk and have birthday sex, etc. However, you also have to deal with some questions. “How much should I be planning her party?” or “Should I try and surprise her?” or the biggest and most nerve-wracking one, “What can I get my girlfriend for her birthday?”
The party planning you should probably ask her about, subtly. Ask her what she’s done in the past for her birthday, and ask her what she might have in mind for this one. Chances are, she will give you some sort of indication of what she wants, and how big of a role she wants you to have in planning it. Hopefully you can simply pick up on this and make the right choice.
(Side note: “I don’t want a surprise!” can either mean “If you throw me a surprise party I will be pissed!” or “If you don’t throw me a surprise party I will be disappointed.” No one said women were easy to understand. In this case it’s probably best to ask her friends what they think, and if you do plan on throwing her one, make them heavily involved in it.)
The most important question, however, that of “what can I get my girlfriend for her birthday?” is a lot trickier. Chances are the things she wants most are clothes and/or jewelry, or perhaps things for her apartment (if she has one), etc. It is very risky to pick these things out for her. Girls have very particular styles, and sometimes things you think wold look nice will not work with her outfits for reasons you could never have imagined. What should you get her then? The best possible answer to the question of “what can I get my girlfriend for her birthday?” is something that she offhandedly (or explicitly) mentioned to you she wanted.
This is sure to make her happy, not only because she will obviously be happy with her gift, but also because you remembered what she said, which makes her feel loved. If, however, she did not mention it, you could either take her shopping and buy her something (write her a very nice card!), or get her something you know she needs such as something electronic, or a kitchen appliance, etc, or even a nice bottle of wine if she’s into that thing (in addition to something like chocolate, and a nice card!) If she has any specific interests or hobbies, see if you can get her something that goes along with them. IN this situation, talking to her friends can also be very helpful. Finally, if you didn’t get the picture yet, make her a nice card.