Love is one of the most powerful forces human beings experience. It can make you do absurd things in its name, it can make you yearn like you’ve never yearned for anything before, and it can make you think that nothing else in the world matters. However, it also has its downfalls, and they are significant.
If you think you want to find love, you just might want to reconsider.
Love fades, inevitably. The passion you had with someone initially will melt away. It can be very easy to forget this when you are not in a relationship and simply want to find love again (or for the first time), but is an unchanging fact. The problem with this is, your passion can only be redirected, at this point, towards other women.
Only the new connection, the promises and hopes you set for yourself, and the intrigue involved in getting to know a different girl romantically and emotionally can replace the intensity that is always lost eventually in love.
Besides the fact that you might tire or become bored with a relationship that lasts a long time, another reason you might not want to find love is the simple fact that the vast majority of romantic relationships eventually come to an end, and most of these end badly. It can be a terrible thing to realize you’re not in love anymore, and either perform actions that force her to break up with you, or decide to split up with her yourself. However, while breaking a heart can be terrible, getting yours broken is infinitely worse.
There is little more emotionally wrecking then being blindsided by a breakup, by seeing your vision of the immediate or indefinite future becoming suddenly and significantly altered, and by facing the prospect of many, many lonely nights ahead.
Being broken up with can affect plans you had with her, it can slap you in the face every Friday and Saturday night (not to mention every Valentine’s day), it can even affect how you watch television sitcoms or movies.
Furthermore, because it is nearly impossible to maintain a steady relationship without causing your friendships to suffer somewhat (you will almost always be faced with a choice between hanging out with them and hanging out with her), you can suddenly be left to face a group of friends that, at best, will understand and not have been happy about it, and at worst might harbor serious resentment towards you.
In short, love, and the moment when you think you want to find love, is a promise, a promise of something that will rarely, if ever, truly be delivered.
Even “happily” married couples are almost always, in a way, settling. Not only are they never able to experience falling in love again, or flirting, or having sex with different people, but there are also almost always other people out there who understand them better and they would have more fun with.
Settling down with one person is very risky, and it usually does not work out. Why not wait until you’re older? Or wait indefinitely? Many people look for love because they think they’re supposed to want it, but this is not a good reason. Make sure, if you want to find love, you know what you’re getting yourself into. If you don’t, you could be in for many nights convincing yourself you’re happy because you’re in love, sometimes unsuccessfully.