Some break ups are extremely difficult to take. You might still be in love with her, you might still have strong hopes of getting back with her, or you might simply be unready to move on to someone else. Others, however, are less emotional, and might even be downright nasty – especially if it is the result of one of you cheating on the other.
In these situations, instead of missing your ex and struggling to move on with her, you might want to get back at her. You might, as they say, want very much to “win” the break up. To do this, you need to know the best ways to get back at your ex.
How do you go about doing this?
Getting back at your ex is actually fairly simple. It involves, mainly, being happier than her after you are both single again. It involves the knowledge that anyone looking at both of your lives from the outside would easily realize that the break up was much harder on her than you, and it would involve both you and your ex knowing this as well.
One way of doing this is not contacting her.
As angry or resentful as you might be due to the circumstances of your break-up, you will almost surely have a night or two where you miss being with her, and where you cannot help but think about her fondly. The urge in this situation might be to send her a sweet text or call her just to “see how she’s doing.”
Do not do this.
If you are in this situation where getting back with your ex will almost surely not happen, contacting her will only make her view you as needy or, worse, pathetic, and will convince her that she’s better off than you are. This will make it much harder for you to win your break-up with her.
Another thing to do if you’re trying to get back at your ex in the most effective way is to go out and have fun, and try to get her to find out about it. This might mean hooking up with or flirting with other girls in front of her (or in front of someone she knows), or it might simply mean going out with your buddies, going on trips, and doing things that you weren’t really able to do when you were with her. In all cases the key is to appear to be doing great – and ideally you would be simply having a lot of fun – and like you have no need of your ex anymore.
The best way to get back at your ex, by far, is to find another girl and, furthermore, to find a better one. This could mean one that is more attractive, or more successful, or more likeable, etc, or it could simply mean one that makes you much happier than your ex ever did.
Ideally, this girl will almost make you forget about your ex completely, and it is at the moment when you realize that you don’t even give a s**t anymore about getting back at your ex – because you are in such a great place in your romantic life – that you have gotten back at her, in the greatest way possible.