Guys are wrongly assumed to be the only ones who are ever needy, so not a lot of attention is ever given to dealing with clingy girlfriends.
That stops today. If your girlfriend has low self-esteem, or for whatever reason just doesn’t give you the space to even breath, then this article is hopefully going to help you out.
By clingy I don't mean being physically close when you're together. More like her texting and calling every five minutes even though you're at work, or studying for an exam!
Step #1 – Talk about it.
Bring it out into the open. You’d be surprised how often clingy people don’t even realize what they’re doing. Sometimes they think they’re just being affectionate, when actually they’re suffocating you.
So if it were me in this situation, and I was dealing with a girlfriend who is far too clingy, I’d just ask her politely to give me some space. I would make it known with clear language to her that I need some space and time for myself when she’s not around.
Step #2 – Examine the causes.
I’m not saying to go all amateur psychologist on your girlfriend, but there’s obviously a root cause leading her to be so needy of you, and if you analyze your relationship, you might just figure it out.
Maybe she feels like she has to be possessive of you because she’s afraid to lose you. Maybe she’s really insecure because in the past other guys have left her, and she’s worried that this behavior is going to repeat with you. She probably doesn’t realize that by being so clingy, she’s doing more harm than good by pushing you away.
Or she’s just one of those people who doesn’t like to be alone, and she has a need to be around someone all the time. You’ve got to find out what the real root cause is. If there are major problems then maybe she even needs to seek some help.
Step #3 – Help her out!
In trying to figure out how to deal with a clingy girlfriend, I realized that this is an issue where she could really do with your help and support. You’re in a unique position to give her good advice and help her out.
In my case, I would push my ex-girlfriend to go out and meet new people because sometimes they don’t have a lot of friends, and feel like you’re the only person they can ever hang out with.
Perhaps she can get back in touch with a hobby or interest that used to give her satisfaction, or maybe she can take up a new hobby. Any activity that will let her lead a more fulfilling life away from you is going to make her a more complete person, and give you the space you yourself need.
The problem with clingy girlfriends is that they make you, the boyfriend, the center of their world, and so they have no choice but to revolve around you. So if you can guide her towards other interesting activities, you can still be a part of her life, just without being its centre.
Your life is important too!
And you have every right to your own happiness.
So if after you’ve tried everything above, she still doesn’t get the point, and doesn’t really try to change in any way, then sometimes the best thing to do is to leave her. I know it sounds harsh, but if being with a clingy and intrusive girlfriend does you more harm than good (and we all need our space), then you have every right to care about yourself and break up with her.
Whether you’ve decided to stick by her and help her out as much as possible, or whether you’ve broken up with her and need help finding a new girlfriend, and one who respects your need for space, we’ve got you covered!
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