Open your eyes to what is holding you back.
Hey Vin
I’ve been having a few problems with approaching women, and I tend to feel like I’ve got a lot of negative self-talk. Is there something that you can recommend that would help me?
Colin (New Jersey)
Thanks for the question, Colin. In my experience, many guys who want to get better with women often have issues which are holding them back and which they need to deal with. These issues often cause them to experience anxiety or limit their thinking. For example, they may be too caught up with the possibility of being rejected when meeting women.
Sometimes guys who are struggling to become better with women and be more confident are actually suffering from anxiety or depression. Unfortunately, they are usually so focused on finding the right opening lines and learning techniques about how to approach women that they can’t understand why none of this is working for them. They may be suffering from depression or anxiety, but they won’t think about getting the necessary help to resolve their issues.
For these reasons, the first thing which I suggest you do is complete an anxiety and depression self-test. Don’t tell yourself that this is silly or unnecessary! If you are serious about resolving any problems which you may have with women then you need to consider every possibility. There are plenty of free online self-tests, so you have absolutely no excuse for not taking one right now!
Counseling can help you with your issues and reduce any anxiety
Counseling can help you improve your self-esteem and sense of self-worth. By talking about what is bothering you, you can resolve any depression and anxiety that you may be experiencing. Counseling can give you some new perspectives, and will help you to identify the things which are holding you back. This is particularly important since the causes of your anxiety and depression may have been there for a long time.
Counseling can be a very good way of letting go of problems which you have been struggling with so that you can move on with your life. This will definitely make you more attractive to women and will help you with your dating skills. As I explained earlier, it is very difficult to become good with girls when you have all of this other stuff happening beneath the surface.
Don’t expect a magic bullet!
OK, so obviously counseling can help you in many different ways, but it isn’t a magical cure. Don’t expect a counselor to do all of the work for you. Do you really want to solve your problems once and for all? If so, start rolling up your sleeves! YOU have to take action! YOU have to change your life! A counselor can help you, but YOU have to do the work!
I would estimate that over a quarter of the guys who want help with women are actually suffering from some form of depression, anxiety, or low self-esteem. Unfortunately, I have found that most of them are not getting it treated. They aren’t talking to any mental health professionals, getting counseling, seeking therapy, or receiving any sort of help.
Don’t be like them. Search for a reputable professional and book an appointment today.
Going through counseling is potentially one of the best things you can ever do for yourself. While you improve yourself you can also move to the next level…Are you dating the hot women you deserve? If not, you need to watch my FREE video and make some changes. It won’t be online long, watch it NOW and start living the life YOU want…
Are you struggling with any depression, anxiety, or low self-esteem? Share your experiences in the comment box below – I respond to every single comment and I would love to help you!
