I used to think getting a woman was all about the cute compliments to say to a girl. Unfortunately, this doesn’t work as well as you think. It will cause you to supplicate to a girl. Supplication happens when you go out of your way to make her feel better in the hope that she’ll like you more.
Girls hate supplication. Supplication comes from woosie guys. She doesn’t want a woosie guy. She wants you to be a real man.
Compliments are all about intent…
What’s your intent for giving her cute compliments? Is it to make her think better things about you? To put you in a category above all other guys? If it is, then do yourself a favor and shut your mouth.
Regardless of the words that actually come out of your mouth, regardless of how powerful the compliment is, it won’t be received in the right way because your delivery will be coming from a place of supplication.
If, on the other hand, your intent is to make her feel better about herself, to offer her the gift of excitement, then it’s okay. The funny thing is, if your intent is pure, it doesn’t matter what compliment you give her, the words won’t matter, the intent will shine through in your expression, and she will feel them.
Make it genuine!
I’ve worked with guys in the past who have one generic compliment that they give to all girls. It might be, “Hey, I thought you were really cute and I wanted to come and say hi,” or, “You have an absolutely stunning smile and it just forced me to come over here and talk to you.”
Every now and then you’ll land on a girl that this approach will resonate with, but you’ll never get the consistency that you ultimately desire. Instead, what you want to do is come up with a unique compliment for every girl you meet. This is actually easier than it sounds.
You just need to work on your observational skills. Train yourself to have a habit of noticing five unique things about every girl you walk past. Whether you chose to actually compliment these girls at this stage is not important, but it’s important to help you compliment women.
When you train your brain to notice unique things about a girl, you’ll instantly start to identify things that you really like. When you give a genuine compliment, it adds a level of excitement to your expression, and this will be felt by her even more than the words.
Incorporate touch into your compliment…
When you give a girl a compliment and you notice a change of expression on her face, like maybe the corner of her lips start to turn up, or she stands a little bit higher, or you can just sense that deep feeling of gratitude deep within her eyes. You need to anchor that positive experience that she’s having with your touch.
The way anchors work is, when you get someone in a positive state and you touch them a certain way, they then associate that state with that touch and with you. Therefore, the next time you touch them that way, they’ll naturally experience that positive state that you’ve created for them.
Perhaps you’ve noticed this in your own life with certain songs. Without knowing why, every time that song comes on it just puts you in a good mood. You have a feeling of euphoria overcome you. This is likely because the first time you heard that song you were also in a really positive mood.
Giving lovely compliments to girls can be one of the most powerful tools in your dating and attraction toolkit, but it’s critical to know which girls to give compliments to and specifically what compliment will work best! To do this you need to have a deeper understanding of female psychology. You need to know the girls you’re approaching better than they know themselves. So, take heed of my advice!