Thinking of using a dating agency?
The real question is: Do you know what you want?
Do you know what you want?
***And when you are finished reading… please take a few seconds and share one of your dating frustrations. I’d like to help you and will try to answer each comment personally.
Dating agencies only work, if…
Maybe you think there are better girls to be found that way, or that dating agencies offer an easier alternative to the hard work of checking out every bar and singles meeting, trying to find a girl. The bad news is that dating agencies really don’t work if you don’t know what you want already.. .and not everybody does when they’re just starting out. The good news, though, is that it’s possible to discover what you want in a girl by doing – by going out and meeting women today, without even using a dating agency.
Let me tell you how…
When you first start out, there’s going to be a distinction between the times you go out expressly looking for women at night, and the times that you go out during the day to meet women. You’ll notice it, and you need to pay attention to it – because it’s something you want to work on. Ideally, you want to get to a point where meeting women is just a natural extension of your life. It’s not about one time of day or another or one venue or another, but realizing that you have the skill set to be able to pick up women wherever you might be, through whatever method is available.
Women are everywhere.
There are a wide variety of resources, in terms of how you can meet women starting today. Places like cafes and social groups can give you opportunities to meet women. Even active hobbies, such as Salsa or Zumba, can help you meet girls. Go wherever women go, and take an interest in what they are doing. Find women through your friends, online, speed dating, or singles events. There are many different dating websites and dating agencies that guys can use as a source for meeting women. Once you’ve started doing this, you’ll get better at approaching and meeting women. Then you can work on the next step, which is going from being comfortable meeting women wherever they are, to selecting fewer and more quality encounters with them.
You must take action.
Just starting out, your biggest focus should be on taking lots of action. At this point, don’t even worry about your standards. Of course you have them, but in the beginning, you need to just build results. As you do that, you’ll notice a natural progression toward increasing your standards. As you meet more women, you’ll be able to be more selective, and the relative quality of your interactions will improve. The quality will go up simply as a result of your taking massive action and having more experience.
Standards are not necessarily something that need to be focused on consciously. If anything, your best mindset in beginning this journey is simply thinking about how you can be going on more dates, and the sooner the better. How can you convert more numbers, and how can you get more numbers?
Meet more women.
Focus on meeting as many women as possible throughout your week. Interact with the most women possible, and focus on converting those meetings into dates as quickly as you can. There is definitely something to be said about just getting out there, trying things, and seeing how they work out. What might work for me may not necessarily work for you.
You can refine your technique later, but as you start out, work on building experience. Focus on tangible, measurable goals. If you need to make an Excel spreadsheet or some other means to keep track of the ratio between how many women you meet, how many you interact with beyond an initial conversation, how many phone numbers you get, how many dates you get – do it. This can be a great way to get a sense of how many new dates and how many women you need to be meeting to progress and take massive action on this particular goal. If the numbers show some problems, you can also use that data to improve your game, or call in an expert for help.
If you do all this, and you’re still struggling to convert nights out into numbers, or numbers into dates, you might consider your need for a dating coach. In fact, I’ve made it even easier for you, by putting together a free video of things I believe every dating coach should know before giving out advice. Why not check it out yourself before deciding if you need someone one-on-one coaching? You could jump ahead of the curve in your results.
***Remember: Please share one of your dating questions in the comments below. I’d like to help you and will try to answer your comment personally.
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