Want to date a girl from a different culture?
Dating a girl from a different culture can be a challenge. But if you can start with strong foundational beliefs, no matter what girl you date, you will have a healthy relationship.
Read on for details…
Gazing into each other's eyes is the same no matter what race or culture we come from
Do you have any specific questions or comments about dating advice for couples from different cultures? Please comment in the box at the bottom of the page and I’ll answer these personally.
Here’s a question from one of our readers…
Dear Vin,
I’ve met this girl who is amazing and I don’t want to screw it up. I’m struggling to know exactly how to react and am afraid of losing her. Can you help a guy out by telling me what dating and relationship advice could you give to couples who are from different cultures, or different countries? – Ted from Ohio
The first thing to understand is that to some extent, all relationships involve people from different cultures, in the sense that there are no two identical people. Most of the time, especially in cities, you’re going to meet people from different cultures, with different belief systems, upbringings, ideals, and preferences.
Being different isn’t a bad thing.
I often look at relationships as opportunities to grow by being exposed to different perspectives on life, with a strong possibility to learn from my partner. From my perspective the best relationship I had was with a girl who had been a monogamist. From the moment she was out of high school, she had always gone from one relationship to another. She was really big on commitment, and it was very important for her to really love and build a connection with her partner. Those philosophies and that perspective on life was the complete opposite to my belief system at the time.
I was really big on casual relationships. I was very concerned with not making commitments and I preferred to keep multiple open relationships going at the same time, and sharing my love with many people. I was into the belief that love didn’t really exist, that it was a form of self-hypnosis. Interestingly, we got along together very well because there were parts of her personality that really challenged parts of my personality, and it made me see the world in a different way, and respond in a different way.
At the same time, I was able to confer to her some very important skills as well.
I was able to give her the gift of being more relaxed, not getting too stressed, basically being a bit more adventurous, exploring more of her sexual side and essentially being a little bit more selfish and thinking about what was important for her. She in turn was able to give me the gift of rediscovering love; she was able to give me the gift of building a connection and feeling the power of two people becoming one, which allowed us to reach a whole other level, by completely disappearing into each other.
So a lot of the time if people have differences, whether it be cultural or whether it be belief systems, or whether it be what their preferences are, recognize that for the opportunity that it is — the opportunity to explore a part of yourself that maybe you haven’t yet explored. These can widen your perspective on life.
Do you believe people from two different cultures have the ability to succeed in the long term?
Perhaps come to some sort of cultural compromise or create a new cultural mix as a couple? Well, of course they do. It’s not to say that you need to be from different cultural backgrounds to be successful, but the advantage of being from a different cultural perspective is that you’re able to bring the best part of both cultures together and create your own culture, and I guess that’s what relationships are all about: creating your own culture.
Ask yourself…
What’s important to you as a couple? What beliefs are you going to go by? What values are you going to live by? So, I guess the advantage that two people from different cultures have is that they’ve got a different set of experiences, and a lot of the time you can pick the best parts of their respective cultures, merge them together, and create something really powerful that utilizes all the positives from both people.
***Remember: Please share one of your dating questions in the comments below. I’d like to help you and will try to answer your comment personally.
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