The idea of dating within your league, is not something I believe in.
You look at her and have an immediate read about your whole dating experience together. You are already thinking about how… inn the end, she will be leaving you for her better match. AND you haven’t even asked her name.
Do you think women are out of your league? I used too. When I was less confident I would look at really attractive women and feel inadequate. Like I wasn’t good enough and that they were too good for me. How wrong I was…
It is important to realize that if you start seeing women as being out of your league, then it says a lot about how you perceive yourself and potentially how your life is going at the moment. The quality of your life is going to be a reflection of the quality of women that you draw into your life.
Don’t be a one trick pony.
Having been in the dating community for a long time, there is no doubt that I have been exposed to a lot of guys who are great at picking up women, but have a poor quality of life. These guys are very good. They can go out any night and pick up a woman, but they really do not have anything else going in their lives. They live fairly boring and mundane lives.
In all honesty, the women that they are picking up are not as high quality as you want to believe. They might be fairly attractive, but most of them are not high quality women with high values. There are a few things that men need to consider when they start feeling as though women are out of their league.
To be specific, there are three key points that men should focus on in order to start attracting any woman they want including dating someone out of your league.
1. Having a Purpose.
The first key is having a purpose. Women are attracted to men, who have a purpose. They like goal-oriented men, because it appeals to their innate sense of wanting to be provided and cared for. This means that you should be a man whose life is driven by his purpose and if you don’t know your purpose learning all you can on how to find your purpose in life.
If you do not know what your purpose is, start pursuing things. Consider it an opportunity to learn more about yourself and experience new things. This is a pretty damn good workbook for identifying your Life Purpose.
You can explore many different paths and build personal experience. For the time being, your purpose can simply be to find what your purpose is. The fact that you have a purpose in life and that it is something that really fuels you and motivates you is by far one of the most attractive qualities you can demonstrate to the opposite sex.
The second would be passion, and it is related to purpose. Be a man whose quality of life is filled with passion and enriched experience. This includes things like having a rich social calendar or acquiring different hobbies. Generally, be the sort of person that when others are sharing their time with you, you are adding or contributing value to their lives because you are exposing them to things they have never exposed themselves to.
Some tips on dating women that I can offer you are; you can start trying and exploring things that were previously not interesting to you or that you did not think you had time for. It might be something like dancing or going to art exhibits. Just be the sort of person who really starts to diversify his life by trying a wide variety of things and that includes dating women who you previously thought were out of your league.
3. Raise Your Standards
The third one would be the standards by which you live your life. The truth is that a lot of people have low standards for themselves. This includes how they demonstrate who they are emotionally, physically and mentally. Be the sort of person that really respects and values yourself. This can be reflected in the way you dress and the way you take care of yourself. You tend not to think certain women are out of your league when you really look after yourself.
This may mean taking a little bit of time to start checking out some GQ magazine or some other men’s magazines – like Men’s Health, FHM, Esquire – so you can get ideas of what is attractive. Usually one of the first things I do with a student is get them to subscribe to these magazines. Part of it is simply taking pride in being a man and your masculinity.
You may even spend a bit of money and hire a personal assistant. You would actually be surprised that the cost of it is a lot less than you think. Or even a virtual assistant to help with tasks in your life.
It will be a great long term contributor to your success and really improving your chances of dating high quality women. When you focus on your purpose, passion and standards, you will find that there aren’t many women that will seem out of your league. Not only will you feel more confident about yourself, but the women will be more attracted to you.
Stop and pay close attention because what you really need is a boost in confidence, wouldn’t you agree? If you fail to see just how amazing you can be for the right woman, you are lacking more than variety in your life.
Sooner or later you’ll realize that there are powerful techniques that allow you to develop self-confidence overnight, eliminate rejection, and get any girl to go out with you.
Do you have questions about dating? Ask in the comments below and I’ll answer each one personally.
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