Does the idea of committment to one woman terrify you?
Are you petrified by the thought of actually having to meet a woman?
Is it finally time to admit the truth–
You’re using dating services to avoid making a real effort…
One real problem with guys using dating services is that they can tend to avoid going out into the real world and making effort.
So what are some alternate dating services that a guy can use to start to open up his dating circle a little more? What are some ways to be creative about this instead of just messaging girls online or using dating services?
1. Broaden Your Horizons
There’s the norm; online dating and setting up a profile on various websites and meeting girls online.
The other strategy is going out and meeting women. However, what you have to be careful of is that even with free dating services they don’t free you of the responsibility of going into the real world.
These are smart, however you can also check out singles groups that are starting to pop up all around. Especially in larger cities there are singles events with anywhere from 20 women to 2,000.
2. Align Your Search With Your Interests
For instance, there’s an organisation called boot camp, that is specifically for single people who are into health and fitness. You join up with this boot camp and train with other single people, and there’s a bit of mingling that happens afterwards, so you can interact with like-minded people.
If you’re a fitness fanatic, then you’re going to be running around and chatting to girls that are into fitness also, so there will be some commonalities there. There are various other interests groups: there’s meetup.com that runs all across the world, which has groups where people can meet up with similar interests.
Perhaps you might be an entrepreneurial person who can find other business people, or be into vampires and find a group that likes the movie Twilight, or you might like to read and join a book club. The best dating advice I can give you is to increase the amount of women you meet that you actually connect with and seem to like you.
If all your interests involve stuff that women don’t do, like chess or computer games, then try some new hobbies and interests.
When guys tell me they have tried this and it didn’t work, I want to give them a gentle slap because they’ve never really pushed this idea to the max.
3. Look for Commonalities
Start meeting girls who have a built-in commonality.
I suggest there are places you can go to like shopping malls, festivals and other events like that, where there are plenty of single women around and there’s less competition than in bars and clubs — and less drunkenness. Meeting women using dating services often don’t have the same chemistry as meeting women in these real world scenarios.
Women are more approachable in these happy daytime scenarios; and less defensive. The other thing I would recommend would be going to dance classes or yoga, where there’s going to be a high chance women are going to be around; you’re going to be surrounded by single women. Put yourself in places like that where you can chat to girls.
4. Use Google To Help
I would research “events for single people,” “dating activities” or, whatever your home town is, say if it’s New Jersey, “single activities in New Jersey” or something like that, just to make it as broad as possible, and see what comes out of your search.
There might be an online site that has a calendar to tell you about what is happening in your hometown for singles.
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