Q: I’m struggling to keep it dirty enough for my girlfriend! She seems to want me to become more aggresive, talk dirty, and do some…things I can only describe as “new”. What do I do? How do I know she won’t get upset with me for following her lead?
A: Stop worrying because I’m sure plenty of guys have been in situations where their girlfriend wants to become a lot more aggressive in bed. What would you suggest we do about this?
I think this is actually a really common scenario that maybe guys aren’t aware of, and it just comes back to them not acknowledging that most women have a side of their personality where they are a little bit dirty. They sometimes enjoy being a little dirty, and they enjoy turning their man on in such a way.
So the first step is to acknowledge that this is a natural process for most women, even the most clean cut women who you wouldn’t have expected it from. If you put them in an environment with a male which encourages that side of her personality to come out, then they will really surprise you. So the first step is for you to recognize that it is a natural process and a natural component of most women’s personalities.
If you’ve acknowledged that your girlfriend wants to explore that side of her personality more often, that’s the second step. In terms of encouraging it, for me it comes down to just getting into that particular mindset.
Maybe being a little bit more dominant myself, pinning her down on the bed, gently pulling on the back of her hair, maybe even just lightly strangling her when we’re making out or when we’re in the process of foreplay.
Another technique you can try is to communicate with her verbally through dirty talk or through aggressive statements, like what I’m going to do to her or what I want her to do to me, and then fully embracing her and letting her take over me.
So there might be a part where I’m sort of dominating a girl, but then I roll over and roll her onto me, and I sort of play along where I’m fighting back but also letting her completely physically dominate me. I think it’s exciting for both the girl and the guy.
What concrete, real world advice would you suggest for encouraging our girls to be dirtier in bed?
I think there are three things a guy can do today to play around with the idea of encouraging his girlfriend to be more aggressive in bed, and to become a lot dirtier. The first is to start to ramp up her sexual energy throughout the day. Start by fucking her really hard in the morning. Catch her by surprise. Spoon up against her and just start moving your dick around her pussy. Maybe even use some saliva to lubricate your cock and slip it in.
Then throughout the day send her some dirty text messages. Tell her that you didn’t shower, that you can still smell her on you, and that it’s driving you crazy. Tell her that you can’t concentrate on your work because you keep fantasizing about what you want her to do to you. Don’t be surprised if she plays along.
Finally, find a way to work yourself up and send her a photo of your hard cock (make sure to follow sexting laws in your state so you don’t get in trouble). Women are hard wired to respond to a hard cock — they can’t help themselves. By the time she gets home she’ll be in such a frenzy that she won’t be able to hold off jumping your bones. The experience will be so intense that you can probably expect her to have marks on her bottom lip from where she’s been biting it all day. The next morning, rinse and repeat!
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