Do women really like men or do they just tolerate them to get what they want and need?
It’s interesting, but I think a large percentage of the female population, tolerate men and the relationships that they’re in, and I think the equation goes both ways. We live in a society where we’ve almost gotten comfortable with the idea of compromise. We’ve almost gotten comfortable with the idea of close enough is good enough.
I think that one of the powerful things about the Vin DiCarlo Coaching and guys getting involved with it, is that they recognize that they no longer have to settle. This is very important, because it means that when you actually learn how to turn a girl on properly and how to attract her, how to sustain that attraction, and escalate things, then she will actually start to appreciate you and she will start to like you on a deeper level.
Can you appreciate her ‘womanliness’ in wanting a you?
I think the first thing that guys want to focus on, is being able to reward a woman when she demonstrates interest in him. So, when she goes out of her way to work on winning you over, then you need to become great at recognizing that and letting her know that that’s a positive quality. Women need to feel that they are being appreciated and are doing the right thing. When you respond positively to her advances and affections, she will naturally shower more on you and allow you to escalate to a number of different levels.
However, when you reward her with your attention and if you feel like she’s not working for your approval, then you have to react. By allowing yourself to become complacent in your relationships and accepting how she is behaving towards you, your relationship will eventaully crumble into nothing. You need to keep the affection from your girlfriend ongoing. When you feel that this is not happening, you need to punish her by removing your attention. What you are doing is setting up a precedent and a frame of how the interaction is going to work that essentially says: she’s going to be working for my attention.
The great thing about this is that if a woman is actually made to work to win a guy over, she feels like the relationship is worthwhile. She needs to understand that you are a high value guy and that there are a number of women out there who find you attractive and want to be with you. This is not a question of bolstering your ego, but rather that you are a man of worth who has a lot to give to a woman under the right circumstances. It is common knowledge that the harder we have to work for something the more we appreciate it. And when things are almost given to us we tend to not value them quite as much.
It is a massive turn on for a woman to know that she’s won over a high-value man – a man who is sensitive and at the same time exudes confidence. So stand your ground, recognize your worth as this is one of the greatest gift that you can give a woman and it will make her feel incredibly special.