Want a woman who lives to be with you… hangs on your every word… and creates opportunities to meet your every need?
Sounds unbelievable, right? Well, I thought the same thing. But by learning how to empathize with her, you too will have that girl you like eating out of your hand.
Read on for all the details…
***And when you are finished reading, please take a few seconds and ask a question or share a frustration in the comments. I’d like to help you and I’ll try to respond personally.
Share her feelings
Being a man of your word is important. For her to trust you and open with you, then you must know that the words you are speaking are true, because she has seen you act on them in the past. Women desire genuineness in conversations, which means you need to mean what you say.
On the other hand, listening and really feeling what she is feeling, will strengthen her connection. In other words, this means, “putting yourself in her shoes.” Empathy must be used, which means the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. This skill will help you build the kind of connection that will make her WANT to do anything for you.
But reading advice isn’t enough
Most regular dating advice on empathy is not helpful whatsoever. Theoretical information won’t help you. Plus, the guy who wrote it might be good with women, and it might be excellent for his personal approach.
- But will his approach work for you own style?
- And also will it work for the type of women you like?
All the best dating advice in the world won’t help, if you don’t practice. Learning empathy is a life skill, that is only acquired by practicing. Just like if you were trying to learn a guitar, you could only learn so much by reading a book. You also would need to spend many hours learning the chords, fingerings, and how to read music. Plus, at first your songs are not going to be very good. But you have to push through and in time you will be able to play a simple song, then maybe a complex song.
The same goes for learning empathy. Techniques like conversation, approaching women, being attractive, or avoiding the friend zone – are powerful skills. These are skills that make everything else super easy to do, once you master them.
Practice empathy now
Here’s a simple exercise you can do to start practicing empathy today. The next time you are having a conversation with your girlfriend (or it could be anyone really), try this:
- Focus on listening to her story, but more importantly listen to how she felt during her story or how she feels as she is sharing it now.
- Identify a feeling that it sounds like she was feeling (it doesn’t matter if you are right, being close is enough).
- Then, when it is your turn to talk, simply say, “That sounds frustrating,” or insert whatever feeling you identified.
- She will probably say something like, “I know” and then continue elaborating on her story.
- Repeat this process. The next time she pauses and waits for you to speak, identify another feeling. “Sounds sad too…” And this will again encourage her to continue sharing more of her story.
This is how to empathize in its simplest form. By trying to “feel” what she is feeling and by simply identifying it, you can create a strong emotional bond.
When it comes to knowing exactly how to talk with women at any time, the key life skill that will give you the power to do that is emotional empathy. Learning and mastering this skill will dramatically improve ALL your results. When guys are learning to be good with women, they tend to look for a quick fix, or a Band-Aid solution, which is like trying to fix holes in a boat with masking tape. You’re going to have to put in more effort to master this life skill, but the results you gain will be amazing.
Empathy will give you an abundance of women
In time, communicating with empathy will come natural… in fact, this style of communication is natural for most women, who are usually built to be more in touch with their feelings. With strong empathy skills, the things you currently are having trouble doing with women, you’ll be able to do easily; things like knowing how to start a conversation, keeping your first conversation flowing like you’ve known each other forever, or leading it naturally to where you want it.
Empathy happens when you’re able see things from another person’s viewpoint and the world from their perspective. When it comes to talking with women, mastering empathy allows you to realize that she is probably more nervous than you are, gives you great insight to what she is thinking, and helps you to know what topics she will be interested in. Every guy I have ever coached, who struggled to talk with women, lacked empathy. If you only master one skill in your life, make it this one.
When you can see life from a woman’s perspective and voice this when speaking to her, you will get more than get your foot in the door. Empathy is a life skill that will help you with life in general. People can see it, feel it, and it touches their soul.
When it comes to dating, being able to empathize will increase your chances of having more than one date with a woman. When you can talk on their level, they will level with you more. It’s just simply a win-win situation.
***Remember: please take a few seconds and ask a question or share a frustration in the comments. I’d like to help you and I’ll try to respond personally.
And advanced empathizing goes beyond just emotional empathy…
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