This fun can be described into three terms that we will break down so that you can attract girls like the Mad Men attract girls.

1. Confidence is the number one unique item in the Mad Men repertoire. Women love confidence in a male above all else because it means they are proud of who they are. On a survivalist scale, a woman would prefer a man who is overconfident that he can kill the beasts in a forest rather than the person with a shaky gun. This is something that is designed into the woman’s brain, so if you have it, it is an instant attraction.

How it translates into fun?

Confidence in men leads to wild parties, adventures, interesting discoveries, and a wild sex life. Sex is one of the most important things to a woman, which is why they guard it; the same can be said about a man’s family or money. Do you want a family that wakes up with depression every morning or an ever fear of losing all of your money because of a mistake? Usually the answer is no, so why would women settle for a man that does not do anything interesting just because he could.

2. Charisma is the second thing that Mad Men attract girls with. Charisma only comes from a person who has been confident in themselves a long time. In a survival situation, charisma is actually used for camouflage and making sure the attacks hit with precision while barely using any strength. This would mean that the person could get more than the normal amount of food and a woman’s greed knows no bounds. You might be asking yourself, “But that’s stealth or weapons training, why did you say it’s charisma?” Weapons training means nothing if you do not have confidence, the ability to use that weapons training while commanding over excellent confidence is charisma.

How it translates to fun?

Charisma leads to laughter, comfort ability, and adding more friends to a party. To women charisma is needed along with the confidence to go out and have a great time with friends or complete strangers. Without charisma, everything would seem like an awkward high stakes Texas hold ‘em match that never ends and only has two people.

3. Big dreams are like a sucker for women because as we said before, a woman’s greed knows no bounds. The bigger the dream the more the woman will be into you but it has to be a realistic and not creepy dream. In survival, a big dream actually means being able to live in a nicer place. To most, this does not make sense, but when you are in survival mode, all you can think about is a way to make the home life better. This causes chain events that will mean for a better place of living.

How it translates to fun?

The bigger the dream the higher the roller coaster, that means more experiences to reach that goal. Women want to have the greatest they can out of life and if a man’s dream is so small, like getting a pay raise, they feel like they are being cheated out of life. If a man has a huge dream then it will take a lot of work and various experiences just to get to that goal. The more the future life of the man seems interesting the more a woman will fall for him. Think of it like a meal, do you drool over a crumb or over a feast?

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1. The Wink – Whenever you are handing a really attractive woman a drink, the number one way you can drop a hint is to drop a wink at her when ending the conversation to go to another guest. This means that you are interested but you cannot say it on the spot. Women will always translate it to this, as women who are attractive are also vain.

2. The Tease – This only works while they are sober but it works really well at getting them to smile, provided they are not in a bad mood. When you go to hand them their first or second drink, you play a very short game of “Can you get it?” This introduces a very playful mood that they will always have a perked up interest for you and this is the most commonly used hint out of the 10 ways bartenders can drop hints to girls on the other side of the bar.

3. Messing with the Drunk – This can be potentially volatile but it works almost instantly to get a girl to give you her number. The most commonly used one is taking their drink away when they are not looking. You will only want to do this a maximum of two times, because afterwards they tend to get irritated.

4. Number on a Napkin – This hardly hits but occasionally it does work, as women do get drunk. The trick to getting it to work is to write a very sweet poem to go along with it that plays on her vanity.

5. A Flower – If a really attractive regular customer keeps coming in then you can use this one. On her second or third drink, or after she’s tipsy, place a rose on the table along with her drink. Because her inhibitions are lowered, it is rare that she asks why it was done but instead sees it as extremely sweet.

6. Filler up Depression – If a really attractive woman is acting lonely and depressed, this one will usually work. Depressed women will not come while it is crowded but also will not come when there are barely any customers. You are the best friend while filling her glass until you can coax her into having fun. If you have some extra cash then this trick will work on the dime almost every time. When she is in a better mood but she doesn’t have enough cash to pay the bill, offer to pay it in exchange with her phone number.

7. 1 Free Drink – Because you’re the bartender and the amount of liquor sold is usually an estimate, you have a small leeway. If a woman seems she is flirting with you, you can always try giving her a free drink along with a compliment. This is the secondly most used of the 10 ways bartenders can drop hints to girls on the other side of the bar but because it’s the bartender, it usually works.

8. Wavy Smile – In order for this to work, you have to know the woman you’re using it on. Otherwise, you’ll just be that weird guy who smiles differently. If you’ve known them for a while, this type of smile opens the door to different possibilities if she’s already shown an interest into you.

9. The Buddy Trick – Have a friend stick around the girls you want and gather info on the women. This will tell you what they like, what they are like, and what they look for in a guy. Your friend will be able to see what they turn down and what they don’t. Then say something to the women you know they will like and give credit to your buddy. This is the sneakiest way out of 10 ways bartenders can drop hints to girls on the other side of the bar but it works like a charm every time.

10. The Book – This is a hint that only works with hot nerdy girls. They may be lawyers, scientists, or detectives but there are many jobs that require intelligent women. Giving them a favorite book of someone you know they’ll like is something that will hit the hint right off the bat. Out of all the 10 ways bartenders can drop hints to girls, this one works the fastest.

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So what makes these the sweetest things to say to a girl? Well, it is a little bit of voice tone and a lot of understanding how psychology works. When it comes to saying some of the sweetest things to say to a girl, it is usually dependent on the type of girl.

However, you are in luck, as we do have a lot of words that you can memorize so you can whisk her heart away. If you don’t know what type of girl she is yet, or you have run out of catchy pickup lines, then all you have to know about “sweetness” is how to make it sound like it’s three different things. Women love intimacy, flattery, and controlled confidence. Women and men were raised in a society where men were in power, so they adapted to a man with great power is something to be attracted to. Sometimes this can be money but most of the time it’s controlled confidence when saying some of the sweetest things to say to a girl.

Here is a list of things you can say to a woman;

1. “Your eyes are like a sea of” is something you say depending on their eye color. For example if their eyes are green then you can say, “Your eyes are like a sea of emerald trees that I could get lost in forever.” In addition, if you are good with words you can attach another sentence of flattery to it for extra measure.

2. Begin acting as if you’re distracted by looking at her face in a lost gaze and if she asks what you’re looking at, say the following, “I’m sorry I was distracted by your face” pause for tension, “It’s like a work of art, so full passion and beauty. It really is distracting.” Then crinkle the eyebrows while bringing out a smile and this is one of the sweetest things to say to a girl because it is full of confidence and flattery with a lot of intimacy. It is intimate for a woman because do you have any idea how long it took to apply the makeup she is wearing?

3. One of the best of the sweetest things to say to a girl is right when you begin a conversation, but in order for it to work, she has to say hello first. It should play out like this;

Her – “Hello”

You – “Hi.” – Say this with a smile.

Her – “How are you?”

You – “Well I had a pretty busy day but your smile made me forget everything.” Say this with a crooked smile.

This works on the very basic principles of ultimate intimacy as it implies that the smallest things she could do made you happy. This actually goes back to when men were just the workers and women really could not share a lot of the burden. It takes a long time to get out of something that your family adapted to.

4. Something you can say when you think a conversation is going sour because of arguing but you really like the girl is, “You’re adorable when you’re mad.”

This is extremely sweet and something you can actually win the argument with. It is a different type of flattery because it works on all women.

5. If you are just going in to meet a woman, do not ever enter the conversation with one of these three things; Hey, How are you, or You looked lonely.

You always want them to laugh when you meet them but not come off creepy. A line that usually works is, “Hi, hey do you know where the bathroom is? My inebriated friend wants to get rid of some stuff that the alcohol argued with.” When she answers, apologize for lying to her and tell her exactly why you used the excuse.

It is very important to jump at the opportunity of talking to her once you have done this. It will take a few tries to get it done right.

If you feel that you will never find special someone to share your life with, then don’t despair! Anyone can find true love. Unfortunately, a lot of guys sabotage themselves by making a very common mistake: they try too hard!

You see, one of the problems with falling in love is that the harder you try, the more difficult it becomes. Why? Because you can’t force true love. It’s an organic process that happens naturally when all of the circumstances in your life are right.

Anyone can find true love - even YOU!

Instead of trying to find true love, focus on getting your life in order!

This is far more productive because it will prepare you for when the right girl does present herself. Not only will you be able to act on that opportunity immediately, you will also have a much greater chance of success since all of the circumstances that you need for true love will be in place.

So what are these circumstances? What do you need to sort out so that you seize opportunities for falling in love instead of squandering them?

#1: You need to like your life

Liking your life might sound like weird advice, but it is actually the first and most important step that you can take to find true love. Imagine that you find an incredible girl and that the two of you fall in love. What do you think will happen if she ends up becoming the most important thing in your life? How do you think she will feel if she is your only reason for living?

If you make a girl the center of your universe, then you will end up putting a lot of pressure on her. She will feel very burdened knowing that your happiness depends entirely on her.

You can’t use love to fill the hole in your life.

True love should be the topping on the sundae. It should add value to your life, not be your sole reason for living. So get your life together and focus on adding more things that you are passionate about.

When I work with new clients, I often find that what excites them the most are the things that they aren’t currently doing. Everyone has several hobbies or interests that they love, but no longer do for whatever reason. What are yours?

#2: You need to recognize the love around you

You will never find true love if you treat it selfishly. Appreciate the love that already surrounds you. When you see two elderly people holding hands while walking down the street, admire their devotion to one another. When you pass a young couple caring for their newborn child, bask in their unconditional love.

Never envy people who have what you want – jealousy will kill your chances of true love quicker than anything else.

As you become better at noticing the love around you, try extending your appreciation even further by paying more attention to the women in your life. Every time that you meet a girl, make a mental note of five things that you appreciate about her. It doesn’t matter whether you are romantically interested in her or not. Developing your appreciation is all that counts.

#3: You need to know what you want

So many people search for true love without even knowing what exactly they are looking for! If you want to meet “the one”, then you need to have a really good idea of the type of girl who you want to settle down with.

Here’s a simple exercise that you can do right now: grab something to write with and make a list of the top ten qualities that you look for in a woman. What are the features, traits, and values that are the most important to you?

The reason why this is so important is because it is much easier to find a certain type of girl when you know what she is like. So many guys are literally looking for love in all the wrong places because they never stop to think where the women who they want are likely to be.

When have a clear picture of the girl who you want to settle down with, you can find out where she is likely to be, and plan how to be in those places more often.

#4: You need to use your resources

Research shows that the top three methods for meeting a potential spouse are through work, through friends, and through social activities. So it’s pretty clear that spending all of your free time in a bar is not the most productive way to find true love.

By tapping into the resources that you already have, you will dramatically increase your chances of falling in love. For starters, speak with your female friends, as well as the girlfriends of your male friends, and let them know that you are looking for someone to settle down with. Within a day or two you could have a network of women serving as your eyes and ears!

#5: You need to be comfortable with being single

Remember how the very first tip that I shared with you was about liking your life? Well, this is basically an extension of that. You need to be comfortable with being single because it is almost impossible to attract people into your life when you hate the life that you have.

If you find it hard not to feel frustrated with being single, then reflect on all of the advantages of living a single life.

You can date multiple women before committing yourself to your true love. You are free to be whoever you want, and do whatever you want, without the responsibility that comes with a serious relationship.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that you should settle for being single. I’m just saying that you need to enjoy your life regardless of your relationship status. You are much more likely to find a girlfriend and fall in love when you are happy and having fun.

What could you do to enjoy your life more? Please share in the comments.

Most of us are working on a few things (or more) to experience more enjoyment in our lives. Please share what you are working on in the comments. I’ll respond to each one personally.

Your friend,

-Vin