You never get a second chance to make a good first impression. It’s a shame, but people “often judge a book by it’s cover”, so your “cover” must be at the top of it’s game.
Making a great first impression counts whenever you are meeting someone for the first time. You’re first impression has got to be your best impression, because we are often judged by that first meeting. When you are first meeting a woman, you want to make sure she doesn’t think “no way in hell” when she sees you.
You want her to run towards you, not away from you. What are some of the big no no’s that immediately ruin a guy’s chances with a woman? First appearances, or how you visually present yourself right off the bat, can ruin things before you even have a chance to open your mouth.
There are certain steps you can take to make sure that ruining a first impression never happens to you. After reading this article, take the time to read Attraction Code, which covers issues such as body language, making eye contact, attracting women, and everything on the how-to’s on developing your inner game.
Step 1: Appearances are important.
You’ve got to look like a guy who’s got his game together. Too many guys that I meet through the seduction community haven’t put any energy into their appearance at all. They haven’t worked on their grooming, they haven’t worked on knowing what sort of look they want to present to women, and they certainly haven’t worked on upgrading their fashion sense.
I think a lot of guys think that if they are good at pickups, have great communication skills, and have a great routines that work for them, that they don’t have to work on their looks. It’s kinda like when people get married and the wife gains weight, and the husband walks around unshaven and disheveled.
Making a good first impression means that you need to look like a ten so that you get positive responses right out of the gate. When you come in looking like a five, that’s a potential barrier that you may not recover from. So, make sure that your first impression is one of being self-assured, and that you stay in shape and dress accordingly.
Something very powerful you can do is study amazing people, and look at their image. Personally I’m always watching and reading biographies about amazing people. I find there is something amazing and inspirational about people that I build into my image and energy. Check out this amazing documentary about Andrea Bocelli – remember, he was blind…
Step 2: Make sure your body language presents a positive you.
Work on your body language and the way you present yourself. There’s an estimate that 93% of communication happens on a nonverbal level. With that said, body language means everything. Be comfortable with who you are and stand tall. Walk and demonstrate your confidence in your sexual nature, because that is very important. Believe in yourself and your abilities.
If you are one who doesn’t make eye contact when you speak, then women especially won’t believe a word your saying. They will either think you have something to hide, your a liar, or you are unsure of yourself. All of these are major turn-offs.
Step 3: Work on your vocal tonality.
Another component of nonverbal expression is the tone of your voice, your pacing, and also the up and down inflection of your voice. I think the biggest mistake that I see in terms of communication styles is guys feeling like they have nothing important to say, so they rush through their speech. Guys feel like if they don’t get everything out that they need to say, that women won’t listen. But when you rush, you have the opposite effect. You’ll find that a woman will switch off quickly if you rush through what your saying.
You want to speak slowly, and when you finish speaking you want to be able to leave gaps which creates space and encourages her to invest in the interaction by responding to what you’ve said. If you’re not creating space and allowing her to respond, usually her responses will be short and choppy. You’ll be able to sense the value of the interaction slipping away, because she won’t be able to get a word in edgewise.
These three things are ways to make a good first impression, and will definitely help guys get a better response right off the bat. They are imperative in making a good first impression, so that you have a chance to make a second, third, and fourth. Remember that you NEVER get a second chance to make a good first impression, so make your first impression the one you are remembered by.