Why bore yourself with the small, insignificant fish. Be the shark. Go for the big fish. But don’t become so aggressive that you scare her away…
How does he make sure he doesn’t scare all the fish away, when he is dating?
The problem with lines is that the only way a guy can reasonably know where it is, he must step over it. I encourage guys to work on being more aggressive, more dominant, and really go fishing for girls.
Work on telling girls exactly what it is that you like, and even go so far as suggesting girls do those things for you.
There’s of course always a danger that the guy might come off as being a little arrogant, or the other danger is that he’ll come off as being a player. But I think that’s a good step in the guy’s evolution. It’s almost a necessary step, and I think everyone who takes their dating more seriously (and has in their past life been perceived as a nice guy and put in the Friend Zone by girls) is ultimately going to go through this process.
What you realize when you become ultra aggressive and dominant with girls is that yes, deep down they respond warmly to it on a sexual level. But the biggest challenge that I found when I was super aggressive with girls was that while they would respond well to my aggressiveness, their friends didn’t like it.
In my case, I was then able to take the philosophy of being aggressive and dominant, and incorporate it in a way that I could fly under the radar for a little bit but also clearly state my intent.
What are the advantages of a guy who is dominant?
The first one is that he knows what he wants; he states it and he goes after it.
He’s also persistent… without being needy. If he wants something, he doesn’t just accept the first no that the girl gives him. He keeps escalating and going after her, and if he does this in a way that doesn’t come off as needy – it’s incredibly attractive.
In dating, he keeps going after the big fish, when the other guys have given up.
The second thing that is really powerful about guys who are dominant and aggressive is that they lead the girl.
You’ll often find that girls are like chameleons. A girl is actually willing to change her personality, her beliefs, and who she is on a core level to fit in with a guy who’s a strong leader.
That really is counter-intuitive to how most guys are; most guys will do the opposite.
They’ll change what their interests are just so that they can feel like they can talk about a topic that would appeal to the girl. That’s the entirely wrong approach.
By being dominant, you can affect her on a core level, because she wants to be submissive. She doesn’t want to be the dominant one, she doesn’t want to lead; so guys who do that are going to be really attractive to her.
In the dating ocean, the big fish can be a challenging fight, but will be that much tastier.
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