Guys who are new to flirting are clueless on the in’s and out’s of what flirting is and how to be successful at it.
Flirting is easy, it’s our minds that make it seem difficult. It doesn’t have to be sexual in nature, and I think that is where most guys get hung up, they think flirting is only used for attracting women, getting dates, and getting laid.
Flirting doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual. That’s a mistake that most guys make, that flirting is only used for sexual purposes. Flirting isn’t necessarily used for trying to pick up women; flirting is a feel-good technique used for just trying to get along in life and enjoying life to the fullest.
The REAL definition of flirting.
So then, what is flirting? Flirting is really about just having a good time, being witty and quick with your responses. One of the best ways to become better at flirting is to start taking improvisational classes. This will help you tremendously with your communication skills, your responses, and how quickly you can come back with funny, interesting, and witty things to say.
Another thing that you want to pay attention to, and applying more, is the power of body language. You can be talking to a girl and randomly just push her away from you in a playful manner. Not too hard, but in a jokingly fashion. You can get a girl, hold her arm, pull her in towards you, and then push her away. That simple act is just old-fashioned flirting, nothing fancy about it.
You could scratch her head, you could poke her in the ribs, anything. It doesn’t have to be too serious and it doesn’t have to be sexual in nature. I don’t consider poking someone in the ribs as sexual flirting, it’s just monkeying around. What a great way to communicate, and have fun while your doing it. Flirting is a great communication skill without a word ever spoken.
Useful tips on the art of flirting.
In terms of talking to more people in your life, and polishing your dating skills, you want to be the person that is constantly pushing and pulling. Now, when you’re pushing and pulling, you’re creating a setting where you leave someone wanting more. The reason this technique works is because we all want what we can’t have.
Let’s use the example of playing with a cat. If you put a piece of cotton on the floor and just leave it there, and a cat walks by, it’s not going to touch it, it will just walk on by. But, if you get that same piece of cotton and put it in front of the cat’s nose and then pull it away, and keep repeating this action, you’ll catch that cat’s attention. The cat’s going to come and try to grab it with the intent of getting it.
Flirting uses the same principle. The way I see it, flirting is just simply being playful. When you use the push-pull method, you’re making someone feel good, and when you push away, you’re creating an atmosphere where they want more. I do this with girls I talk to, and guys as well. It do it with everyone, because it’s just who I am. Flirting is just a way of life with me, and it makes me a likeable guy. People enjoy being in my company.
If you can learn to look at flirting as just being playful, then you’ll have no problem implementing this in your life. If you are one of those guys who don’t know how to play, then learn. Life shouldn’t be taken seriously all the time, because if you find playing painfully hard, then most likely you find life painfully hard as well. Learn to loosen up, and add flirting to your words, actions, and reactions. Flirting is really easy if you look at it in terms of simply being playful. After all, what is life if you can’t have fun!