Guys often look to their friends for advice and support in dating, but care must be taken that you use the “right” friend, or else the friend and the results could backfire.
Friends can be a great avenue for support in your quest for dating and relationship advice. But, with that said, you must look at it from two perspectives; you must be seeking this support from the right friend.
There are friends who are supportive, encouraging, and really have your best interest at heart. And then, on the opposite spectrum, there are friends who are only looking out for number one, themselves. So beware of which one you are seeking support from, and choose your male friends wisely.
A supportive friend is a positive asset.
True friends are friends that desire you to be a better man. Maybe you have a friend who has more dating experience than you have, and he sincerely wants you to be successful with women as well. This friend would be very helpful in your journey, because his guidance and wisdom are invaluable.
You probably have some great buds out there just like you are, muddling along and doing the best they know how. This is a great way to garner support, because you can each share what works and what doesn’t work. Lean on each other,and talk about different experiences and approaches. If one is more successful, he will also want you to be just as successful. These are the types of friends you want in your social circle.
A selfish friend will hinder and hurt your success.
At the other end of the spectrum is those guys who like the way the social hierarchy and structure is set up, and they despise the idea of someone coming in and rocking THEIR boat and causing waves. These guys want to be the top dog, and will not be supportive in giving any kind of advice or support whatsoever.
And let’s face it, guys gossip just as much as women. If an alpha male feels threatened, he may sabotage any chance you have in being successful with women. He may talk about you behind your back, causing people who don’t know you to question you and your intentions. Instead of helping you, he is hurting you and any chance you may have. He may also give you advice that is so stupid, that if you implement it, you look stupid.
Watch out for neutral friends as well.
Some friends may actually be resistant to any change for the better that you want to make. They like you just the way you are, because you confirm who they are. They don’t want you to improve your position in their social circle, because then you become more attractive to women, and then they are left behind. They are content where they are, and they want you to be content as well. They also don’t their boat rocked.
If this is the situation you are in, it’s not necessarily that you have to get rid of your friends, but you have to think of other alternatives that bring the right type of supportive person in your life. A great starting point is to just broaden your entire social circle.
The key to success is to find a mentor.
One of the most important things in this situation that you could do is to find a mentor who has walked this same path. It could also be someone who is just a natural with women, because they will have insight of what’s happening with your game just by watching you. They’ll be able to instantly pick up on where you’re going wrong and possible save you months and months of going down the wrong path.
Don’t be reluctant in approaching guys that are great with women. Most guys love showing off their skills, and would be more than happy to take you under their wing. If you see a guy in a social setting that has attributes that you are trying to develop, don’t be afraid to go up and approach him looking to be friends. Tell him that you admire his game and would love to learn his secrets to meeting women. Flattery will get you everywhere.
What I found as I started becoming more successful and guys started asking me for advice, is that I loved taking people under my wing and showing them the ropes. What you learn turn around and give it away to someone who was once where you were. Friends can definitely be great support and helpful in their advice, just choose your friends wisely.