There are many ways to get dates, but if you can master the art of using eye contact, you can start the process without ever leaving your chair.
Eye body language is a language all it’s own. It’s almost like sign language, but the use of eye contact is understood by most everyone. How you use it is of utmost importance though. There are ways to be subtle and have her guessing, and her curiosity will get the best of her. And then there are ways that seem like you’re staring and creeping her out.
Spend time in a bar, a club, or maybe even a coffee house. Just sit back and people watch. You can learn a whole lot about the subtleties of dating rituals, and what gets a woman’s attention and what doesn’t. Eye contact is very important in everyday life, and in the dating life it can give you an edge that no one else has. Just be aware of how and when to use it, so it becomes an advantage and not a disadvantage.
I am going to offer tips of what to do, and more importantly what not to do when it comes to making eye contact to catch a woman’s eye. Eye contact with women is different than the eye contact you use when talking with your best bud or your roommate. I also recommend after reading this article to check out Vin DiCarlo’s Attraction Code, which goes further in depth in the use of eye contact mating.
Tip # 1- What not to do.
Giving too much eye contact will definitely get you nowhere, and possibly move the woman of your desire to leave and go somewhere else. There’s so much information out there about eye contact and its importance. The importance comes from having confidence in your eye contact to attract and meet women.
There just doesn’t seem to be a whole lot of information out there about what boundaries to set and use. It’s very important to not overdo it, because that scares women and does not turn them on. It’s also important not to stare and scare them away, because that just scares the wits out of them.
If you were to look at a woman’s eye and hold eye contact and she looks in your direction, holds eye contact briefly, and then she breaks away, you need to break away as well. But if you keep persisting and you’re still looking at her eyes, and when she looks your way again and you’re still looking, you’re coming off as a freak and as a creepy stalking type dude.
Tip #2- What to do that will work for you.
An excellent example would be to view eye contact as a game of give and take. Use eye contact as a dance where you’re giving a little, taking a little, giving a little, then taking a little. Giving means you’re looking at her eyes and showing a bit of attention. Then you take when you look away and have your attention focused somewhere else.
What will happen is she will most likely keep glancing your way to see if you’re looking at her, but don’t give her too much. Occasionally glance back and then look away from her. Maybe smile as you look away, this is a great way to flirt. Your using the ultimate flirting technique by using body language alone. This is an interaction without words. Unsaid poetry, and it really is a beautiful thing, and very tantalizing as well.
Learn the importance of eye contact, and how to make the best use of it. Don’t spend too much time doing too much at once, but rather playing the give and take game. Being subtle is much more alluring than outright staring. Flirty eye contact can be a great way to make a first impression, and also get that first date as well.