Don’t be a sap. That’s she expects
She wants you all twisted up, not eating, not sleeping and begging her to take you back. Do you know how desirable and powerful that makes her feel? You can’t win this game because she’s never going to take you back – she just wants to feeling of being wanted that you’re giving her
I think that the key to getting a girlfriend back is almost counterintuitive… basically, you need to forget about her and distance yourself from her.
If you’re trying to get her back, then the assumption is that she’s broken up with you.
If you don’t cut her out of your life, then you’re going to come across as being very emotionally needy. That’s just going to make her push you away. And if she pushes you further away, then you’ll find that you’ll become even more emotionally needy. It’s a downward cycle that just gets worse and worse. So the starting point is to cut off all forms of contact.
Trying to get your girlfriend back could be a big mistake
Remove her from your life and focus on meeting other girls, enjoying other experiences, and developing yourself as a person.
An interesting thing happens with a lot of the guys who I’ve worked with who had gone through a bad break up or who wanted to get their girlfriend back.
If I touch base with them anywhere between twelve to twenty-four months later, they’ll inevitably tell me that they ended up meeting their ex-girlfriend and that she expressed interest in hooking up with them again, but they had progressed so much in their life that they were no longer interested in getting back together with her.
Their expectations and how they saw themselves had risen so much that getting back with their ex-girlfriend was no longer an attractive option to them.
I’m not saying that guys shouldn’t take their girlfriends back, but give yourself space to focus on other areas of your life and meet other women. Then, if the opportunity to be with your girlfriend again comes up, you can assess it from a more emotionally stable position and get a clearer perspective on whether you do want her back or whether you want something better in your life.
The final bit of advice I’ll leave you with is to be clear about what you want.
That can help you make a more informed decision on whether getting your girlfriend back will be good or not. In order to do that, I ask guys where they would like to see themselves in six months, twelve months, and three years. You want to add as much detail to those pictures as possible.
Where do you see yourself living?
What work do you see yourself doing?
Who do you see yourself spending time with?
Once you have a clear picture, rate that vision four out of ten. If that was a four, what would a ten look like? You can go through this process until you feel like you can no longer imagine anything bigger or better. Usually when guys go through this process they realise that they’ve been selling themselves short.
Now here’s the kicker… the really important part… use this future self as a reference point for any decisions you make.
Too often, we use our past as a reference point for making decisions and settle for what we’ve always done. But if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. By using your future reference as a guiding beacon, it will be easier to eliminate activities and people from you life that aren’t helping you get to where you want to be.
In many cases that might be your ex girlfriend, but at least you’ll be clear after doing this exercise.
Have her chasing you and begging you to take her back
She’ll be burning with desire to get you back or to never let you go. If you’ve lost someone who even have a shadow of a doubt that the magic is gone (let’s face it you wouldn’t be reading this article if everything was going awesome) then you need this information now so you can start saving your relationship tonight. This system is so effective I guarantee it will save your relationship in 60 days or you don’t even pay. Take the first step by watching this video.
