Don’t get over it, get past it.
Know what works and why it works, you can have a predictable, guaranteed game plan that will make rejection a thing of the past.
Just like when you are learning skills for anything, when you start to work on something that is foreign to you, there is going to be a slight learning curve. You are going to make mistakes along the way. This is just a natural part of learning.
The same goes with getting over rejection.
What is interesting is that in adulthood, we tend to put a lot more ego emphasis on making mistakes.
If you ever watch younger kids and the way that they learn, they do it in a way where they have a playful sense of enjoyment about doing something new. They are not afraid to make mistakes. You will notice that they absorb and learn almost like sponges. They just seem to learn at a much faster rate. I would say the biggest contributing factor there is that they simply aren’t afraid to make mistakes, because they do not make it such a personal issue.
Don’t take it personally.
On this journey, you are going to make mistakes. You are going to have failures, but they do not have to be failures. The truth is that every interaction that you have with a woman is an opportunity to get the most powerful feedback possible. This feedback allows you to recognize how far along you have come, how far along you have yet to go, and how to work on those things.
The trick is really to re-frame what you consider rejection into a learning opportunity. You should be getting more comfortable realizing that as you keep pushing yourself a little bit further with each interaction, it no longer matters whether you get rejected because you are always improving over time.
What strategies have you tried to learn from rejection? What worked and didn’t work for you?
Rejection is an opportunity.
I would say that regret is far worse than rejection. What I mean is that the reality of rejection can have a bit of a sting for five or ten seconds, or even a minute. But regrets resulting from not going in and trying, not pushing yourself, are far worse. If you don’t go and talk to a girl you feel like talking to, that sense of regret will linger with you for the rest of your days, or at least for many days to come. By starting to look at rejection as an opportunity, you can actually become really good at getting into interactions when things do not seem to be starting off on the right foot.
If you can come from a strong place like that, then you will start to develop a mindset wherein you know you can handle just about anything. When you take an interaction from one extreme, where a girl shows no interest; and you can flip it and create interest and attraction from that. When you can do that, it will build a very powerful and strong attraction from the woman.
How to talk to women…
Just showing up isn’t going to be enough. If you’re too nervous to approach women or carry on a conversation you won’t get anywhere. It’s ok though, many of my clients were terrified of approaching women until I showed them proven, rejection proof techniques that will engage any woman.