First of all, stop worrying because there is no “pro” league for sex. I’d know! Second, if you want to blow her mind your first time, just focus on what really matters–her pleasure! Find out what that means below:
The truth is the more sex you have, the more experience you have, the easier and better you will become.
The idea that the first time you ever have sex, when lose your virginity and the idea that you’ll have the best sex in the world and this girl will have mind-blowing orgasms is a little bit farfetched.
But there are a few things that could make it a lot easier to have good sex the first time you do have sex.
Now the first thing that would help you out a lot to get it out of your own head and question everything that’s going on: “Am I pleasing her? Is she excited? Is this right? Am I better than the guy she’s been with before?” These ideas that can go through your head are counter-intuitive. If you can get it out of your head and just be in the moment, you’re winning half the battle.
The first few times I had sex, alcohol did calm my nerves a bit. I don’t mean going out and getting ridiculously drunk, but a few drinks of alcohol for me and the girl made it a bit easier. The other major step that helped was just sexually enjoying the girl. That’s what sex is about. It is one of the greatest acts of enjoyment in the world and if you could enjoy yourself, that’s going to make her feel a lot more comfortable and you feel a lot more comfortable.
Of course foreplay is critical, guys often overlook the importance of foreplay.
I don’t want to go into details of specific things in foreplay, but foreplay can range from anything from sexual talk to making out with a girl, to touching a girl, to touching her erogenous zones, to touching her sexual areas. But if it was my first time, again I would be focusing on areas of the girl that specifically turned me on. So, first I figure out for me is it her breasts that turn me on or making out with her that turns me on, getting her butt naked, anything that turns me on will make it a lot easier for the first time?
Of course the other major important step, with making it seem like you’ve done this a few times before, is how you are after sex with a girl.
So, a lot of guys can get turned off after orgasms and lose interested in the girl. And some guys can even leave or kick the girl out which is one of the worst things you could do. A large part of sex that might not seem so obvious to guys is post-sex cuddling.
Generally having sex for the first time with a new guy is a lot bigger psychologically in a girl’s head than a guy’s head. So the more comfortable you make her feel after sex, the more interested you are in her still, the better the whole experience will make it for her, so that’s a critical step for it as well.
As I said at the beginning of this topic, the more experience you have here the better.
Don’t put too much weight on your shoulders the first time you have sex, don’t put too much pressure on it, just go out and enjoy it for what it is. It’s one of the greatest things in life, and remember everybody’s been there before. Everybody loses their virginity some time.
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