In this article, I am going to teach you the one mindset shift that is going to help your whole game with girls. I’m also going to help you be confident in everything you do in life, whether it is taking that promotion or jumping on that new opportunity that comes your way.
Getting women depends on your confidence, and this mindset shift is really powerful. When you get it right, it is going to make you successful in everything you do or put your mind to. If you have any comments or queries, please leave them in the comments box below. I look forward to reading all your comments, and I try to respond to them as much as possible.
Self-image is important!
That little mindset secret is your self-image. Once you have built your self-image and have a self-image that you are proud of and you love, having that is going to be incredibly powerful in your life. I am going to teach you how to get to that stage and get you to create that powerful self-image that will help you not only in your dating life but also achieve overall success in your whole life.
Get to know who you have been…
It does not have to be who you are. You are not a computer code. You are not programmed in any kind of way. You can change your self‑image. It does not matter about your history. It does not matter who your family is or was. It does not matter what religion you are or were.
You can easily clear that all away, start fresh, and be a new you. That is great news because right now, if you’re unhappy with how your life is going, you don’t have to be this way anymore.
Think of who you are right now…
Think about who you really think you are. Contemplate what you think about yourself. Write down everything you can about who you think you are and go into as much detail. Think of how other people perceive you.
Think about that image in your head that you have of yourself. Think about when you have approached a girl in the past, what that image in her head looks like to you and really go into a lot of detail and lay out who that person is that you think you currently are right now.
I know for myself, when I would approach a girl, that image of myself was a pretty weak man. It was a guy who used to get teased at school. It was a guy that got bullied. It was a guy that was just expecting to get rejected every time he went up to a girl. Basically, my self-image was weak and going up to a girl with that self-image was a guaranteed failure each and every time. So, I had to then go and basically do the next step and get real and think about who I wanted to become, and that is what you need to do.
Think of who you really want to be…
Think of the person that you want to become. It could be a friend of yours. It could be someone that you aspire to be like in life. It could be an actor, or it could be someone that you have observed who just has this amazing presence. Just think of that person that you really want to be and write down what it is about that person that you really admire.
It could be his level of confidence. It could be his ability to just talk out and say what he feels. It could be his guts and determination. Find out the points that you really admire about him and go into as much detail as possible.
For me, I wanted to change that image to a fictitious character called, James Bond. Bond just has that suave look about him, that smoothness about him, that aura, that confidence without having to verbalize it. I really wanted to be like that in my life. I wanted that self‑image to be in my head when I approach a girl.
Create your positive self-image…
When I wanted to create my positive self-image, I created some action steps that I had to do and I got people to push me as much as possible into uncomfortable situations until I was used to getting out of my comfort zone. By doing that, I was able to then gain more confidence and started to become more quietly confident in myself.
You can do it, just like I did…
Write down the steps that you are going to take that are going to build that new self-confidence of yours. When you write out some ways, take action on that. It is no good just writing the stuff down. You need to take action.
For instance, if you put yourself into some social situations that might be a little bit uncomfortable, perhaps you would want to take a friend along who is going to give you a bit of a nudge when you need it. Perhaps joining that public speaking course or taking an improvisation acting class, whatever it is that is going to get you to take action and get you closer to that positive new image of yourself.