Men talk about sex too. One of the topics they often discuss is “How do you have sex”?
This question alone covers many topics, such as how do you know what to do, how do you do it, and how to please a woman in a way that they like. The unknown can cause a great deal of fear and stress for men, especially those who want to perform sex well and want to be assured that they are satisfying their woman.
Are you satisfying the woman you are with?
However, there is no simple formula for how to have great sex.
Sorry folks… you will need to learn as you go, which means that experience needs to be gained. You should also make sure that you are patient and give yourself time to learn. Most importantly, don’t be too hard and beat yourself up if things in the bedroom don’t always go smoothly.
The Real Story:
I recently trained a student who was a 24 year old virgin. He struggled over issues of confidence around women. He had so much anxiety when he was around women that he had resorted to seeing a sex therapist. The issues he had with sexual confidence and his fears about sex only increased his insecurity. He asked me “how do you have sex, and do it well?” He also wanted to know “how do I please a woman?” He was obsessed with finding answers, and his issues and anxiety levels were at an all-time high. He could not even gather up the courage to meet girls and date. He was very discouraged.
Have sex to get better at sex.
He was able to overcome his fears and anxieties by simply having sex. Once he experienced it for the first time, his stress level vanished. In other words, one sexual experience was all it took. This was far better than reading hundreds of “how to” books on sex advice. As the saying goes, sometimes you just have to get that monkey off your back. Just do it. That is all it takes to overcome any fear you may have.
He was very surprised that he was quite good at sex. He enjoyed himself and found his groove. He even admitted that he couldn’t believe that he had those fears about sex in the first place. You might find yourself in the very same situation. Conquer that fear, any fear, and it will vanish in the wind.
The moral of this story is not too hard to figure out. Stop wasting your time worrying about how to have sex, simply get out there and start experiencing it for yourself. It’s a learning process, just like anything new that comes into your life. You will learn along the way, and gain experience and knowledge in the process. After all, isn’t that what life is about?
Experience is Essential:
Simply having sex is going to teach you far more than any book could. I recommend that you meet as many girls as you can and get the ball rolling. Go out on as many dates as possible. Put yourself out there, into intimate situations that lead you to be alone with a girl. And finally, have sex. This is simple but effective advice to implement into your life. Stop worrying about all that research you are wasting time on trying to find advice on how to have sex. Get out there, find a girl, and enjoy her and enjoy life. What is a life without enjoyment anyway?
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The conversation that will get you laid…
3 questions, it’s really that simple. See for yourself here: Open her box