So, you want to know how Justin Bieber made a woman cry after sex?
It’s true:
Mariah Yeates claims Justin Bieber – the teen pop sensation, known for being about as masculine as skinny jeans – fathered her child. Then, she went on TV, and broke down, crying. The best part? She claims her affair with The Bieber was “brief, lasting only approximately 30 seconds.” So, THAT’S how Justin Bieber made a woman cry after sex.
What’s This Have To Do With You?
A TON but you’ll only find out if you keep reading (because you’re missing something crucial if you’ve never made a woman cry). A celebrity famous for making teenage women fantasize about him gets publicly outed for his “lack of staying power.” The scary part is… His fans rose up, lashing Mariah with verbal assaults, calling her, “Whore,” “Liar,” and telling her, “go kill yourself.” This harsh behavior should teach you something:
Never Go Against Existing Beliefs…
As people, we have beliefs about the world, beliefs about what we feel is “right” or “true.” Going against these beliefs makes ANYTHING you say seem fake, false or like lies. It’s called “Cognitive Inertia.” And basically, it means that once we’ve decided something is “True”… we stick to our guns, no matter what.
Women have this “Cognitive Inertia” about meeting men, too…
For example: Many women believe you can’t meet a “good man” or a “long term boyfriend” in bars or clubs. So if you approach a woman in a bar or club, you’re either just another guy trying to get into her pants, or one-night-stand material. That’s it. The tricky part is: You can’t really change her mind, either, because of a phenomenon called, “Cognitive Bias.” Like Cognitive Inertia, it deals with your beliefs, however, Cognitive Bias basically says, “If you’re given evidence, you’ll use it to confirm your existing beliefs.”
So, let’s say you approach a woman at a bar or a club. You’re dressed well, you’re respectable, and you treat her really well. If you met her in a grocery store, or in a yoga class, she’d want you as her boyfriend – RIGHT AWAY! She’d see your clothes and go, “Wow, this guy has a sense of style…” You’d treat her right and she’d think, “Man, he’s such a charmer, he must really like me…” … And you might end up dating this woman for a long time.
In A Bar Or A Club, Everything Works AGAINST You…
Because her cognitive bias will try to confirm her beliefs. In this case, she’ll look for reasons to place you in either the “Another guy hitting on her” or the “One-night-stand” category. Your nice clothes turn into “player threads” – which you bought to pick up women. Your nice attitude turns into “sucking up” – which makes you a pussy… or… “running game” – which makes you a player. (And undateable).
These mental filters can work FOR you, though…
Like any psychological tools, both the Cognitive Inertia and Cognitive Bias can work for you, if you let them: For example, I’ll never meet women at bars or clubs now. There’s just too much “work” to do. Instead, I’ll head to grocery stores, book stores, classes, like yoga, for instance. And I’ll do this for two reasons:
1) The women there are open to dating me. Hey, I may get a “No”… but at least she was open to the idea.
2) The women aren’t expecting good “game” or to be hit on. So you have the advantage of camouflage, and even surprise, on your side.
If you’re smooth, it’s WAY easier to meet women during the day. And if you’re not, you can simply make friends, and meet up with them later. Really, the entire dating world opens up to you, when you’re willing to “Play The Game” differently than everyone else. (With proven psychological principles, in mind.)
If you’re interested in playing this “new kind of Game,” you can let me know, by clicking this FREE VIDEO link. I’ll tell you more about the psychology behind dating, and how to rig it in your favor.
For today:
Try meeting a woman, during the day, and try opening up, using your nervousness to your advantage. Try saying, “I know this is really random, but…” And then telling her how you feel. It gets around both her Cognitive Inertia AND her Cognitive Bias. Plus, it starts you off on the right foot.
Your Friend,
- Vin
