Does approaching girls fill you with anxiety?
The hardest part about approaching girls is the fear that comes with it. This prevents a lot of guys from ever taking action and meeting the girls who they really want to meet. Instead, they rely on outside circumstances to go their way and just hope that everything will somehow turn out the way that they want it to.
But imagine what your life would be like if you could find some way to overcome the anxiety that prevents you from approaching girls. Imagine if you no longer had to rely on blind luck and could actually make situations happen for yourself.
Sounds pretty awesome, right?
Well, it doesn’t have to remain a delightful daydream! I’m going to share several tips that are guaranteed to help you overcome your anxiety and start meeting more girls than you ever dreamed possible! So sit back and buckle up as I show you how to:
- Embrace your anxiety
- Adopt the right mindset
- Focus on the positive
If you have any comments or queries about how to approach girls then please leave them in the comments box below. I look forward to reading your feedback and I’ll respond to your comments as quickly as I possibly can!
Tip #1: Embrace your anxiety
Thousands of articles and books have been written about how you can “eliminate fear” or “never feel anxious again”. All of them are bullshit. Here’s the bottom line: anxiety is part of life. You can never make it go away forever. The sooner you can accept that, the more success you are going to enjoy with women.
I’ve approached thousands of women over the years and I still feel anxious when I do it! But I’ve taught myself to work with it. All of that marketing hype about how you can cure anxiety for good and never experience it again is just that: hype. And even if it was possible, it might do more harm than good!
That’s right: anxiety can actually be a very good thing!
I remember working with a guy who was absolutely fearless about approaching women. He never felt the slightest twinge of anxiety. Unfortunately, he never felt much of anything. He never connected with women emotionally and, as a result, never had any luck with them.
Be grateful for your anxiety. I know how insane that may sound, but think about it. Feeling anxious shows that a particular girl actually means something to you and, therefore, that she is worth approaching.
It also shows that there is the potential for a genuine emotional connection, which is essential if you want any sort of success with women.
Tip #2: Adopt the right mindset
Having a healthy mindset is essential if you want to overcome your anxiety when approaching a girl. If your mindset is strong, then you will be able to push past any fear quite easily.
So how can you adopt the right mindset? Simple! Whenever you see a hot girl and start feeling anxious about approaching her, remind yourself that each step that you take towards her moves you closer and closer to the success that you crave.
Each step that you take, and each uncomfortable moment that you push yourself past, makes you a stronger, more confident person!
You can also use inspiring quotes to help you overcome any fear that you might feel when you are meeting women. One particular quote that has always helped me get through some tough times is that everybody has fear in life. You either choose to face it or risk living a boring life like the rest of the population.
Finally, try meditating for a few minutes before you go out or even while you are out socializing. You don’t need to take a yoga mat with you! Just sit quietly and focus on feeling present, calm, and relaxed.
When you are in that state, it will be a lot easier for you to manage your fear and make a strong first impression when you approach a girl who has caught your eye.
Tip #3: Focus on the positive
Often guys will fear approaching girls because they start to imagine all of the things that could go wrong. The fear of embarrassment. The fear of rejection. The fear of being socially awkward. All of that negativity starts to pile up and they end up believing it even though none of it has actually happened!
Don’t be like those guys! Don’t approach girls with all of that negativity and fear!
Being positive isn’t some pie-in-the-sky, rainbows-and-unicorns nonsense. There is real science backing up the power of positive thinking.
It’s actually quite simple: a lot of our motivation in life involves moving away from pain. And approaching a girl when your head is filled with negativity is going to be a painful experience. So, naturally, you are always going to talk yourself out of approaching girls because doing so will make the pain go away.
The only solution is to attach more positive emotions to approaching girls. For example, you could try imagining yourself taking the girl who you want to approach out on a date. Visualize the two of you enjoying a great time together. Imagine introducing her to your parents and friends.
All you have to do is go up to her and start a conversation!
By putting it in that perspective, you will start to approach girls with a much more positive attitude.
Another way to overcome any negative thinking when preparing to approach a girl is to accept that some girls just aren’t going to find you attractive. This is just a fact of life. The flip side of the coin is that some girls will definitely find you attractive.
But you’re never going to know which category a particular girl will fall into until you approach her.
One of the benefits of adopting this mindset is that rejection is no longer something personal. If a girl doesn’t respond favorably to your approach, it simply means that she’s not in that category of women who will find you attractive.
All you have to do is get out there and approach more girls. Treat this as a numbers game and you can defuse any fear of rejection. That will make approaching girls a whole lot easier!