Break out of your box and into hers…
A lot of guys I think get comfortable approaching women in only one situation, maybe that is at night in a bar type scene or something like going to the dog park frequently.
But you can make yourself more comfortable and open yourself to new locations and learn new ways of attracting women.
When I started to actually approach girls in all situations, I was really surprised by how many girls there were around me at all times.
I started to really understand that I was surrounded by women almost all of the time. That is one of the benefits of learning to talk to new people and approaching girls anywhere. I became very good at starting conversations.
You really do attract a lot more opportunities with this sort of adventurous attitude.
I coached a guy once, who lived in Manhattan in New York City and he said there were no girls. He didn’t know where to meet girls. I think in the whole world, there is probably more girls there than anywhere else. A lot of the time, it is your own awareness that will lead you to think there is either too many or not enough women.
I know what changed for me was just talking to five or ten new people a day. They could be guys, girls, old people, or young people; I just started getting better at small talk and starting conversations. That was a real platform for me to get very good with girls. To be able to approach women anywhere, you have to be able to approach anyone anywhere.
By doing this you start to develop attractive attributes and improve your skillset.
For example, before I go out to a bar to meet some friends, I will often just say hello to a dozen random people on the way. I don’t care if they respond or not, but it just starts to get me out of the headspace of trying to be too polite or mind my own business. It gets me in more of a headspace where I don’t really care what people think.
There is a bit of a trap to watch out for, because a lot of guys try and work on feeling comfortable first or try and feel good about themselves first.
Then six months later, they are still working on that stuff. They haven’t talked to anyone. A lot of the time, when you start approaching women and you start taking some more risks, this is actually going to build your confidence. It is actually in the doing, not in the thinking about it that you will improve the most.
I encourage guys to start approaching women now.
Don’t put it off until you have lost 10 pounds or until you have bought the new shirt, or until you have gotten rid of your work stress. That stuff is always going to be there. You have just got to not let that stuff hold you back. I have met 40-year-old virgins who were waiting until they sold their business to meet girls. They were just waiting until the stars would align.
Anything you are doing socially that is just a little bit outside your comfort zone is a good thing. I would encourage guys not to get too theoretical with what is good or what is bad, but rather just focus on everyday doing something that is a little more outside your comfort zone.
The seemingly innocent conversation with incredibly naughty results
Just 3 innocent questions she’ll be eager to answer – completely unaware they’ll lead to a hot, steamy hook-up. Test it for yourself after watching this video: 3 questions to open her box