How to Ask a Girl Out on a Date

forget about traditional dates unless you want the almost zero success rate guys traditionally get when it comes to getting laid

A date is an opportunity to connect verbally and physically

I think that there are two types of dates, you can ask a girl out on.

There are people who are just happy to fall in line with a cliché date. The guy and the girl go out to a fancy restaurant, they eat they talk a little bit about work and what’s going on in their life. The guy then takes the girl home from the date and they basically part ways as maybe he gets a kiss on the cheek. The girl will either go back to her friends and say, yes he’s a real sweetheart or he’s a bit of a doofus, but I got a free meal out of him.

That’s one option that people use when asking girls out on dates.

The second type of date is where you go out in a low-key environment.

Girls respond best to this sort of date. To me a date shouldn’t be about the particular activity that you are both going to do. It shouldn’t be about the spectacular place you are going to. Those things are just distractions from the two of you getting an opportunity to get to know each other a little bit better.

When asking a girl out on a date, your date should just be about two people spending time together.

For me a date has to firstly provide that environment where you can get to know each other on a deeper level and talk to each other. Not just talk verbally either, but also start to communicate with each other physically. For me, there was a venue I used to take girls on dates where we could sit at the table, have a pizza and a couple of drinks. Then we could move to the couches and start to get to know each other physically a little bit more as well as keep talking.

Then the date could progress from there and I could potentially take her back to my place or call it a night.

I don’t think there is a difference in the way girls and guys think about dates. But there is certainly a difference between the way a good seducer thinks of dates. Because ultimately we are looking to gain mutual seduction. Both people are working together to seduce each other. There’s a difference in the way that a seducer looks at dates and you want to see a date as an opportunity to really connect with her.

The final point to make about going on dates, you want to give the girl an opportunity to invest in you on the date.

If that means, organizing for her to come and pick you up before the date. Or if it means getting her to grab the first round of drinks, while you go to the toilet or getting her to find a table for you two to sit at. Just giving her the opportunity to invest a little bit can be a big turn on for some women. You still want to primarily lead the date, but you want to create spaces where she can invest during the date.

When you are dating girls, these tips will help you have a better chance at connecting with your date.