See her. Want her. Take her. It’s going be that easy…
Hey Vin, I’m looking for advice on asking a girl out, when I first meet her.
Well, the first thing you want to do is build a little momentum throughout the night.
What I like to do when I meet a girl and it’s clear to me that she’s a person that I would consider meeting again is that I like to get their phone number early in the interaction.
This does two things for me.
It means that if for some reason she has to leave quickly – there are a variety of reasons as to why she might have to leave early – it means that I’ve already got her number and we can pick things up later.
I think it’s a big mistake that guys make in keeping the interaction going for twenty minutes, one hour or even two hours, before they get a girl’s number.
The second thing that I think getting a girl’s number early does for me is it sets the intent for the rest of the interaction.
It lets her know that I’m interested in her. It lets her know that I’m contemplating her as a possible sexual partner in the future and I might ask her out. If she’s attracted to me or if she’s attracted to the idea of getting together, she’ll know that she’s being screened from that point on.
That will shape her behavior to a large degree.
What do you do in order to get a girl’s number? To me it’s really simple. I just say, “You know what? You seem like a really interesting person. I’m going to get your number and I’ll give you a call this week and we’ll organize a time when we can catch up and get to know each other a little bit better.”
That’s a safe way of getting a number, but its also powerful because you are essentially making statements. You haven’t asked her if it would be okay if you got her number, you told her what you are going to do.
If for some reason she has an objection to giving you her number, she’s going to let you know one way or the other.
At least if you make a statement and she’s sitting on the fence, she’s fifty-fifty, she’s far more likely to respond positively. Even if she rejects you, the fact that you have gone after what you want and you stated it directly is going to be attractive to her. When you aim at getting her number a little bit later she’ll be more likely to respond in a positive way.
The second point with this is I think guys can get good at asking a girl on a date during their initial meeting.
Talk about your lifestyle, the things that you do, the activities that you’re involved in, and the hobbies that you have. Maybe there’s something that resonates with her. Let’s say you are an artist and you get together with other artists on a weekly basis to go out in nature and paint scenery. If that’s something that she’s excited about, then you can invite her along to that and bring her into your life.
This is a powerful way to ask her out right away.
You won’t even have to set up a date if she’s got the time for 3 questions
That’s all it will take. Just 3 innocent questions she’ll be eager to answer – completely unaware they’ll lead to a hot, steamy hook-up. Save yourself the trouble of setting up a date by watching this video: 3 questions to open her box