Do you ask girls to go to the movies for dates?
This isn’t a date I recommend — here’s why…
Firstly… when a guy says to me, “I’d love to ask a girl out to the movies,” I want to find out why. The movies are such a horrible place to be asking a girl out to. It has one inherent advantage; it is clichéd enough that she is likely to say yes because it just fits the cliché. It’s that typical first date, where you can’t talk, can’t look at each other, and it kills three hours of not finding out, if you are really interested in the girl.
You want to get to know her, right?
You don’t even have to talk at the movies.
It’s also a low-pressure date, because she can sit there for an entire three hours and not have to talk to the guy. From that viewpoint it’s a horrible date for a guy trying to show interest in a girl. Or from the girl that is interested, it’s a horrible date. If you want to ask a girl out to the movies… I’m not a big fan of the idea. I think it’s a little bit murky, from the perspective of is he really owning his intent.
What is your intent on your date?
If you are going on dates with girls, and you haven’t owned your intent to that point, it’s like, “You know what I really enjoy hanging out with you. We should hang out a bit more often, there is this great movie coming up. Would you like to go to it with me?” To me that does not own your intent. It doesn’t say you are sexually interested in her.
What may happen is the girl may go on the date, not fully aware of what you want to get out of it. In many ways that actually makes it harder for you. When you look to escalate, it’s going to come off as being a little bit awkward, because she wasn’t prepared for it. She didn’t know your motive behind the movie idea, and might even be offended, instead of interested.
Be more direct.
Look to find creative ways to ask a girl out. Forget about asking a girl to the movies. Think of a better place to invite her out to. Invite her out to a bar, where you guys can just have a couple of drinks and relax. If you want to do movies, invite her over to your place to watch a DVD. But once again the other key factor is making your intent clear. Let her know why you are inviting her to where ever it is you are inviting her. Let her know you think she’s cute, or that you think she’s sexy. Or that you really like her and you want to get to know her on a deeper level. I would encourage guys to be more creative, thinking about ways of where they go out for dates. Dinner dates and movie dates, are Hollywood clichés and the reality is that in most situations they don’t lead to productive, fulfilling relationships. They lead instead to a wasted night, money spent, and still not having any clue if the girl is really interested in you or just wanted a free meal, or to see a movie.
What has been your experience with movie dates? Have they worked for you or not? Please comment in the box below!
Here’s to get the most from your movie date…
All you have to do is fit in this innocent conversation and you’ll get a lot more than a handshake tonight: 3 questions to open her box