There is no getting to know you phase – that comes later
You don’t even care about that yet anyway – all you want to know is if she sees you as sexually potent, right now
Asking a girl out you don’t know can be tricky.
I think what you want to do is you want to always get a girl’s number. Let’s say it’s a girl you’ve not spoken to before, you meet her on the street, or you approach her in any number of ways and you feel like starting to build a little bit of momentum.
Early on in the interaction I might try to get her number, because I don’t know what’s going to happen. There are too many variables out there that could interrupt the flow of we’ve got.
So for me the way to get her number is “You know… you seem really interesting, I would love to get to know you a little bit more. I’m going to grab your number and we’ll plan to catch up sometime.”
That’s the first thing I do. I’m a little bit direct in the way that I get her number. It’s not like “Hey I’ve got this really cool sporting club that I am a part of, I think you would really like them. So I should get your number and that way I can pass on the details to you.” I want her to know that I’m interested in her, but I’m not sold yet and I want to know a little bit more. Now the second point is once you get her number, you want to keep talking. You don’t want getting her number to be the highlight of the interaction.
You are just having a natural flowing conversation.
That way once she has given you her number, she doesn’t have to stop and think “Well, that was sort of weird I just gave my number to a stranger.” You can continue to build comfort with her and continue to get to know her a little bit. It keeps things light and easy, allowing for things to move at a natural pace.
Yet this lets me be upfront about my intentions.
The second thing that I think is important when you do get her number is I think it’s important to plant the idea in her head that the two of you are going to catch up sometime down the track.
So you notice when I got her number I said “I’m going to get your number, give you a call sometime and we might plan to catch up.” It’s a little bit noncommittal, which takes some of the pressure off. But it’s planting a seed down the line. You can also seed for a date while you’re talking to her. So you might tell her about this great reggae bar that you go to. Or a karaoke bar that you go to on a Wednesday nights. Or an event that you’ve got coming up that you are putting on for a club that you DJ at.
You can start seeding for different opportunities to invite her out.
Final point one way how to get a girls phone number that I like to use is to say “I’m interested… describe me in one word.” I put that pressure on her to come up with one word to describe me. Then when I’m getting her to save me in her phone, I get her to save me as my name, plus the word that she’s come up for me. The advantage of that is, when I ring her up and it flashes on her phone or when I shoot her a text and it flashes on her phone.
There’s almost that recall of humor that she sees and responds to when she sees that name pop up.
From “What’s up?” to hook-up in 3 innocent questions…
She’ll be instantly turned on and eager for more – even if you just met, if you do what I talk about in this free video: 3 questions to open her box
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