Wouldn’t it be great to approach a woman, and know beforehand whether she’ll find you attractive?
What is it that makes women 'tick'? Is a woman's mind a black box, or is that just a defeatist mentality perpetrated by a cabal of clueless guys?
Understanding female psychology and what makes women attracted to men is very important if you want to achieve success in dating and relationships (whether serious or casual).
Many guys wonder what it is that women find attractive in a man. Is it his looks, or a certain type of personality? In this article, we’re going to explore a number of things you can do to make yourself much more attractive to women, and the best thing is that these are all things you can change!
Respect
This one is huge. If you’re approaching a woman, especially out of the blue, make sure you’re not disrespecting her. Be courteous, be friendly, be warm. All of these things are going to work to your favor.
Make sure she doesn’t feel like you’re being rude or threatening; if you’re putting on a false persona or you’re not being genuine, she’s going to sniff you out a mile away. If you feel like you’re safe and warm, and you’re smiling, being natural, and being yourself, then she’ll feel that way about you too.
You want to talk to her like she’s a human being, not like she’s some doll, just because she’s attractive.
Be yourself – but not in the clichéd, generic way
If who you are is an out of shape, boring guy who has no passions, doesn’t maintain personal hygiene, and is rude and obnoxious, then this is advice you shouldn’t be taking literally.
Being yourself means not feigning interest in her, but genuinely being concerned about her and caring about her as a person. Go find a mirror right now, and take a close look. If you don’t think of yourself as attractive, then you’ve got one of two problems. Either:
- Your self-confidence might be at fault.
I’ve known girls out there who are drop-dead gorgeous, but because they had the self-esteem of a pineapple, they just didn’t see it. It might be that changing your mindset can help you perceive yourself in a better light.
- You actually don’t look that good.
Then there’s the very objective possibility that you’re out of weight, you haven’t had a hair cut in months, and you just don’t take good care of yourself. In this case, becoming more attractive is less a matter of psychological viewpoint, and more a matter of getting on a regular exercise regimen, eating better, and taking a little more pride in your appearance. As you work on yourself, your self-esteem will improve too!
It’s all (ok, partly) about the body language
You want to be relaxed. Don’t be uptight and stiff, because that projects onto other people and she’s going to feel awkward in your company. Here’s an article on ways to improve your body language.
Now there are psychological things you can do to relax yourself, such as visualize the date beforehand and plan things out a little, and of course, the more you interact with women, the more naturally confident and relaxed you will get.
But there are other things you can try too, such as getting yourself a regular massage, or learning some relaxation and deep breathing techniques.
Remember to keep a friendly smile on your face, and show her that you’re paying attention by maintaining strong eye contact. Always dedicate your full attention to whoever you’re engaged in conversation with.
Oh, and there are always the flirting techniques!
Judgmental people suck
And girls feel that way too. If you want her to open up to you, and this is especially important if you’re trying to build a serious relationship, then from the very first encounter, you need to make sure you’re not judging her. She needs to feel comfortable knowing that she can tell you about her deepest secret, and you won’t make fun of her.
If you don’t make it clear from the start that this is a safe environment for her to share and open up, then your relationship is going to have a natural obstacle built-in to it that may be much harder to remove later on.
Now with all of this advice on attracting girls in mind, I’ve got to tell you that I’m merely scratching the surface here. This article is a good starting point, and if you implement the suggestions in it, you’re going to see a very significant jump in the attraction women feel towards you.
But it doesn’t have to stop there. You can become so adept at attracting girls as to be truly irresistible with any kind of woman, and the trick lies in understanding a woman’s psychology. To that end, we’ve specially developed something called Pandora’s Box. This will not only help you understand women and female psychology, but also learn how to reliably get phone numbers and dates, and as a bonus – the entire thing is based on sound science that has been field tested more times than we can count.
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