If you’re wondering how to have an interesting conversation, you’ve definitely stumbled upon the right article.
Follow our advice, and people are going to love talking to you!
The first trick to being interesting is… being interested.
Being interested is one of the most overlooked components of an interaction, which is really a shame, because the more compelled you are by other people, the more attractive and interesting they’re going to find you, too!
This is because the more fascinated you are about whoever you’re talking to, what makes them tick, and how they’re unique and different from everyone else, the more of an exciting and curious attitude you’re going to have, which people are really going to appreciate.
People also love talking about their favorite topic, which quite often is themselves. If you give a person an avenue to be able to get in touch with who they are, that will make them feel more comfortable around you. And when they’re more comfortable around you, they’ll then backwards rationalize that to say to themselves that you’re particularly interesting. Pretty cool, huh?
– I’d love for you to try out these tips, and then report back and tell us how well they worked in the comments section below. Maybe you have something to add to help other guys out too? –
Always have plenty of conversation topics to talk about.
Learning how to be more interesting is also partly about the ability to talk on varied topics. Nobody is ever going to be interested in all the exact same things, so it helps to broaden your knowledge base. Being able to talk about topics your conversational partner is interested in creates extra points of contact for you to find commonalities. Learning how to make conversation is critical for being an interesting guy.
Related to this is having a compelling lifestyle that you can talk about. If your most exciting activity in the past week has been watching a T.V. show or being late for an appointment, that’s probably not going to captivate whoever you’re talking to. If on the other hand you can talk about some exciting sports achievement, new book you’ve read, vacation you recently came back from (or plan to go on), or an exciting hobby – that’s going to be make you much more interesting.
Having a varied and large number of interests also helps you feel like you can relate to more people’s experiences, and it gives you a sense of being someone who is moving their life in a positive direction.
The other advantage is that you’ll then become more comfortable in your own skin, because you’ll feel like you’re a valuable person who has more to offer to other people. That realization allows you to be incredibly relaxed in your interactions, especially if you’ve just begun learning how to talk to women.
A number of people already have the tools, but they may suffer from social anxiety because they’re not comfortable in their own skin, and because they question their value to women, causing them to have trouble expressing how interesting they are. If you find yourself in that situation, why not check out some of our articles on dealing with social anxiety?
A big part of being interesting is being positive, and the best way to be positive is to be appreciative. Watch this video and tell me how lucky you truly are. Maybe you need to remember how fortunate you really are…
How you can practice being more interesting.
We’ve already spoken about adding more exciting activities and hobbies to your life, which is really important both for holding a conversation, and just enjoying your life more.
You could also focus on the positive things that already exist in your life. One of the skills that I value in a conversationalist, is when they’re able to lead a conversation towards topics that they’re passionate about.
This is because the more we talk about our passions, the more women will respond on an emotional level to what we’re saying. The way that women are built means that they’re far more likely to respond emotionally to content that has an emotional undercurrent, than to information that is fact-based.
If you want something to do right now to improve your conversation skills, take a piece of paper and pen (I feel that this works better than word processors on computers, but either will work), and write at the top, “I am passionate about…”, and then just brainstorm. Just go crazy. Set a timer perhaps, and don’t stop until five minutes are done.
Then look at your list, and decide what the three or five most important things are. If you think women will find them interesting – all the better, although women are far more interested in passion per se, than in what you’re specifically passionate about. These passions should drive you forward, give meaning to your life, and get you really excited. Once you’ve got these figured out, you can then look for ways to bring the conversation with her, and the information she’s sharing, back to your particular passions.
If you’re still not too sure about your conversation skills, or want to really become a master conversationalist, then have a look at our Conversation Cure.