Do you have trouble being sociable once you are in a social setting? This article is going to give you some tips and advice to be more sociable.
Being sociable is really all about social momentum. The problem is that most people go through the day and they don’t force themselves out of their comfort zone. If they are put in somewhat confrontational situation they’ll tend to step back and not respond to it.
Let’s say you are at the local supermarket and you get short changed fifty cents, most people won’t buck up about that. They’ll feel awkward and just accept it. Let’s say your boss calls you into his or her office and starts giving you a hard time that really isn’t your fault. Do you tolerate that or do you speak up?
Most people are just comfortable not pushing themselves too far out of their comfort zone. Staying within your comfort zone builds negative momentum, so when the time comes to approach someone or be sociable, you are simply not ready or warmed up to take action.
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1. Warm Up Socially
One of the first steps that I use with guys who struggle with social settings whether it be approaching girls, mingling at parties or holding a conversation with people around them, is to warm up socially.
The way you do this is to find your edge is and pushing yourself to your edge. Now for some people, just going up and approaching a stranger and asking for the time is completely challenging to them and that’s where their edge is or maybe even a little bit lower.
For other guys that’s not a challenge at all and so they can do that and it’s completely effortless but if they have to approach a hot girl and talk to her directly, that pushes them way out side of their comfort zone.
2. Social Skills
This sort of approach for a guy who hasn’t built social skills will tend to struggle. There are some ways we can focus primarily on the skills. To be sociable you must exhibit confidence and be interesting. Let others do the talking, but when it’s your turn to talk make sure you are interesting and confident. Do not show weakness; be dominant, intriguing and interesting. People love interesting people, the more interesting you are, without being excessive, the more popular and sociable you will be.
I think when guys get socially warmed up they actually surprise themselves and they already have knowledge of some of the skills that exist.
So the key is to be able to warm up socially, be interesting and confident. I you think of a car that is at a light and it is getting ready to accelerate. The progression of the acceleration is fairly slow. It starts going ten miles per hour, then to twenty, then to thirty, all the way up to sixty. Whereas what some guys do is they try to go from zero to sixty in one hit. This leads to failure and actually being less sociable.
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