Do you know how to be yourself in your relationship?
A lot of guys don’t.
Women naturally use a certain feminine skill. They use it to make you want them and it works wonders on men.
A lot of guys are ‘whipped’ – there are many different terms for it, but in essence it is doing too much for the girlfriend and maybe not living enough for themselves. They end up doing things that are normally out of character for them.
Why does this happen to some guys? How can they rise above that?
How can you be yourself in your relationship with her?
She is shaping you... but are you missing out?
One of the skills that I work on developing when working with guys – and it’s more of an advanced skill for guys – is the concept of shaping.
Shaping works on the premise that human beings are not one concrete personality. We’re not solid creatures, like we sometimes think we are. We’re actually incredibly malleable and we’re incredibly complex.
Each individual has different parts to their personality that are sometimes completely contradictory.
If you explore your own life, you might recognize this because maybe around one particular group of friends or in one particular social setting you behave in alignment with a certain set of values, and in alignment with a particular personality type. However, if you move to a different social circle or a different environment, you’ll notice that other parts of your personality will manifest more often.
Now, in both situations, you’re still being completely yourself.
It’s just that you’re being able to express different sides of your personality. The concept of shaping is to be able to highlight a particular part of someone’s personality. Then, by putting focus on it and bringing it into their awareness, they’re more likely to want to act in alignment with that particular side – especially if we’ve already identified that it’s something that’s important to us.
That sounds a little complicated, Vin — could you provide an example?
Sure.
An example of this in the real world is if you basically go and buy a new car. Let’s say you just go onto a block and you see a car and you say, “Wow. I really like that car. I’m going to buy it.” You’ve never really given it a thought before, but now all of a sudden you’ll notice that car is everywhere. It just pops up whenever you’re driving, whenever you’re parking.
You’ll spot it seven or eight times a day whereas previously you had no awareness of it.
The whole idea of bringing someone’s awareness and attention towards something means that now their reticular activation system is recognizing that this is important. If you highlight something in a girl – perhaps you’ll highlight that she’s adventurous – she’ll start to think of times in the past where she was adventurous, and she’ll see herself as an adventurous person. She’ll want to then act in alignment with that value, because it is important to you.
I’ve mentioned that for guys this is an incredibly advanced skill.
For girls, it’s like Pickup 101. It comes naturally for them to shape guys. Maybe it’s when a guy wears a particular style of clothes. Maybe he does his collar up to the top, which is something he wouldn’t normally do, and the girl goes, “Wow! You look great! I love this look for you.” Suddenly the guy’s going to start thinking, “Well, I guess this looks good on me. Obviously I look very classy, so I’m going to start dressing like this.” Just as with the way we dress, it’s this way when we act as well.
Girls are naturally phenomenal at this skill of shaping.
Now it’s your time to turn the tables. Learn how to use shaping to your advantage…
I’ve got even more techniques that’ll show you exactly how to get the women you’ve been wanting. Stop wasting time, stop watching porn, and most importantly stop failing with women. Once you learn the secrets behind the female psyche, you will be successful with women. These secrets are so powerful that I couldn’t just write them in an article.
I’ve posted a video explaining everything. Don’t wait a minute longer…
