Self confidence is important if you want to hook up with the hottest women…
So you’ve come to realize the importance of self-confidence — it’s vital in every area of life, but in order to successfully seduce women, there’s simply no alternative to being confident in yourself.
I would go as far as to say that the mere fact of being self-confident makes up for about 80% of what you need to be attractive, the rest is probably split up between how you dress, how fit you are, and what you choose to do with your life. Women absolutely, without a doubt love confident men. The question most guys have though is, how can I build my confidence? This wasn’t taught in high school and never brought up by most parents.
How can a guy be more confident?
There is certainly much to be said for approaching things from a practical standpoint, such as learning how to touch women, how to escalate properly, and how to flirt properly. But if you’re not confident in your own abilities, all of these techniques are going to be empty. It’s like the difference between a good actor and a poor one — they may both be reading the same lines, but one is going to inspire, or bring to tears, or make you laugh; while the other will just seem bland and vacuous.
Start Respecting Yourself More…
Given the over-arching importance of self-confidence, I am going to give you some tips on how you can start working on yourself. The first thing you want to start doing is to pay more respect to yourself. Start to take little gestures that prove to yourself that you care and value who you are. It could be something as simple as making your bed in the morning, grooming yourself, or even paying for a more expensive and trendy haircut. Put your time, energy, and money into yourself. Dedicate yourself to making yourself better and you will notice that you will feel better about yourself.
It’s also good to start wearing attractive – even flattering clothes. Choose clothes that are fashionable, fit you well, and draw attention to your strengths. If you don’t have many good ideas, consider hiring a personal stylist to work over your wardrobe. They’ll know exactly what needs to be done for you to look sexier, and they’ll maximize your existing traits and qualities to make you look more attractive in the process. If you want to go the DIY route, then Google men’s fashion blogs and look through the most interesting ones. A lot of men are paying more attention to their fashion and you can find an author with a style that suits you.
The fascinating part about beginning this process of self-respect, is that you begin to shift your mindset. As you start to wear more interesting, attractive, and better fitting clothes, something begins to change. You start to feel more confident and comfortable in your own skin. It might seem superficial, but really how you dress is one aspect of how you present yourself. You will feel a change on a much deeper level. Moreover, the moment you begin to dress well and take your time to present yourself better, you will immediately begin acting in a way that is more confident than ever before.
The Road Less Traveled…
Self confidence is not always an easy road, but none that are rewarding ever are, and thankfully there are a myriad of fantastic resources out there to help you along the way. As you are on your journey, you want to surround yourself with inspiring resources. The more your environment represents the man you want to become, the faster you will transition to being him.
Check out a book on Amazon called, “The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem.” This book will provide you with a very simple exercise that you can do on a daily basis at home. he more you can focus on accepting yourself and building your self-confidence, the more attractive you’re going to be to women, and the less you’re going to be looking towards women for approval. It’s almost ironic, that the less you need women, the more want you.
Read the Vin Dicarlo blog too. I write about all the topics that are important to men these days from sex, dating, to self-confidence.
Then take daily action…
Reading won’t make you more confident though.
In fact, if you are only reading, then you are doing yourself a disservice. You will have so many ideas floating around in your head that it is easy to get overwhelmed and not take any action. Taking action is the best way to learn. Every day you should be taking some sort of action towards your goals. You want to go up and talk to a woman today. Go buy an outfit that is perfect for you. Email 25 girls on an online dating service.
Heck, if you are in a cafe, go talk to a girl right now… seriously. If you are serious, then stop reading this and go ask a girl to watch your laptop for you as you go outside for a quick phone call. Or go ask her about the coffee drink she has… is it good? Heck, ask her anything.
The point is not that you get results right away. You just want to get in the habit of taking action. If you do this then the results will come and they will start to flow naturally after awhile. You will have developed a habit of being social and meeting women.
Do you have questions about building your confidence? Ask in the comments below and I’ll answer each one personally.
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