While it might not seem that way right now, coping with a breakup is actually an incredible opportunity to reevaluate who we are, and where we’re going with our lives.
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When a girl has become a part of our lives, suddenly being left without her feels almost like a chunk of ourselves is missing.
It’s very difficult to just get over a break up and get over a girl, especially when you’ve spent so many beautiful moments with each other. I’ve been in this situation myself, and I know exactly how it feels — it sucks! You are lonely, you can’t stop thinking about her, you feel sorry for yourself, and you feel angry at the world.
Hopefully, by the time you’re done, you’re going to feel like there are plenty of amazing women worth meeting out there, you’ll feel sorry for her that you broke up, because she’s the one missing the opportunity to spend time with an amazing guy like yourself, and you’ll be grateful to the world for granting you this opportunity to make yourself a better man.
Step 1 – Break off all contact.
The first step in really getting over a breakup is to completely cease all forms of contact with your ex. That means:
- Delete & block her on Facebook.
- Remove her from your phone’s address book.
- Stop attending any events she might be at.
Not only will seeing her name and communicating with her never let you fully heal, but removing her from social media sites and deleting her from your address book is a great metaphor for removing her from your life.
Only later, after you’ve completed the 4th step (recovery), should you consider coming back into contact with her.
Step 2 – Accept the reality of it all, and then let go.
It’s important to realize that right now, you can’t do anything about what’s happened. You need to accept the reality, and accept what has happened. Try to view the breakup in a positive way, and learn from it.
Don’t hold on to emotions of bitterness and regret, rather think about ways that you can improve your life and make yourself feel better. It’s too easy to feel sorry for yourself and do nothing — you’re better than that! So what can you do about it?
Step 3 – Distraction.
But not the alcohol kind. Healthy, fulfilling distractions are the key here.
The best thing I found for myself after my breakup was to get out of my mind and into my body. I began doing a range of physical activities, from Yoga and Pilates, to resistance training and swimming. All of these activities not only got my mind far away from my ex, but they released all sorts of chemicals in my brain and body that made me feel fit, healthy, and confident again. In a sense, physical exercise was my path out of this hole that I had I dug myself into.
Pretty much anything that you can get behind and that you feel passionately about will do. It’s even better if you don’t know exactly what it is that you’re passionate about yet, because that’s when things get more interesting since now it’s a challenge: now you have to find something. Just whatever you do, don’t stay sedentary!
Step 4 – Recovery and dating.
In the end, getting through a breakup requires you to meet new women. And with the hole in your life filled with things that won’t break up with or run away from you (hobbies and passions), you can approach dating without the neediness, which is really the best way to meet high quality women.
I take it that you are not feeling too good at this moment, so if you really want to get over your breakup and start feeling good for yourself, listen to this advice, get out of your house, do stuff which makes you happy and gives you fulfillment, and meet new women.
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Pandora’s Box is where your search ends, and your new life begins. Are you ready?
