Not all of us have a lot of money to spend. Whether you’re a student, between jobs, or just in a rough patch – that’s no reason to give up on dating.
Rule #1 – Avoid cover charges.
You do not need a lot of money to find or date women, but that means being smart and thinking a little outside the box.
First of all, when I go out and I’m on a budget, I avoid places that have cover charges. Lots of clubs and other places will charge you just for the right to walk in. Most of the time, what you get in places like that are women who expect you to spend a lot of money on them.
So instead I will go to places where I can get in for free. That’s the first way you can save money.
Rule #2 – Don’t drink alcohol.
Alcohol becomes absurdly expensive at some night clubs and other venues, so the easiest thing is to simply not drink! If you require alcohol to drum up the confidence to approach women, then you’re doing something wrong. Alcohol usually makes guys act like jerks.
If you want the confidence to approach women out of the blue, do it the proper way.
That means building a core confidence that doesn’t require a certain alcohol blood level just to talk to another human being. I know that a lot of guys out there suffer from social anxiety, but trust me that alcohol won’t solve your problems!
Here’s the great thing: a lot of girls find it especially weird that I’m not drinking. Either you can use that to set yourself apart and as a conversation starter, or, if you want to pretend that you’re drinking, just ask for a lemonade in a small glass, so that it kind of looks like you’re drinking some spirits.
Lemonade is very cheap to buy, and giving you the illusion that you’re drinking alcohol can be pretty helpful, since some people seem to get quite uncomfortable when they’re drinking and you’re not.
And you know what?
It doesn’t cost anything to go out during a lunch time break and talk to girls on the street.
It’s certainly free, and you don’t have to pay to talk to a girl. Assuming that she’s just a girl on the street, doing shopping or on her own lunch break, you can go and talk to her and it’s completely free. Who said you needed to go to fancy and expensive night clubs just to meet women?
Rule #3 – You don’t need to buy her drinks either!
We live in a pretty liberalized society, where women have all the same opportunities as men. This isn’t the 19th century anymore. Most women have jobs, and are quite capable of buying themselves their own drinks. There’s no need for you to buy them for her, and what kind of message does that send?
Personally I think that any girl who won’t talk to you because you didn’t buy her a drink, isn’t worth talking to anyway! Girls are just human beings – there’s no reason for there to be a price of admission just to talk to her.
And if you’re trying to impress her with the size of your wallet, then you’re just setting up a bad precedent. Try to impress her with who you are as a human being, not with how much money you can spend on her.
Rule #4 – Abandon the classical date paradigm.
If your conception of a date is going to a movie, or a dinner, then it’s not surprising you might think dating with no money is impossible, but dates can be so much more than that!
If I want to save money, I could always go for a walking date. Being on a walk with a girl can be very romantic. How much more romantic is enjoying your surroundings and having fun with a beautiful girl outside, than being cooped up in some stuffy movie theatre. Plus, it doesn’t cost anything. Just go and walk , enjoy your surroundings, be creative about it.
Even a picnic date can be pretty cheap, since you can cook your own food, or just bring some snacks, and a couple of blankets. Not only are you saving money, but so few guys think outside the box (and many businesses are based on your belief that you can’t date with no money), that you’ll really be showing yourself as someone unique.
Take her to a romantic spot from which to view your city, or just watch the sunset. Something like that is free, romantic, and it’s probably something that she hasn’t done before. She’s probably so used to going to bars and drinking with guys, or going to dinner, that you’re going to really stand out.
Another cheap date idea is to make dinner for her. Ask her to come around, and cook for her. You can certainly make a very nice meal for a small price. You could even make it more interesting and cook together – that’s definitely a great bonding experience.
Playing a sport together also works. You can grab a basketball, go to a basketball court and just have some fun together. That won’t cost you anything. Go out and play some tennis. It might cost you a little bit to play, but if you get your own racket, it’s not that expensive. These are just a few of the things you can do if you’re on a budget, and I’m sure you can think of more ideas!
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