Finding a soul mate
If a guy approaches you with the specific goal in mind of finding a soul mate, do you as a dating coach take him on and if so how does your advice differ from what you might give to someone who just wants to add some notches to their belt?
One of the important things for a guy who’s actually looking to find a soul mate to know, is that the coaching he is going to get is a little bit more limited. If a guy just wants to have sexual experiences, there are certain dating coaches that can help him do that. However, I do not think that these coaches are as successful as natural game coaches.
They can teach a guy a number of routines like body language and how to start a conversation with a woman. This for a lot of guys is something they have never done before, so it is going to be a step in the right direction.
The dating coach can give you a little bit of placebo confidence on how you might be able to approach a girl and get her number. However, if you are actually looking to find a soul mate or get into a long term relationship, it’s really important that you do things the right way from the start. There is nothing worse than attracting a girl through a bunch of routines and then organizing a second date and realizing that she does not actually like you.
If your goal is to find a soul mate, you have to really work on building a solid foundation right from the start. A solid foundation is built around a few different pillars. There are four pillars that are critical to becoming an attractive man on the inside and out.
Pillar number one is how you can become more physically attractive.
I have a belief that any man no matter how hideously ugly he is, no matter how little attention he has received from women in the past, if he works on becoming fitter, going to the gym and upgrading his wardrobe, he can make himself an eight out of ten. That is enough for a guy to be able to play in the realm of models.
Pillar number two is to improve your conversational skills.
You want to have the ability to talk comfortably to girls without actually getting stuck in your own head.
Pillar number three is being calmer and developing a more relaxed poised nature.
One of the most attractive skills that a guy can develop when he is talking to women is to be completely still. This starts with your body language. Ultimately, your body language is a reflection of what’s going on inside your head. So if you are stressed about approaching women, you will be a little jittery and this will come across in your body language. However, if a guy is quite still and comfortable inside, he’ll represent this through still body language. You can work backwards with this but ultimately you want to work on becoming more still internally.
The fourth pillar is being comfortable with escalation.
Escalation is anything that moves interaction in a sexual direction. It can be touch, it can be verbal or it can be the way you look at a girl. By being nonverbal can also allow you to move the interaction with a woman in a more sexual direction.
If you can focus on these four pillars that will be a great starting point for putting you in a place so that when your soul mate comes along, you are not going to allow her slip through your fingers.