Are you looking for a soulmate? Do you want to know what you can do, starting today, to find her?
What do you think? What strategies have you tried to meet your soulmate? What worked and didn’t work for you? Share your experiences in the comments box below.
Step #1 – Visualize your future!
Without a doubt, the first step ought to be working out what the ideal version of you looks like. So when you picture yourself two years down the road, assuming you’ve had access to unlimited resources, great dating coaches, and great mentors, what does the ten out of ten version of you look like?
We can make this exercise a little easier by doing something called ‘pumping your vision’. What you do first is you ask what the 7 out of 10 version of you is, and once you’ve got that in your mind, compared to that, what would the ten out of ten version look like?
The best way to accomplish change is to visualize it beforehand. Close your eyes and imagine yourself two years from now, having done a lot of work on yourself – how great can your life be? This process doesn’t just motivate you to work on yourself, it also gives you a really clear indication of where you ought to be headed. Having a visual goal in your mind makes it easier to measure your progress as well.
Step #2 – Imagine what your soulmate looks like.
You want to be as clear as possible. What does that person look like, what does she like, what are her interests supposed to be? If you can define who she is before you’ve met her, you have a better chance of looking in the right place. For example, if your dream soulmate loves skydiving, it makes a lot of sense to start meeting girls at various skydiving clubs.
Identifying her lifestyle is crucial not just to know where to find her, but also to have a checklist to match her up against. That way, you won’t fall for every girl who shows you some attention, or compromise on what you want out of a relationship. By having a predetermined list of qualities, personality traits, and interests that your future soulmate has, you greatly improve the selection process.
When you acquire greater clarity in this area, it’s going to make it that much easier to be able to spot that girl when you see her out at a night club, or on a street, or while meeting her through your social circle.
Step #3 – Start moving towards your vision.
Having a vision is great, and it can be really compelling and motivating in getting you to take action, but if you don’t follow that up consistently, working on yourself every day, then you’re not going to get very far. The key to motivation is vision plus action, so you need to start moving yourself towards that life the moment you finish reading this article.
You might become a top 10 most inspirational guy in the world, but have you for a vision for your life? Are you different to the regular guy?
I had a guy once come to me for coaching and he wanted to master approaching women and picking up ‘models’. He worked in a factory and had no lifestyle to speak of. Unfortunately he was resistent to working on the rest of his life, he was obsessed with mastering “game”. I told him very honesty that his chances of success were very low unless he changed his approach.
Remember how I said that finding a soulmate is worth the end result? Well it’s not just about that – it’s the journey, too. Even if you don’t meet your soulmate, you’ll still be improving yourself and making your life a lot more interesting in the process.
That’s the great thing about self-improvement – it’s advantageous regardless of the immediate results!
Step #4 – Take risks.
Say yes to everything. When someone invites you along to an activity, just say yes to it, even if you’re not sure you’ll enjoy it, or be comfortable doing it. By saying yes, you prove to your friends that you’re willing to try out new things, and be adventurous.
Suddenly you’ll start getting invites to parties, to festivals, and if you become a Yes Man and just say yes to all of these new experiences, you’ll surprise yourself by out of the blue meeting a girl who starts to fit the description. In line with this taking risks step it’s really important that you push yourself out of your comfort zone, since that’s the key to meeting a soul mate. As they say, big risks equal big rewards.
Step #5 – Get the proper guidance.
Now I mentioned before how important self-improvement was, and in order to both achieve a ten out of ten version of yourself, and know how to approach and interact with any woman you meet, you really should be learning as many pickup skills as possible.
And that means using all of the many resources available to you. You can start by reading the articles on this website, but if you want to get really serious, you’re going to want to have a look at Pandora’s Box, which takes a very scientific and well-tested approach to the dating game. There is short video that will give you all the information you need. Free.